I'm so stupid...

[Rhio92]

So anyone who read my last post (can't remember what it's called ) will know I have a DICK of a FOB
So anyways, about 2 weeks before I had my gorgeous Connor, FOB came back, said he was all sorry and stuff, bought loads of stuff for Baby, and gave me £50 to make up for all the stuff I had to buy myself (me being a full time student and not earning). He told me he loved me, and really wanted to make it work as a family. I believed him, and let him be at the birth instead of my Mum Bigggg mistake. When Connor was a day old, he gave me my old ring back and said we should be a family and I should be his girl again, I said yes...
At the birth, he wasn't supportive, just sat texting his Mum and moaning about being bored on Facebook, so I should have been warned. I even remember crying for my Mum vaguely. In the days after Connor's birth, he became really critical, nothing I did was right, he even called me pathetic because I struggled to start BFeeding. I stupidly put up with all this... And let him stay at mine for a few days. By the time Connor was 6 days old, FOB had already gone out and get wrecked
On Monday, I registered Connor's birth, and put FOB on it... Big big big mistake. Now he has rights. Yet the 'novelty' of having a son is already wearing off for him, he's already started making excuses not to see him! He's bloody 12 days old FGS, and I've been out of hospital 8 days... Also, he's finished with me again, but I already had that thought in the back of my mind anway, so not really a shock tbh.
Anyway, this is rather pointless, but I AM SO STUPID I ignored all the advice given on here My Dad said to not put him on the BC, but let him know he's got a chance, and up to a year to prove himself, then he can go on it. But I ignored that too, the moment FOB came back, I melted right into his hand
And the f*****g twat also won't pay maintenance But I'll get CSA on that one.
Not really asking for advice, just needed to rant, even though everything is my fault now. I really hope there is something I can do so Connor doesn't grow up with a dead beat, inconsistent Dad.

 

[laura1991]

Hun I didnt exactly the same thing and I regret it so much! FOB is always pushing for more because he has rights, I feel intimadated but if he ask for things you dont feel comfortable with then tell him to get a solicitor, he probly wont want that xxx

 

[shyfox1988]

awww huni you are not stupid and its not ur fault, we all melt and give in to our babies dads at one point or another no matter how bad they've treated us, we are only human and we have feelings we cant control how we feel and having a baby is a big thing between 2 people we all dream of the perfect family life and would do anything to have that so please dont blame ur self for that, just concerntrate on your lo and ur self, fob sounds like a total twit that dont deserve you and your lo, im always here if you wanna chat to someone your always welcome to privet message me, xXx

 

[Dopeyjopey]

I'm the same hun. We can learn from it though and make sure that we get someone who deserves us and our babies in the future

 

[chels24uk]

Hun dont blame yourself. When your in love, or scared of being alone or whatever, we believe anything. When i split from my ex after 6 years and a 5 year old together, a few months later I believed everything "i wanna try again" "i want my family back" "i'll move home within a month or 2" "i've changed" (even though hes the one who made me split with him!!) so i took him back. 5 weeks down the line, i find im pregnant and everything went downhill. 3 weeks later we split. Still hard for me but is for the best. Now the twat is moving up scotland, leaving me with zero support with this pregnancy as i know no-one around here and with a 5 year old to. Men can just be selfish pigs! But we live and learn. You have your gorgeous baby... sometimes i think thats the only good thing we get out of men! but chin up! we're all here for you x