Impending Fertility Clinic Appointment - Need Advice, Please!

[Megg33k]

Hi ladies! I'm active over in TTC, but I thought I'd wander in here tonight since I'm hurling towards a fertility clinic appointment. I need opinions, because I don't feel like I belong in this section or at the fertility clinic. That's why I'm so confused!

In early July, I had a chemical. We were not TTC at the time. It's not that we didn't want to, but I didn't think I was ovulating. I guess I was... obviously!

Originally, my gyn and I decided that I'd take 6 months to lose some weight and then we'd talk about TTC if no by then. When she realized I had a chemical and I was already down 55 lbs since Feb, she gave us the go ahead to start TTC. She wrote me a prescription for Clomid (not that I asked, but I took it) and wished me luck on our first month.

I took 50mg CD3-7. I O'd on CD12 from my left ovary and on CD16 from my right ovary... unlikely, I know... but it's true! I swear!

Anyway, I went to see her a bit over a month later and told her my HPTs were negative. She had already refilled my Clomid about a week earlier, in case AF showed while I was out of town. So, I asked that I get a CD10 (12 seemed late for me) ultrasound and CD21 bloodwork for our 2nd month on the Clomid. She said that if I wanted "monitored that much" then she would refer me to the Sher Institute where "they could monitor [me]." I kind of shrugged it off and she made the referral call. My first appointment is on Sept. 23.

I was looking at their website tonight, and it specifically says that they treat couples who have not conceived after 12 months of unprotected sex with timed intercourse. This is my 2nd cycle, and it probably won't be over by the time I go in on the 23rd. They're going to think I'm crazy for being there after only 2 months... really only 1 month before the appointment was made. But, my gyn doesn't seem interested at all in doing anything for us, and they're probably not going to be very interested in helping either.

I mean, I definitely had issues... I bled for around 2+ years nearly constantly. So, it's not that I'm in perfect condition and would love some minor help... but I don't want them to jump right to IUI or IVF just because my insurance will cover it either. And, I don't want to be completely turned away and be left without any doctor involved. The Clomid is making me O, and it seems strong since I could definitely feel it for the first time ever last month.

So, what do I do? What do I tell them? Any advice is appreciated!

 

[Megg33k]

Anyone?

 

[Blue12]

My thought is no harm in going there. Remember you are in control of what decisions happen.

I know when I went to see the fs for the first time I was exactly worried about what you were worried about - that they were going to rush me into medical decisions. It was actually crazzzzzzzzzzzzyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy opposite. It was a much slower and investigative process. The first appt was to collect a history and decide on appropriate testing. Then lots of testing over a significant time period. Then discuss results and action plan etc. So , I could be wrong - but think of this first appt of just a discussion of history and testing/monitoring.

I know my clinic wouldn't discuss any treatment until they had all the information necessary, and still then it is my decision.

Best wishes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Keep us posted.

 

[Megg33k]

Thank you! That makes me feel better! I would love it if they were like... "Oh, well let's try monitored Clomid cycles for a few more months... then we'll talk about the next step if necessary." I'm going to ask about the possibility. I do believe that the Clomid is helping... and possibly necessary to ensure O. But, if they could monitor me so I'd know when to actually BD instead of just hoping I didn't miss O, I would be very happy... temping and CBFM are great... but nothing compared to an ultrasound!

I will keep you updated! FX'd that I get my this cycle and don't need them after all... but only so much PMA before I have to start thinking about the "What if it's a this cycle?" questions.