babe2ooo
mum to Jack
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everyone is going to hate me for saying this but this is how i feel, i hate my oh son touching my baby i know it sounds bad but some of it i cant explain,
i'm fine with anyone else touching him but the thing is callum is 7 and hes not a very good child, he never does what he is told and hes a very dirty child he never washes his hands after going to the loo and he has a toilet problem which i cant really go into but he has alot of accidents which mean hes sometimes smells alot and when my oh has said to him he smells he has tryed to blame it on jack cause hes feels silly,
i know this is sounding bad but i've had to be a step mum to him since i was 18 and i wasnt ready for that i'm still not ready for it, i've had jack cause i'm ready for him but callum wasnt my choise, i really wanna be with my oh but i'm finding it hard, i look after callum everyday after school cause he lives which us but i dont know how to talk to my oh about this??
callums mum isnt around anymore she passed away about 4/5yrs ago which is sad but since then he has been really naughty but no one seems to get that he might need help,
i dont want to stop him playing with jack but i dont want dirty children round my child or children that wont listen to me cause i feel like i cant trust him with my baby,
callum sees his nan alot who was him mums mum and she alway underminds everything we do and she spoils him so much that we cant controll him sometimes and he breaks all this toy even a DS we bought him for over £100
i dont want jack seeing what callum does cause jack is such a good boy, callum has little tantrums and i dont want jack thinking he can do that,
also callum acts like a baby all the time cause when hes at his nans he crys and she give him what he wants, the problem is i wasnt there to bring callum up so he has so many bad habit and i dont know how to get him out of them, i'm so worry jack is going to turn out like this and i would be heart broken if he did,
i've talked to my mum about it and she says i should talk to oh but he doesnt get it he kind of makes it worse cause he lets callum do what he want and doesnt tell him anything i'm alway the bad guy,
its hard aswell cause jack has a mum and dad but callum doesnt, dont get me wrong i do love callum but hes not my child but i'm alway the one that cant do this or that cause i have callum and i'm alway babysitting for oh sometimes i think the only reason oh is with me is so i can babysit his child,
i was so young when i became his step mum and i dont think i was ready he has so many problem that no one will acknowladge and i cant make them, i'm worry they will just say its all in my head but its not cause my mum see it to
sorry this is so long if u read this thanks i just needed to get it off my chest,
i'm fine with anyone else touching him but the thing is callum is 7 and hes not a very good child, he never does what he is told and hes a very dirty child he never washes his hands after going to the loo and he has a toilet problem which i cant really go into but he has alot of accidents which mean hes sometimes smells alot and when my oh has said to him he smells he has tryed to blame it on jack cause hes feels silly,
i know this is sounding bad but i've had to be a step mum to him since i was 18 and i wasnt ready for that i'm still not ready for it, i've had jack cause i'm ready for him but callum wasnt my choise, i really wanna be with my oh but i'm finding it hard, i look after callum everyday after school cause he lives which us but i dont know how to talk to my oh about this??
callums mum isnt around anymore she passed away about 4/5yrs ago which is sad but since then he has been really naughty but no one seems to get that he might need help,
i dont want to stop him playing with jack but i dont want dirty children round my child or children that wont listen to me cause i feel like i cant trust him with my baby,
callum sees his nan alot who was him mums mum and she alway underminds everything we do and she spoils him so much that we cant controll him sometimes and he breaks all this toy even a DS we bought him for over £100
i dont want jack seeing what callum does cause jack is such a good boy, callum has little tantrums and i dont want jack thinking he can do that,
also callum acts like a baby all the time cause when hes at his nans he crys and she give him what he wants, the problem is i wasnt there to bring callum up so he has so many bad habit and i dont know how to get him out of them, i'm so worry jack is going to turn out like this and i would be heart broken if he did,
i've talked to my mum about it and she says i should talk to oh but he doesnt get it he kind of makes it worse cause he lets callum do what he want and doesnt tell him anything i'm alway the bad guy,
its hard aswell cause jack has a mum and dad but callum doesnt, dont get me wrong i do love callum but hes not my child but i'm alway the one that cant do this or that cause i have callum and i'm alway babysitting for oh sometimes i think the only reason oh is with me is so i can babysit his child,
i was so young when i became his step mum and i dont think i was ready he has so many problem that no one will acknowladge and i cant make them, i'm worry they will just say its all in my head but its not cause my mum see it to
sorry this is so long if u read this thanks i just needed to get it off my chest,