Intercourse Issues

[WishfulMom]

Hi everyone,

Not sure if it's just me, but I'm really starting to hate having intercourse. It has become so scheduled and so structured that just the thought of doing it turns me off. And of course this is a big problem when trying to conceive! Anyone else feel this way or has suggestions on how to cope? Thanks.

 

[ashknowsbest]

Hi everyone,

Not sure if it's just me, but I'm really starting to hate having intercourse. It has become so scheduled and so structured that just the thought of doing it turns me off. And of course this is a big problem when trying to conceive! Anyone else feel this way or has suggestions on how to cope? Thanks.

I feel the same way! It' like every night my OH gets home, it's ok lets go upstairs and get the business done. I hate it! My only advice is to try and keep it romantic and interesting ...

Sometimes we light candles and he'll have some wine or something or he'll massage me and then it will get me in the mood to have sex. It does get really hard to want to keep it up though so just my best advice is to keep it interesting and different!

 

[Dazed]

Honestly, I think this is the reason why I am not even trying this month. It just gets so mundane. I would honestly rather not try and keep my marriage alive, than kill it with timed sex.

 

[kaye]

yeah i am feeling exactly the same too!

 

[a1b2c3]

I also feel the same. My periods are so irregular we have to bd all the time! At first my loved it, but now even he roles over and says he's tired! Lol.

As a result we bd for the first 3 weeks of this cycle and then thought sod it! If the mood takes us then fine, but otherwise we have both agreed to wait until I start chlomid (just been prescribed provera today, so hopefully af will show soon).

But anyways don't feel bad. Give yourself and your hubby a chance to relax. Bding is hard work! I am sure that once your body realises that you don't 'have' to, it will no doubt start wanting to again.... After all, our bodies are stubborn things!

Good luck x

 

[Naneth.Estel]

We've done a couple of things when it's been getting a bit boring and tiring.

Sometimes we've spiced things up a bit by trying different positions - playing kind of games like not doing the same position twice in a row. Toys and challenges can make things fun - making it all about just one of you rather than focusing on the end result.

If it is all getting to be too much, just take a break from trying for a cycle. Just have sex when you feel like it, go back to it being about being close and fun. Hope you get it back.

 

[Bethy]

I haven't been TTC for long but I feel like I will/we will feel this way at some point. My periods are irregular so we have to BD every day and my sex drive has always been rock bottom anyway, so much so that before TTC we would only have sex once a month or less than that, which OH was fine with although he did get a bit desperate sometimes Sex always seems to be a chore for me.. But at least we are doing it to get something wonderful out of it

 

[Chatnoir]

my sex drive has always been rock bottom anyway, so much so that before TTC we would only have sex once a month or less than that, which OH was fine with although he did get a bit desperate sometimes Sex always seems to be a chore for me.. But at least we are doing it to get something wonderful out of it

Glad im not the only one! i have a low sex drive and find it difficult and more of a chore. We only seem to BD around my O which I am fine with but not so sure about other half!

 

[fisher640]

my sex drive has always been rock bottom anyway, so much so that before TTC we would only have sex once a month or less than that, which OH was fine with although he did get a bit desperate sometimes Sex always seems to be a chore for me.. But at least we are doing it to get something wonderful out of it

Glad im not the only one! i have a low sex drive and find it difficult and more of a chore. We only seem to BD around my O which I am fine with but not so sure about other half!

You're not the only ones, I have a low sex drive as well. I was generally only interested around the time of O even before we started TTC...

 

[mrs c f]

Everydays alot. It won't hurt to BD every other if that helps. They say two to three times a week is supposed to be sufficiant. Im the same once we have been at it for a week (we use a cbfm) then thats me until next time. We do try to have some loving (as we call it) later in the cycle so it doesnt feel like we're just having sex for babies but even thats planned to make it feel like it isnt. Nightmare. Forogot whats its like to just have a good time for us.