lanaross
Mom to Bella and Greyson
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In the history of motherhood. I just had my son at 35 weeks because I am too dumb to listen to what my high risk doctors were saying.
I was diagnosed with IC my first pregnancy when my cervix started to give in at around 26 weeks. I know many ladies start having it in second trimester, for me it was a little later but very rapidly shortening and funneling. At some point it was 0,7 while on strict bed rest.
This pregnancy my new obgyn checked it at 26 weeks and it was to my surprise a great size and still closed at 3 cm. At 28 weeks I had a repeat visit with my high risk doctor and it shortened to 2.3 and started to funnel. And here it started: the high risk doctor was already concerned, ordered fss test and told me to rest and come back next week to recheck and we'll go from there.
And suddenly I got this completely idiotic and ridiculous know-it-all/been-there-done-that attitude. I decided that the high risk doctor is stressing me out, the tests are unnecessary and I know what I am doing. I might have known what I was doing except for the fact that I wasn't doing it. I felt it was just impossible to rest with a toddler and to make things easier for ME I didn't return to my high risk doctor and just asked to be monitored by my obgyn periodically. Sure enough first day my daughter was out of school I ended up standing and running around all day without a break and it all happened so fast like it usually does with IC: water broke, contractions, had him fast and my little man is now in NICU struggling with feeding, forgetting to breathe, jaundice and I keep thinking just how hard was it exactly for me to just relax for a mere month. Surely nobody would have gotten sick or starved to death if I did..what kind of a person does this knowing in advance all implications.
Just a rant I guess, maybe a warning to listen to your high risk doctors and not to ignore this condition. I knew all my risks and how fast things can progress and I still did what I did.
I was diagnosed with IC my first pregnancy when my cervix started to give in at around 26 weeks. I know many ladies start having it in second trimester, for me it was a little later but very rapidly shortening and funneling. At some point it was 0,7 while on strict bed rest.
This pregnancy my new obgyn checked it at 26 weeks and it was to my surprise a great size and still closed at 3 cm. At 28 weeks I had a repeat visit with my high risk doctor and it shortened to 2.3 and started to funnel. And here it started: the high risk doctor was already concerned, ordered fss test and told me to rest and come back next week to recheck and we'll go from there.
And suddenly I got this completely idiotic and ridiculous know-it-all/been-there-done-that attitude. I decided that the high risk doctor is stressing me out, the tests are unnecessary and I know what I am doing. I might have known what I was doing except for the fact that I wasn't doing it. I felt it was just impossible to rest with a toddler and to make things easier for ME I didn't return to my high risk doctor and just asked to be monitored by my obgyn periodically. Sure enough first day my daughter was out of school I ended up standing and running around all day without a break and it all happened so fast like it usually does with IC: water broke, contractions, had him fast and my little man is now in NICU struggling with feeding, forgetting to breathe, jaundice and I keep thinking just how hard was it exactly for me to just relax for a mere month. Surely nobody would have gotten sick or starved to death if I did..what kind of a person does this knowing in advance all implications.
Just a rant I guess, maybe a warning to listen to your high risk doctors and not to ignore this condition. I knew all my risks and how fast things can progress and I still did what I did.
Don't blame yourself, you have a toddler to look after as well as yourself.... I'm sure your little man will get stronger every day and will be snuggled at home with you and your LO before you know it 
