In a bit of a pickle ... HELPP!

[LeoTheLion]

Me & LO dad split about 3 months ago, not because we dont love each other but because he wasnt working or helping out and we were arguing all the time.
We get on alot better now we arnt living together but still have the odd argument over money or him not pulling his weight and seeing son as much as he should, we also have the occasional "naughty fun" which has left me in my predicament .. im late by 8 days now i did a test 3 days ago which was negative but scared to do another incase its possitive.
I would LOVE another baby but having a unsecure relationship, struggling money wise, not driving ect and a already 1 year old it all ust seems too much and too scary!!

 

[nolansmom]

I'm in the same position as you only I have a 5 year old. I feel like if I keep this pregnancy my life is going to be miserable - of course not with baby but with financial struggles and an already 5 year old to manage. I keep going back to the reason of giving my son a sibling which is a highly stupid reason to have a baby.. At least you're not alone ..

 

[LeoTheLion]

Thats all its coming down to, i know i would love another baby but worry if i could cope with two (i suppose you just learn to) but im currently not working since about a month ago due to living quite far out/not driving and struggling to find childcare in my area & not being able to rely on FOB ect .. im moving soon closer to civilisation so was hoping to start work again and put lo in nursery 2/3 days a week so as not to rely on anyone. But feel now im going to be judged as a single mum who doesnt work ect ect .. i miss working lol .. whos going to employ a pregnant woman, which means i wont get smp/ma. I know my family will be supportive but will also be disapointed for letting myself get in this situation ..

 

[Becyboo__x]

Im in that situation...
Im a single mum anyway.. My DS's dad left me at 16 weeks and
then didn't see me until DS was 15 month old when he had a DNA
and obviously it was positive.. but he only wanted to see him if he
had a DNA but then he saw him on his 2nd birthday and then
didn't again and hes nearlly 3 so iv brought my son up single
handed with no help from him what so ever .. and it was hard..

Im not pregnant again i was happy with the babys dad but we split up
before i found out i was pregnant.. then i found out i was and it
basically was a huge shock .. but i know i will struggle with financial problems
and im not working also really want to but i can't due to my son i can't find
childcare for him until April next year with nursery.. and this baby is due end
April so i have no chance plus he will only be in nursery 9 til 11 anyway!

its very hard ..

i hope things go the way you want

 

[KayBea]

my saying to myself is:

you have to cope, youve got no choice.
everything works out OK in the end, if its not OK then its not the end!!

yep sounds horrible & im sorry but big

you will be ok!! no one will let you or your little monkeys go homeless/foodless!!
xxxxxxxx

 

[emeraldbaby]

Your children are the biggest blessings you will EVER get, nothing comes close, even when in a difficult situation. As single moms already u have proved yourselves capable and that won't change because you are/maybe adding another baby to the mix...why? Love. These innocent unborn babies will give you far more love and joy than any man and you will no doubt love them just as much back. Give yourself time to adjust before making any decisions. If you really don't think you could manage another child, then perhaps you could still honor their life and consider adoption?
All the best xx

 

[LeoTheLion]

Well still no period and 3 negative test results, but sore boobs ???