purpledahlia
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Hey
So my mums doing a post grad in child protection jsut now and came home from a very interesting lecture yesterday.. About birth certificates and the law etc
Basically ladies, if your not with the FOB since the law changed if he is on the BC you are really limiting yourself in so many ways... If you ever wanna emigrate.. he can stop you. Move somewhere fairly far? he can stop you. ANY big/slightly important decision he will have a say and can take it to court, a holiday abroad longer than 2 weeks.. he can stop u from going.. So those of you with really spitefull FOB's.. I'd advise you to think hard.
Im def not putting him on.
And
If you do or dont.. the original BC cant be ammended.. you can apply to the courts to have an ammended BC but its not the original document.. say if you wanted to add him on after a while.. You can but you actually get a 2nd document rather than the 1st one Edited.. still legal etc. And same for removing him, you can apply to the courts to have the 2nd ammended version without him on, but you need his permission and consent and he can fight it.
They can also apply for themselves to have themselves put on but again its just a 2nd document you get not the original BC. But still legal.
Basically all goes down to money.. he wants added on.. he pays.. you wanna remove him or try too.. you pay.. if you apply for a court solicitor if your on benefits or whatever that goes against you.
Please be very carefull just handing over 50% of parental rights to these men.. from what ive read from you all they are all just as bad as each other.. You seriously may regret it, Forget about the BC being blank.. think about how this man could limit you and your childs life in ANY big or important decision. Spitefull men?? they are.
They can even stop you sending your child to a certain school, FOR EXAMPLE, you want to send to a non-religious school but he wants religious.. this could end up in court. Of course it all depends on the type of person he is.. Can he think of babys best interests or will he do things to spitE YOU...
So my mums doing a post grad in child protection jsut now and came home from a very interesting lecture yesterday.. About birth certificates and the law etc
Basically ladies, if your not with the FOB since the law changed if he is on the BC you are really limiting yourself in so many ways... If you ever wanna emigrate.. he can stop you. Move somewhere fairly far? he can stop you. ANY big/slightly important decision he will have a say and can take it to court, a holiday abroad longer than 2 weeks.. he can stop u from going.. So those of you with really spitefull FOB's.. I'd advise you to think hard.
Im def not putting him on.
And
If you do or dont.. the original BC cant be ammended.. you can apply to the courts to have an ammended BC but its not the original document.. say if you wanted to add him on after a while.. You can but you actually get a 2nd document rather than the 1st one Edited.. still legal etc. And same for removing him, you can apply to the courts to have the 2nd ammended version without him on, but you need his permission and consent and he can fight it.
They can also apply for themselves to have themselves put on but again its just a 2nd document you get not the original BC. But still legal.
Basically all goes down to money.. he wants added on.. he pays.. you wanna remove him or try too.. you pay.. if you apply for a court solicitor if your on benefits or whatever that goes against you.
Please be very carefull just handing over 50% of parental rights to these men.. from what ive read from you all they are all just as bad as each other.. You seriously may regret it, Forget about the BC being blank.. think about how this man could limit you and your childs life in ANY big or important decision. Spitefull men?? they are.
They can even stop you sending your child to a certain school, FOR EXAMPLE, you want to send to a non-religious school but he wants religious.. this could end up in court. Of course it all depends on the type of person he is.. Can he think of babys best interests or will he do things to spitE YOU...
x
