Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[ShelbyLC]

lch - you are doing the RIGHT THING by turning down your ex. You left him for a reason. Always remember that.

 

[Agiboma]

hi ladies, im sorry i havent posted..
i have to go back and read everything still, but i am okay! lol. LO is still cooking thank god. I lost my internet for days! it was awful.

ive been having a really rough time with FOB.. he just doesnt want to accept that i dont want to get back together. Sometimes i wonder if im doing the right thing. I just think of the type of man he is, and the thought of my son being a witness to it is just not okay with me. FOB is the way he is, because his father is a total ass. He is horrible to his wife and FOB learned from that. He says hes changed but how can i forgive him? How can i trust that he wont ever act that way ever again, especially in front of our child? I have no plans of not letting him see LO etc, i want him to be part of his life.. but when we are together all he does is fight with me.

Well it seems as if you are having secound thoughts and TBH no one can decide what you should or should not do except for you. If you think he has changed and you want to give it another try then you should do it. Think about it and make the decision you think is best for you and your
LO.

 

[lch28]

thanks ladies

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

thanks ladies

Ich. Time will tell. You're pregnant and your number one right now is LO. Wait until he gets here and hormones are clear before you go back. Let Lo keep cooking and fob can wait. He can be a dad without you all being together. Just take care of you right now because no one knows what you need more than you. Stay safe and healthy!

 

[stephb1981]

Thankyou so much for replying. I got all the info i have from google and the doctor told me not very much!As of now im resting as much as i can and i dont feel to bad(fingers crossed) I just cant believe there are so many women that have to go through this before they will do anything about it. What would it take for them to evaluate every women and include a cervical length scan into every ultrasound as it seems more common than they tell us! I hope everyone on here gets their miracle as reading through you have all been through so much xx

 

[baby_maybe]

Interesting question there, but personally I feel that scanning every woman would cause unecessary panic. Some women have short but strong cervixes naturally and these are the sort of ones which could be picked up and then treated without the need for intervention in the first place.

The other problem is that depending on how weak your cervix is, it could shorten anywhere between 12 and 20 weeks (it's most common between 16-18). So for example me, my cervix typically doesn't shorten until around 20 weeks (I'm at the stronger end of the scale), all scans prior to that show a length of around 4cm, so scanning me early I would get missed. It would only work if they were to do a tvu on every single woman, every two weeks until 24 weeks and that is just not a viable thing to do on the nhs. Nice thought though and I am grateful to have been diagnosed after one loss rather than several which is how it used to be and in some situations still is.

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

I think drs should listen to patients more. Before I was diagnosed with IC this pregnancy I had bleeding issues, I was passing tissue, I was passing funky duscharge, and I felt pressure. All my midwife did was order an ultrasound and told me if I miscarry its my body's way of protecting itself. ??????? All that tissue was my mucus plug! If they would have done a tvu then ...12-13 weeks or so maybe my situation wouldn't have been so critical. They don't have to do routine tvu but at least listen to your patients.

 

[baby_maybe]

I agree there prayerful, if youve got symptoms of something not right they should listen and check you out more thouroughly. For me I've never had any symptoms whatsoever of my cervix thinning or dilating, so nothing could have been done for me any sooner than it ever has been iyswim

 

[stephb1981]

It just infuriates me that we have to go through so much before anything is done and it would be nice if they showed us that they are doing more to prevent this sort of thing happening than the wait and see tactic. When i miscarried earlier this year at 17 weeks i had been to the epau at 14 weeks with pain and pressure and all they did was scan to see if the baby was fine. They even discussed an internal scan but the tech said no need. I even told them i had loop treatment done for abnormal cells and they did nothing. In an ideal world women would be scanned more regularly between the 12 and 20 week scan. Especially first timers and women that have had previous surgery or difficult births. I know it wouldnt work for everybody but they would prevent more cases of this happening than they do now. I guess im just still a little angry with the nhs! Sorry ladies if ive opened a can of worms here! xxx

 

[Agiboma]

I also lost a baby @ 20 weeks because of IC and to be honest i agree with you Steph, the pain of loosing that baby was something i did not get over until i had my son and I still think of that baby i lost, which could have been avoided with proper care. IMO it should become standard procedure to measure cervix length. So no one has to go through the pain of losing a baby.

 

[baby_maybe]

To be honest steph, if you had a loop they should have been checking your cervix. I know they do here if you've had previous surgery, so that is negligence on the part of that particular hospital imo

 

[lch28]

thanks ladies

i agree as well regarding proper care.. I lost my daughter last February at 23 weeks, after 2 full weeks of calling the doctors with endless symptoms. Pressure and pain, loss of my mucous plug, lack of movement (if i felt it at all, it was extremely low, and thats bed because she was born breech) i kept asking for an internal check or cervical length check and they said it wasnt necessary, basically made me feel nuts.when i started bleeding, - get this - i call and they say "put your feet up and call if still bleeding in 2 hours" i refused and said i was coming in. Then, i waited for over an hour and a half to be seen, i kept asking the receptionist and she said they were busy! when i finally got seen, the nurse practitioner examines me and just goes "oh my, your 4 cm dilated and the baby is trying to deliver" ..

words can not describe how poorly i think it was handled.. i felt so much guilt for so long for actually listening when they said everything was fine. I should have just gone to the hospital. i am positive it could have been helped if they listened a week prior

needless to say im soo happy i found a good doc

 

[Prayerfulmom2]

thanks ladies

i agree as well regarding proper care.. I lost my daughter last February at 23 weeks, after 2 full weeks of calling the doctors with endless symptoms. Pressure and pain, loss of my mucous plug, lack of movement (if i felt it at all, it was extremely low, and thats bed because she was born breech) i kept asking for an internal check or cervical length check and they said it wasnt necessary, basically made me feel nuts.when i started bleeding, - get this - i call and they say "put your feet up and call if still bleeding in 2 hours" i refused and said i was coming in. Then, i waited for over an hour and a half to be seen, i kept asking the receptionist and she said they were busy! when i finally got seen, the nurse practitioner examines me and just goes "oh my, your 4 cm dilated and the baby is trying to deliver" ..

words can not describe how poorly i think it was handled.. i felt so much guilt for so long for actually listening when they said everything was fine. I should have just gone to the hospital. i am positive it could have been helped if they listened a week prior

needless to say im soo happy i found a good doc

Omg ich, that's so crazy.. So sorry

 

[baby_maybe]

That is crazy, as I said before I'm all for them taking us seriously if we are exhibiting worrying symptoms, but that doesnt occur with everyone. With my loss at 24 weeks I didn't know anything was wrong until I was in full blown labour and I arrived at the hospital already fully dilated, she was born not long after I got there. Of course if I'd had symptoms for a week or more before and they hadn't taken me seriously I would extremely upset too, but in the circumstances I arrived in they really couldn't have done more than they did.

The consultant I saw after that happened was great and decided to give me regular cervical length scans as a precaution because they didn't know what had caused the labour other than I had a big infection. Luckily when he detected thinning and funnelling at 24 weeks (again I had no symptoms beforehand) he was willing to place an emergency suture even though I had bulging membranes by then. His willingness got my dd2 from 24 to 32 weeks and that I believe saved her life I had the same approach with dd3 (different consultant) and had another emergency suture at 20 weeks, which took that pregnanacy to term. This time and last I was lucky enough to finally have a consultant that was willing with my history to place elective sutures both times. I'm glad this is the last time I'm doing this, it really is the most nerve wracking time of my life, but at the same time I'm so greatful to have been given the opportunity through medical intervention to birth 3 healthy babies

I'll get down off my soap box now! Happy new year ladies

 

[lch28]

thanks ladies, baby im so happy that you have 3 beautiful babies + one on the way! it really is amazing what the stitch does. im eternally greatful that there is an option for us IC ladies

 

[Agiboma]

Happy new year to all, If you celebrate it!!!

 

[angel229]

Happy new year ladies x x x x

 

[Twinkle 3]

Ich 28 im so sorry for your loss. i lost my little boy at the beginning of the year and my story is almost identical to yours. i went to the hospital numerous times complaining of pressure, pains, loss of mucus plug, backache and just the feeling my baby would be born soon. i saw lots of consultants and midwives over weeks and none of them helped me. they just told me everythings fine. then i gave birth at 22 weeks.

I truly believe the hospital should have listend and if they did my little boy would be here today x

 

[Twinkle 3]

Also can any one advise me when i need to see my consultant as i am 8 weeks and need a cervical stitch with this pregnancy but i havnt heard anything from a consultant yet. I dont know if i should have already and how long to wait. Im wanting to have the stitch asap xx

 

[lch28]

twinkle im so sorry hun, its awful how the one person who is supposed to listen in these situations doesnt. i had so much anger with them for so long. I let go of it , but i just wish someone would have listened.

are you getting an elective stitch? if so it should be placed between 12 - 14 weeks. mine was put in at 12 weeks