Incompetent Cervix - stitch/cerclage - threatened labour

[Pink_Sparkle]

Hopefully we will reach vday and we can relax a little

Amen to that! xx

 

[jadey_fae]

I have the same problem. I am also too scared to poo

 

[baby_maybe]

I've had four sutures now and I was scared to poo with all of them! lol

For the new ladies, welcome :wave: I'm a bit if a lurker here at the moment due to having another newborn again, but if you want to ask me anything directly feel free to send me a message in case I don't see it on here

And for anyone wondering about getting a suture or asking for one, I'm 100% sure that I have my 4 healthy children at home because of having them placed. To me at least, they are a real life saver.

 

[TLM21]

hello
pink and jadey constipation is quite common, probably in every pregnancy, for us not moving much and the increase in iron with pre natal vitamins will not help.
I still don't like having a bowel movement, but I do take a stool softener and just wait until I'm absolutely ready to go. I asked my Dr and he recommended one called miralax, which I don't know if it's available everywhere, but if not that one the Dr can sure recommend one. I am able to go daily, tmi sorry.
the Dr did say to try not to push if possible. keep hydrated, that helps and.eat fiber containing foods.
good luck ladies and welcome

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

I can happily update that ive just had a bowel movement and I didnt strain lol....I think the thing that is helping for me just now is LOTS of water...Ive drank about 2 litres so far today. I noticed unusually while in hospital I was passing bowel movements ok, Ive put it down to drinking loads of water while on bed rest as it was quite a warm and dry environment. xx

 

[jadey_fae]

Hi baby_maybe - I may well have to ask u lots of questions about this stitch!
TLM21 I have been constipated this whole pregnancy. Nightmare!
Yey happy for u pink_sparkle

 

[jadey_fae]

Congrats on your new born

 

[wunderful78]

Thanks everyone for your kind words , I guess labour scares everyone regardless if you've done it before ... Ill try to relax about the stitch removal

Pink sparkle the fact that you are dilated makes it important you try to Lay flat , legs elevated keep that pressure off your cervix , also infection is a greater risk because you are dilated but not as bad as someone who has prom'd ! Thankfully you have the stitch that will keep things closed and progesterone I think is magic stuff ! The next month is going to be very hard for both you and your partner with worry it may be hard but the less pressure you put on the cervix the best you can do there are ladies who have had bulging bag no stitch that have made it and even broken waters so don't lose hope

Hi jadey , they usually don't call IC unless your CL is less than 2.5cm or had 2 prior losses that's in Australia .. Mine was 3cm at 20 weeks a week later it was 2.5 so I got the stitch , I'd only had a 39 weeker so I really had to advocate this pregnancy :/ I switched drs at the stitch point as I felt I wasn't listened to ! You know what it's not them or their baby and my dr now is caring but others I've seen don't seem to get how it's your baby your oxygen something you really need not just want .. It's part of you and it's just a fetus viable or fetus not viable to them :/ I guess it's how they stay strong who knows :/

Push for a stitch , if your length is bad next week huh

 

[wunderful78]

30 weeker I meant

 

[jadey_fae]

Morning ladies. Grrrrrr having a bad morning. It seems to be one of those days I am more worried and anxious about IC.
One of my closest friends (who also happens to be a midwife) has just really upset me - though I am more than likely being over sensitive.
I explained to her my fears and about the length I had already lost and she said , if they were worried they would be doing something about it. I told her about their sit back and watch approach and she just told me to stop worrying bcos I would be doing the baby harm with those feelings. Thats just added to my guilt and made me feel 10 times worse. Sorry needed to vent. Rant over.......
How are u all this morning? Monroe, how are u feeling?

 

[Twinkle 3]

Jadey I think sometimes the people closest to us dont like to see us upset or worried so try to help by putting your mind at ease but they don't always help.
My OH goes with the tough love approach. I had an appointment with my consultants registrar a few weeks back and he was very nasty to me, he basically said if I'm going to lose the baby I'll lose it and they won't help me till 24weeks as I already have a stitch. I was in tears! My OH Just told me to stop crying and being silly as I will be ok.

I have such an amazing midwife so I ring her for a talk when I'm upset and she always makes me feel do much better, your friends right with the stressing and worrying, sometimes it brings on contractions so you have to be relaxed, but trust me I'm never relaxed lol my midwife has tried to get me to listen to relaxtion CDs etc to help when I'm in a panic.

The hospital do take a sit backhand wait approach they don't help you until you have been through the worst which is generally a loss, it's so unfair. Losing a child is the worst thing to go through and all you are doing is being proactive and making sure you won't be going through that, which in my point of view is the right thing to do.

Just have. Look at your next scan and see the length, rest until then and also if you do feel any worse like a huge increase of pressure aches then go in to be checked (you will probably get a length scan sooner aswel )

As for myself today, I'm in agony!!! I don't know what to do, I have been suffering with constipation and loaded myself up on prune juice last night. Well all night I can only describe that I have been suffering with trapped wind! My stomachs been bubbling and I have constant backache and belly ache along its the feeling I need the toilet but can't go! This is all so scary as it is the same as labour feelings.... I hate not been able to tell the signs of what I should be worried about. I don't want to ring and go to hospital just because I can't poo! But I don't want to sit at home and think oh I'm just constipated and that not be right

 

[Twinkle 3]

Ladies its deffinetly constipation im suffering with. i am so uncimofrtable im in agony because i cant go all my back and stomach is killing me and im overly bloated i darnt strain too much as im in my danger week

 

[TLM21]

twinkle ask your midwife for some type of softener you can take to help with that, at least it will make you more regular, so you won't feel the pressure pain.

 

[TLM21]

ok after sleeping great the last two nites, I go back to walking up at 3 am, then at 5am (for me is 5:16 am now). I know the body keeps preparing me for many sleepless nites with the baby, but when I don't sleep it just makes my day drag a little...
sorry just venting sleepy...
anyway hang in there, hope all is well
jadey twinkle is wright, sometimes some people think they are helping, and they just get us upset. they do have the best intentions though. like twinkle said before your scan just drink lots of water and keep pressure from cervix by laying down (I've wanted to hang like a bat to take all the pressure off, but of course is impossible, lol). if you feel added pressure even when laying, have differen pains or TD ave abnormal discharge, listen to your body and if you think you should be seen before then go and get it, checked out.
hugs to everyone, let see if I can get more than 4 hours of sleep...

 

[Craigswife]

Twinkle, it's miserable being constipated, I am a little bit too, but hoping it'll sort itself. I was told fresh orange juice is quite good, might be worth a try? Would the chemist have anything you can take in pregnancy??

 

[wunderful78]

Twinkle , I know exactly how your feeling I had the same ... I used movicol and I drank real lemon squeezed it warm h20 every morning before eating , I tried everything Metamucil, prune juice etc the only thing that helped was movicol at night and lemon juice in the morning ..

Now I'm having the opposite problem .. Sigh go figure

 

[Pink_Sparkle]

Morning girls, hope you all had a peaceful night. Its amazing how laying down all day actually makes you feel tired! I slept like a log last night apart from a couple of loo trips.

I think not being able to poo is the worst and you get gassy - its scary as its very similar to labour cramps. I've got a litre bottle of water next to me and im aiming to drink 2 a day - I did that yesterday and had no problems with trying to poo.

Today im thankful for waking up with my baby still cooking away - 23 days till V-day. Slowly but surely we are getting there, I really really hope things keep going as they are.
I still have a wee wobble now and again where I get really panicky but I just try and relax my breathing and keep saying "Keep calm & Keep cooking" - Ive got all my friends saying it to me too so that helps hehe.

I think this thread is great too, its very helpful and inspiring having you ladies to talk too xx

 

[Craigswife]

Wunderful, sorry you 're at the other end of the spectrum, no fun

I'm still feeling pressure today really low down on my bump and I'm getting the odd shooting pain too. I feel fine otherwise, do not sure if its slight constipation related or something to worry about. I've bern toying with ringing my maternity day assessment unit for advice, but like twinkle don't want to ring only to find out its constipation. I might wait to see if mr poo visits first!

 

[sweetbuthyper]

Hi all, i'm feeling a bit better today bean was quiet yesterday morning which freaked me out a little..

Twinkle, I'm not sure i feel less stressed , however i was less stressed after i got to 24 weeks, i am now stressed as nesting instinct has kicked in and i want everything ready like yesterday, starting to regret waiting it was right at the time to wait to buy and wait to decorate ect but now as i am a 'time bomb' it feels like there is so much to do an possibly so little time, 24 -26 weeks were very calm i must say and its only the pre term labour and having to have my stitch taken out thats has put me in a tizz, i'm sure that for all you girls waiting to hit 24 weeks you will feel so much relief. I feel better with each passing week I'm 28 weeks now and have managed to go 2 weeks so far since the ptl started ( hospital were sure he was coming). I have lots of appointments next week, consultant tuesday not really sure what for now but guess just to catch up and plan rest of care as it's all changed, blood tests and GTT on thursday ( have a feeling i may fail hospital found ketones then when i'd been drip fed saline they found glouse in my urine, both disappeared before we left hospital so will see), and then i have my whooping cough vaccine on friday ( wanted it done asap after hitting 28 weeks just incase he makes an appearence).

Jadey they watched and waited with me and my stitch was placed the following day after my cervix started to funnel, try not to worry to much they will act quickly if they see any funneling and/ or your cervix drops below 2.5 i believe.

Twinkle constipation suck and i have had many a night crying coz i have gas pains but worrying its more, fibergel works well its gross but it works safe in pregnancy and you can pick it up in chemists/supermarkets. Its worth a try if your still suffering.

 

[jadey_fae]

Ive been having shooting pains in my vagina. Is this a normal part of pregnancy?