I'm so worried and a bit neurotic?

[4angels]

Hi all, I recently posted on here about being pregnant after 3 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy. I have a beautiful daughter and am almost 13 weeks pregnant but I am ill with worry. We've had two scans, one at 7 and one at 10 weeks and baba was fine with good heartbeat. I have my dating scan on Tuesday but have been worried sick. I don't "feel" pregnant, my symptoms are subsiding except for severe dizziness today and I just have this constant feeling of dread, so much so it keeps me awake at night. I've started to panic about missed miscarriage. I just am beside myself with worry! Sorry for the novel, just looking for a bit of reassurance or to know I'm not the only one feeling like this. Thanks xx

 

[Kazy]

Hi there. So sorry for your losses. It's really normal to lose symptoms later in first trimester. So 13 weeks is when you should be feeling better. With my daughter my symptoms went away 9-10 weeks. Seeing the heartbeat drastically decreases the risk of mc too. Feelings like this are completely normal and may last for awhile.
Sending lists of hugs! Welcome to your 2nd trimester.

 

[4angels]

Thank you so much for replying Kazy. My partner is going crazy with me, keeps talking me he thinks everything will be fine! Easy for him to say but it's my body that's failed me on 4 separate occasions! Can't wait for Tuesday to come! Thanks again xx

 

[Kazy]

My husband does the same thing. I have my first scan on Wednesday this week and he doesn't have a care in the world. I guess it's better than us both panicking! Hope all goes well for you.

 

[4angels]

Think they just remain calm on the surface so we don't worry even more! Well, tomorrow is out big day and my nerves have kicked in big time already! Hope everything goes well for you on Wednesday. I'll be thinking of you! xx

 

[barbikins]

I am 25 weeks along now & while I feel more confident b/c I can feel baby kicking, I still have concerns every few days. I'm paranoid. It's completely normal after any traumatic experience through pregnancy.
I was very nervous & afraid for a looooong time - first trimester was horrible. I thought I was going to loose this baby every single day. And then I had a blood clot & so I bled on/off - and that was just the worst. The first time I saw blood my heart sank so hard & I thought 'this is over'.
It's really a difficult period & you're not alone. You just have to keep faith alive that all will be well. And take some comfort in MC statistics.

 

[Kazy]

Thanks for sharing barbikins. It's nice to know I'm not alone too. This first trimester is difficult.
Let us know how it goes angel!

 

[barbikins]

All the best, Kazy!

 

[4angels]

Hi, thanks for your reply barbikins. It is so worrying and people just don't seem to understand how worried we are! Well, just back from hospital and everything went fantastic! Baby is measuring spot on (13+1) and we are due on or around 30th March! After thinking this would never happen again for us, we finally have some good news! Sending love to you both xx

 

[4angels]

This is our wee bubs at 13+1. Feeling very lucky today xx

 

[barbikins]

4-Angels, wonderful!!!

Your due date is near my birthday - I was born March 28
And you'll worry for ever - just different worries - but omg even though I can feel this LO I still worry every ultrasound & hope there's a heart beating & everything looks normal. It's totally expected. And now, some days baby's quieter and not bumping around as much & I start to panic. Just par for the course after a loss.

 

[kerri28]

I'm so worried I keep trying to forget I'm pregnant. I've never had an early loss, only a late stillbirth and I'm terrified of i happening again after looking forward to a healthy baby again, so why get attached again? Ugh I'm told these worries don't go away so I have to figure out how to handle them.

 

[barbikins]

Kerri, it's very normal to be detached from your pregnancy & you may very well feel that way. You will be high risk & get extra appointments right?
I didn't have a stillbirth but an early baby who didn't survive so I understand the fear. I'm always in fear that I'm going to go into labor early again - no matter how much of 'fluke' or how low statistically it is for it to happen again. BUT having my bi-weekly OB and ultrasound appointments help me tremendously to feel more confident.

 

[Kazy]

Praying for peace ladies.
One day at a time.
Just for encouragement.... My mother in law lost her first baby less than 24 hours after he was born. His lung collapsed and no one knows why. She went on to have 4 additional healthy pregnancies.
Time doesn't necessarily heal wounds like that but it is needed to heal them.