KBP
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One year ttc, and husband and I are having a disagreement about how to move forward.
Appointment with fertility specialist last Tuesday. We are unexplained infertile. Normally, the plan would be to do 3 rounds of clomid plus iui's and if they didn't work the next step would be in vitro...
However...
My husband was laid off from a state job a couple months ago and assuming he does not get his job back, we only have that health insurance until August. (It is the Cadillac of health insurance) and covers in vitro 100%. This throws us a curve ball.
Understanding this predicament , the specialist agreed to try in vitro first, and skip the three cycles of clomid plus iui, in order to have it covered by insurance.
I have been through a year of stress, sadness, anxiousness trying to get pregnant. It has been very tough on me. I am in favor of in vitro.
My husband is supportive, but wants it to happen the old fashioned way and in vitro turns him off. All the science that goes into it and the fact that it is not natural is not what he wants.
Believe me, I would have LOVED to just miss a period, take a test and surprise my husband telling him were pregnant. Unfortunately that hasn't happened and I do believe we need some help.
Also, I wouldn't want to jump straight to in vitro either, but let's be honest, it can be an extremely costly expense and the fact that our insurance covers it 100% is definitely a factor.
For my husband it's a pride thing-he wants to do it ourselves without help and I understand that completely. So that makes me shy away, because it's not in his heart of hearts for it to happen with assistance. However, if we keep trying on our own, we may still be in this position in months to come, and then we would be looking at a huge bill for in vitro.
Had anyone else's husband felt this way? Or has anyone else been in this predicament? Share your opinions!
Appointment with fertility specialist last Tuesday. We are unexplained infertile. Normally, the plan would be to do 3 rounds of clomid plus iui's and if they didn't work the next step would be in vitro...
However...
My husband was laid off from a state job a couple months ago and assuming he does not get his job back, we only have that health insurance until August. (It is the Cadillac of health insurance) and covers in vitro 100%. This throws us a curve ball.
Understanding this predicament , the specialist agreed to try in vitro first, and skip the three cycles of clomid plus iui, in order to have it covered by insurance.
I have been through a year of stress, sadness, anxiousness trying to get pregnant. It has been very tough on me. I am in favor of in vitro.
My husband is supportive, but wants it to happen the old fashioned way and in vitro turns him off. All the science that goes into it and the fact that it is not natural is not what he wants.
Believe me, I would have LOVED to just miss a period, take a test and surprise my husband telling him were pregnant. Unfortunately that hasn't happened and I do believe we need some help.
Also, I wouldn't want to jump straight to in vitro either, but let's be honest, it can be an extremely costly expense and the fact that our insurance covers it 100% is definitely a factor.
For my husband it's a pride thing-he wants to do it ourselves without help and I understand that completely. So that makes me shy away, because it's not in his heart of hearts for it to happen with assistance. However, if we keep trying on our own, we may still be in this position in months to come, and then we would be looking at a huge bill for in vitro.
Had anyone else's husband felt this way? Or has anyone else been in this predicament? Share your opinions!