In need of advice regarding access!!!

[kayleighia1]

hi,
i was hoping someone could give me some advice on access,
I have recently seperated from my sons father, my son is 22 months old.
It has just been bought to my attention that my exs ex girlfriend is pursuing a case with social workers accusing my sons father of some form of child abuse, i.e locking her son in the cuboard, calling him names, being violent towards him,
Over the past couple of months before me and my ex split i have noticed him loosing his temper with our son, i.e smacking his legs when he is having a tantrum and also putting him in the bathroom with the lights off and closing the door again when he was having a tantrum.
I am worried as he wants regular access to our son and the case is still on going with his exs son so there is no evidence as of yet,
What do i do?
please help

 

[Lu28]

I wouldn't give any unsupervised access until it's all been figured out. To be honest, I'd be surprised if you didn't hear from social services yourself soon to tell you to not let him have your son unsupervised

 

[kayleighia1]

ok thanks, all this is like a living nightmare

 

[angelpkj]

you shouldn't give access till it's all sorted,if their is some truth in what his ex is saying you will never forgive yourself

my ex treated his daughter likeshit and stuff and i refuse to let my son near him in regards to what he's done,his daughters mum knows everrrrythin but she doesn't listen cause i could just be the bitter ex just saying it


but at least i told her how she acts on it is up to her

 

[kayleighia1]

hi, yes thats exactly what he is saying that his ex is twisted and bitter ect, they have been apart now for 3 years , she seems to of moved on ect , the first contact she made over these allergations was maybe over a year ago, he chose to ignore it, now it seems as her son is growing up he is having behavour problems which they are trying to find out if it has anything to do with his childhood (traumatic experience ect)
i am at my wits end, ontop of all this stress i have only just become a single parent sometimes i feel like im going to explode!!!

 

[angelpkj]

my ex told me all sorts about his ex so it painted a very bad picture of her in my mind

was only further down the line with my LO i realise my ex was the problem not his and the stuff he did was true

it tends to be the men saying their ex is bitter
they never ever seem to say oh yeh well she sorta right