insensitive people and tww

[xxdoovde]

Hi ladies,

I was just wondering if any of you had any stories about people been insensitive about your struggles ttc you could share.

Today at work one of my colleges said "you don't want the little brats anyway" she has three children of her own and she doesn't know how lucky she is. I haven't stopped thinking about it all day it really hurt me because all I dream of is to have a baby.

I'm in the tww atm currently on 2/3 dpo and im finding this month really hard especially when people can be so insensitive about it.

 

[Emmi]

I know how you feel - it's all so very hard. I have lost count with the amount of insensitive comments I have heard, it's soul destroying.

Recently after a heartbreaking IVF fail, someone said to me that I will find other rewarding things to fill my life......Errrrr - like what, pottery, knitting - what??? Nothing will fill the void of being a mummy and I wish people would just understand and not pass comment.
The other comment I get a lot of at the mo - is why don't you adopt, like it's easiest thing to do in the world.

People just don't get it - the only people that truly understand are those that know the day-to-day struggle of ttc.

 

[xxdoovde]

I'm sorry to hear about your IVF fail , I can't believe they said that to you! Some people are just so ignorant and insensitive there is no need for it!

I've heard that one a lot too , why don't you adopt? Like you said its not the easiest thing to do it's not easy at all and it takes a long time, they just don't realise how much we want to go through the experience off been pregnant, seeing a BFP, carrying our baby for 9 months ect. A lot of pregnant women take that for granted because they don't realise how lucky they are, some even complain about the pregnancy such as gaining weight and things, but us ladies would be grateful for every bit of weight we put on if we had the chance to be pregnant! It is really heartbreaking.

Good luck in your journey ttc I wish you all the best and im praying we all get that BFP we so much deserve

 

[Emmi]

I just don't know how some people are so insensitive - it's mind boggling! I keep thinking of things to say to people that will shut them up then I think I will just come across as rude.

Yes - I think women that can pregnant at a drop of a hat have no idea how we yearn to experience it. I honestly won't know what to do when/if I ever get a BFP, it all seems like a far off dream at the moment.

But good things happen to good people and I have to believe in that - fingers crossed that our time will come

 

[pink_kitty]

My mom said something a couple days ago that kinda stung. And she is the opposite of insensitive. And she in no way would have meant to hurt my feelings. I don't even think she realized what she said or what it meant to me She is so supportive and loves me to the point of smothering sometimes!! And I simply adore her! But she has had to watch my struggle with infertility and ttc #1. She's been there through the tests and watching all the wonky side effects of the drugs. It hurts her to watch my struggle with this. And just in casual conversation we were talking about someone else's kids and she said "if you have kids...." After the word IF I didn't hear the rest of the sentence. IF. I don't want it to be IF. I want it to be when. I just feel like maybe she is starting to give up. I'm the only child in the family (sister died 11 years ago) and I want my parents to have the joy of grandchildren. And I don't want her saying IF.

I'm the only one allowed to say IF