Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Craigswife]

Twinkle, I cant offer any advice, but sympathise with your panic. My little one is kicking low today, it feels odd.
At this point in my last pregnancy they took me into hospital because I was funnelling and shortening, so I feel odd today, not knowing what my cervix is doing because they won't measure it this time because they said they won't need to because I've got a stitch.

I feel like a rubbish mum today, my little boy just wanted mummy to do something with him, he was really bored. So I sat out in the garden while he played, it was actually quite nice in the end as it was really sunny.

I get days where I feel really scared about everything and days where I'm quite positive. Hanging around the house doesn't do me any good at all, it gives me time to worry about things, today's been one of those days.

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thankyou for the reply CW, all I can say is I know I'm a moaner lol but I'm so emotionally exhausted at the minute. I'm terrified of something going wrong. Today has been ok up until I experienced the low baby kicks, I was convinced I was going to just see my baby come out or a gush of water I know it sounds dramatic but I have never experienced kicks like that before, they lasted for about 30mins no matter what position I moved in to try and get him to move.

I am at the point now I am dreading, I am so so grateful to be pregnant and I don't want it to end, it's just scary at this minute in time as I lost my baby at 22wreks last year

I'm like you if I sit around i think too much and find it harder than if my minds busy,

I also feel like a bad mum I totally understand where your coming from. I always look at my daughter when she's asleep at night... I go into her room and kiss her goodnight and I just stand at stare at her feeling guilty as I can't do everything that I want with her at the minute and I know she is also bored, she's very active and needs a lot of stimulation, much like your son I also feel guilty as I havnt been to visit my baby angel at the cemetery in a while as I don't feel up to it. I always visited everyday or atleast a few times a week

This baby is so worth everything I am going through and doing but I just pray that I get a happy outcome I dread each day as I know one day you can be fine and the next things can go drastically wrong.

I hope we each make it to atleast 24weeks and beyond

Fingers crossed for us

I also will stop moaning one day lol

 

[Craigswife]

Don't worry about letting off steam, you need to because it won't do you any good bottling it up. Everyone here is either going through similar or have been through what you're struggling with.
I'm not on official bed rest, but really trying to take it very easy to not put too much pressure on my cervix. Then I know I've done all I can to give my baby the best chance.

Hopefully the next week will pass quickly for you and you can get past 22 wks, next stop 24! Xxxxx

 

[Craigswife]

Also, meant to add that I think I had braxton hicks today? I didn't get them in my last pregnancy, so not sure what they actually feel like??? My tummy felt hard and I sort of felt it tighten over my left side, but it didn't hurt at all, so wondered if it was baby pushing out?? It only lasted a few seconds.

 

[ShelbyLC]

Also, meant to add that I think I had braxton hicks today? I didn't get them in my last pregnancy, so not sure what they actually feel like??? My tummy felt hard and I sort of felt it tighten over my left side, but it didn't hurt at all, so wondered if it was baby pushing out?? It only lasted a few seconds.

Sounds like it could be BH. Nothing to worry about unless you have more than 6 in an hour.

 

[karenh24]

hey Twinkle i can't offer you any advice but just wanted to say im feeling the same as you, your not alone, its good to let off steam like CW said it's not good to bottle things up. x

 

[Twinkle 3]

Thanks CW and Karen, it's nice to know there's always someone to talk to who understands, hope your both ok

CW I am always confused about BHs I always get hard lumps that pop put on my stomach and a tightening feeling, I still don't know if it's my baby or a contraction as my whole stomach dosnt go hard. So quite confusing as I thought with a BH it your whole stomach that goes hard. Shelbys right though I think it's if you have 4-6 in an hour or if they don't stop when you change position or have a glass of water

 

[Mommy's Angel]

Hi ladies,

Your not bad moms. Your still interacting with the kids. It's the QUALITY not quantity remember. CW, that time out in the sun probably meant a lot to him. Take it easy on yourself. It'll get better once the new little one is here. You'll be able to spend more quality time with him.

Twinkle if I remember I had a whole lot of VERY low kicks from my daughter. IC does scare the crap out of us. It's hard not to worry knowing what we know in our heads. I believe that low kicks can be normal though. Lizzie may have more information to offer on that subject.

Just know that while it IS scary it will get better. Once you pass all those milestones and can take a breath it will all seem like you've overcome a HUGE mountain climb.

How is everyone? Not much really going on here. I got the meds I ordered before I knew I was out this month. They'll be fine until the next cycle. It was nice for us all to get out as a family and just enjoy the day even though we got snow. Yesterday it was clear and you could see the grass, today it's loaded with snow. I'm ready for it to be summer! lol

Enjoy the day/evening ladies!

 

[Craigswife]

Thank you ladies
MA, you're right in the fact it's the time you give your children that's important, not the stuff you actually do. Glad you had a nice family day yesterday. I'm also ready for summer, resting laid out in the summer sunshine doesn't sound a bad idea at all!!

Shelby, I've not had any more braxton hicks since?

I just watched a documentary about the NHS and they showed scenes from a neonatal unit, arrghhh!!! If id known I wouldn't have watched it, my husband is having a wobbly moment now, it just brings back so many memories for us.

Karenh, how's things with you?

 

[wunderful78]

Hi guys I've had diahrreoa every morning for the last few days I don't feel unwell but I don't feel myself either , I'm probably going to head up to the hospital again today

Glad everyone is holding the babies in and doing well with the new babies

 

[DAYDAY24]

Spent day at hospital due to high blood pressue now home and have to collect urine for 24hrs how fun lol.Tink congrats on ur lil doll .Hope everyone is doing well.

 

[Hope2302]

@ twinkle, you are doing all you can to keep your baby in and also for your ill girl. Don't feel guilty and remember this board is here for venting and expressing your worries. Even if no oe can help or no replies are given you are able to off load your concerns without keeping it all bottled in.
@ wunderful. I did suffer from diahorrea too at 34/35 weeks but it later went on its own and I still do get the odd bouts. My obgyn said once I don't get any additional symptoms with it then its nothing to worry about. Keep hydrated.
@ Day, I hope it's nothing. Keeping fingers crossed for you.

 

[wunderful78]

I'm having 1 in 10 contractions stitch is still holding so they sent me home praying I don't tear the stitch , babies heart rate is ok accelerating with contractions though to 180ish ;(

 

[ShelbyLC]

wunderful - it's perfectly okay (and normal) for baby's heart rate to accelerate during contractions. It's only cause for concern if their heart rate accelerates and then plummets. While I was in early labor (a week or so before I delivered), Britton's heart rate would be baseline ~150, raise to 200, then drop to 80. They put me on oxygen and made me switch positions when that happened. But your LO obviously isn't doing that, so no worries.

 

[Mommy's Angel]

wunderful - it's perfectly okay (and normal) for baby's heart rate to accelerate during contractions. It's only cause for concern if their heart rate accelerates and then plummets. While I was in early labor (a week or so before I delivered), Britton's heart rate would be baseline ~150, raise to 200, then drop to 80. They put me on oxygen and made me switch positions when that happened. But your LO obviously isn't doing that, so no worries.

Wow! That must have been scary.

Wunderful, Praying that things calm down a bit for you.

 

[ShelbyLC]

MA - what's even worse is for 3 or 4 days before the doctors noticed that, I would point out to the nurses that it was happening and they would say, "no, it's just picking up your heartbeat," Luckily we made it through fine. We did have one time when they all got freaked out and started paperwork for delivery, but everything calmed down and we made it another few days after that.

The last two weeks before the girls were born was just so eventful. Thinking back now, a lot of it is really amusing! It used to bother me that the nurse who picked the short straw had to have me (they all hated me because I knew my rights and would refuse treatment I didn't think was right for me, which made them all mad because "they knew best") but now it just kind of makes me laugh! I was a very difficult patient, I would unhook myself from monitors and drag IVs across the room to use the bathroom even though was forbidden. I can't imagine being a nurse and having a patient like me.

 

[wunderful78]

Lol shelby ... You imperfect patient ... I have done a few refusals myself , one was a electrolyte test after I'd already been on a drip and also drinking fluids when they'd already taken my blood for other things the morning before :/ another was the 50mg gtn patch we compromised to a 25mg strength and even that made me sick :/

My babies head is right down but he's not straight his bum is under my right rib , hope that's ok .. I'm at a point where I am sick if coping with the pain and I can't get a decent nights rest .. I feel selfish at times just wanting to feel myself again

 

[ShelbyLC]

At 28 weeks I went into the hospital with contractions 1-2 minutes apart while taking medication to prevent contractions! Since that medication was a category c drug (possibly dangerous to baby) I stopped taking it and the doctors/nurses got mad. Why would I continue taking something potentially dangerous if it isn't doing its job?


Don't feel bad for wanting to have your body back! By the time I was 28 1/2 weeks, I was begging the doctors to deliver me. I was contracting all the time and I had extra fluid, not to mention 2 babies! I was SO done! Even with the healing c-section and having to wake every 3 hours to pump, the second night after the girls were born was BLISS. (The first night I was so drugged, it doesn't count )

 

[Mommy's Angel]

MA - what's even worse is for 3 or 4 days before the doctors noticed that, I would point out to the nurses that it was happening and they would say, "no, it's just picking up your heartbeat," Luckily we made it through fine. We did have one time when they all got freaked out and started paperwork for delivery, but everything calmed down and we made it another few days after that.

The last two weeks before the girls were born was just so eventful. Thinking back now, a lot of it is really amusing! It used to bother me that the nurse who picked the short straw had to have me (they all hated me because I knew my rights and would refuse treatment I didn't think was right for me, which made them all mad because "they knew best") but now it just kind of makes me laugh! I was a very difficult patient, I would unhook myself from monitors and drag IVs across the room to use the bathroom even though was forbidden. I can't imagine being a nurse and having a patient like me.

We could be sisters! I was AWFUL too. I was only carrying one and there was one Dr. and a Midwife I wouldn't even let in the door. I made it known I lost my baby partly to their stupidity so they for the sake of their health and well-being they may not want to see me face to face again. Funny thing is that idiot took a chance while my original Dr. was away and told me I didn't have IC. I spent an hour arguing with him while we could hear the nurses tear me apart because they thought I was clueless. I went for my second opinion and had no clue even though we traveled the two hours that the Dr.'s we used for the second opinion went to school with the idiot Dr. They read word for word everything HE said was wrong...PTL I didn't have IC, etc. etc etc.

I went BACK to the office and told my Dr. I DEMANDED to be monitored. Luckily she took my word and went against the idiot Dr. who was co-owner of the practice and had seniority over her. By wk 19 I had IC and she had to come back in and tell me I DID in fact have IC and we needed the stitch right away or I'd lose my little girl the same time we lost our little boy. DUH

From that moment on I refused certain treatments, if nurses were acting smart, I'd kick them out and ask for a new one. The Idiot Dr., I started calling him openly Idiot Dr. and to much of the nurses dismay, they went along with it. When my Dr. was out again, I got the funny Dr. who was head of the hospital Labor and Delivery. That was a big deal since nobody ever really questioned anything and he RARELY performed treatment on anyone but kept teaching residents and students.

At the hospital upon Delivering her, I had an evening nurse and overnight nurse I kicked out. 1. because she kept barging in leaving the door open and then out of nowhere threw a cold compress on my daughter to stun her into breastfeeding without warning and without MY permission. 2. The overnight idiot decided she wanted to teach us how to bathe our baby at 2am and have us call in the test for shaken baby syndrome, etc. By the next day I had all of NICU downstairs with our daughter, I had the two head nurses for each floor and I had our bags packed and outa there.

When I get pregnant again, I'm guessing I'll have a rap sheet with PITA stamped on it both at the Perinatal Center AND at the hospital. They know better than to mess with me and when it comes to research and my body as well as the life of my baby...I have no problem advocating for our lives. I DO try to be civil but if it comes between the health and wellbeing of myself and my baby.....and nobody is willing to listen, all niceness is out the door!

Wunderful.....Your almost there dear friend. Keep pushing through it. It WILL get better. Wait until that sweet baby of yours is finally in your arms. It will ALL be worth it!

 

[karenh24]

Thank you ladies
MA, you're right in the fact it's the time you give your children that's important, not the stuff you actually do. Glad you had a nice family day yesterday. I'm also ready for summer, resting laid out in the summer sunshine doesn't sound a bad idea at all!!

Shelby, I've not had any more braxton hicks since?

I just watched a documentary about the NHS and they showed scenes from a neonatal unit, arrghhh!!! If id known I wouldn't have watched it, my husband is having a wobbly moment now, it just brings back so many memories for us.

Karenh, how's things with you?

Hey im just taking things easy i went out for a bit of fresh air and a walk yesterday, but it wasn't long my back was in so much pain.i have my next scan on Tuesday so just counting down the days hopefully no more shortening.
I trained myself to sleep on my side yet now every time i wake up im on my back!!
i've got a small bag packed in case i need to go in to hospital for the stitch but apart from that im just holding out hope that everything will be ok, alot calmer then i was last week i was in a frantic panic
Hope everyone else is doing well x