Invitation To Birthday Party/rant

[jaytee146]

I know fob has serveral other children and me being me I've searched these women on facebook. Last year I was so torn because I wanted lo to meet and be around her siblings. I also told fob to see if her older brother or siblings could come and play with her. I even told him to invite the mothers as I would love for her to know her other siblings. . . . . . He told me that one mother said that her son was never gonna come, well this year once again I lay up thinking if I should reach out over facebook to her other siblings mothers, just to see for myself if they would want to come and meet or whatever. . . . . . I know he recently had a baby with another young lady and that they are together, this lady has been around my lo, and I try my best not to get upset about that because from what I can understand they are seriously dating, he's told me that she said she doesn't want me to know where they live, but when he comes to get lo which is few and far between he says we went to my home, and played with her younger brother. I find it funny that a grown *** woman would be around and care for my child and not want to meet the mother of the child. FOB is such a lair that who knows what he has told these ladies...

I guess I should let this go, but I just wanna know if the message he is relaying is true or not.. actually I'm not sure if I want fob around this year. since he's had his son he doesn't even come to see lo which is good for me but it also angers me because you can make all these children with all these women and it's nothing for you... you wanna be father of the year and you're not... anyone can put fifty dollars on a support card, but you aren't here for anything... He is such a jerk.. he stopped coming around and popped up saying "o I'm leaving town for 4 months" I just wanna keep her.. he lied about that as he was only gone a week so he claims. after he stopped coming around my lo wasn't able to identify him anymore, so I proposed that he come to the park and we meet up for a little while... the whole time he's saying through calls I just wanna keep her I just wanna spend time with her PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE! after that I said hey come get her and you know what he's only come through once!!!!!! I offer when he calls and he puts it off like well MAYBE or can you bring her to me, I can't come.. mind you I don't know where he lives so he wants me to drop her off at his aunts house and me makes the trip with her to his home that he shares with this lady... Honestly I'm happy his isn't around, he is leaving room for great man to step up and be her father one day, and you know what. that's awesome!!!!!

I'm even considering moving away so I won't have to deal with the drama that comes along with him... he's always making sexual remarks telling me he loves me and it's too much.... I tell him he needs to be respectful to both his partner and mine but he acts like he doesn't care at times.. when he gets around her he makes it seem like I am the one coming on to him. I don't understand what the problem is but I am puzzled.... He is such a JERK!

I know that if these women wanted to find me or reach out the probably would, I guess I should just let this go and stop worrying about her getting to know her siblings, heck I didn't give birth to them, and no need of me being the only adult in this situation... Cause if i do reach out and the women are jerks because of the LIES he's told I wouldn't know how to handle that!

 

[creatingpeace]

Wow what a total douche bag~~~~

Keep on keepin on and let him create his own path.

 

[justhoping]

xome men need to be fixed..seiously..and he still out there making babies with multiple women?? wtf is wrong with this dude..(sorry) but really??

i would want my child to know its siblings..if he doesnt like it he should stop making them..its part of your child and your child will want to know...

myself i would reach out to the other mother....nothing threatening just that you would like your child to know its brother and sister and that its not the kids fault and this way they never will feel its there fault...and hopefully they can grow up with some sort of relationship with there siblings...
as for him....forget him....he is so not worth it...call child support and let them deal with the money....anything else i wouldnt even talk to him if you didnt have too..less stress ....

 

[Dream.dream]

Personally I would leave the meeting the siblings thing up to the child . My sons dad has another child ( only one thankfully) and I intend to not have LO meet him until he's older and asks . To me that's not really his brother anyways , he won't grow up with the other child in the same way so to me that's not the same . Yes biologically they are sibling but not in any other way .

 

[Mummy1995]

I agree with justhoping. I have a half brother and sisterand I don't know what I'd do without them! You could leave it up to them when they're older but then I don't think they could have the same bond as what they'd have if they grew up knowing each other.. I'd go direct to the mothers. Then at least you know for certain and have proof you tried. You never know you could end up good friends as you have something in common x

 

[justhoping]

I agree with justhoping. I have a half brother and sisterand I don't know what I'd do without them! You could leave it up to them when they're older but then I don't think they could have the same bond as what they'd have if they grew up knowing each other.. I'd go direct to the mothers. Then at least you know for certain and have proof you tried. You never know you could end up good friends as you have something in common x

my daughter has two brother and sister from her dad..

im great friends now with both other moms and vice versa...of course he didngt want us to meet or the kids to meet but i pushed it...
so in a way the kids did grow up together even in another country...before the computer was so popular they did letters and pics and my daughgter would wait frantically for those letters and pics and chritmas pressies ..lol

and then once the computer came we got camera and it was if they grew up in the next room together...lol

they all love each other and couldnt think what it wouldn be like without each other and are very glad i PUSHED it...

my daughter has brothers from my last marriage as well and she loves her brothers and sister as much as she loves her brothers she grew up with....and feels very blessed...
thought she did lose a few yrs...she wishes she has not and for that i feel bad i did not reach sooner....
dont let the kids lose these yrs they might have..even if its just letters or pictures sent back and forth its something..

in a way she is mad that her dad wanted to keep them apart they all are...you dont want that in her head.....
there are all sorts of families out there..we call our selves the most unconventional dysfunctional functional family...lol
kim just glad i was able to give this to all them....and they are all glad..

and two brothers and one sister live in scotland and we are in the usa...so its been quit a feet to make this work but i did and my child i think is benefiting for this...

 

[Ceejay123]

I agree with justhoping. I have a half brother and sisterand I don't know what I'd do without them! You could leave it up to them when they're older but then I don't think they could have the same bond as what they'd have if they grew up knowing each other.. I'd go direct to the mothers. Then at least you know for certain and have proof you tried. You never know you could end up good friends as you have something in common x

my daughter has two brother and sister from her dad..

im great friends now with both other moms and vice versa...of course he didngt want us to meet or the kids to meet but i pushed it...
so in a way the kids did grow up together even in another country...before the computer was so popular they did letters and pics and my daughgter would wait frantically for those letters and pics and chritmas pressies ..lol

and then once the computer came we got camera and it was if they grew up in the next room together...lol

they all love each other and couldnt think what it wouldn be like without each other and are very glad i PUSHED it...

my daughter has brothers from my last marriage as well and she loves her brothers and sister as much as she loves her brothers she grew up with....and feels very blessed...
thought she did lose a few yrs...she wishes she has not and for that i feel bad i did not reach sooner....
dont let the kids lose these yrs they might have..even if its just letters or pictures sent back and forth its something..

in a way she is mad that her dad wanted to keep them apart they all are...you dont want that in her head.....
there are all sorts of families out there..we call our selves the most unconventional dysfunctional functional family...lol
kim just glad i was able to give this to all them....and they are all glad..

and two brothers and one sister live in scotland and we are in the usa...so its been quit a feet to make this work but i did and my child i think is benefiting for this...

Awh that really is an inspiration to me, well done x

 

[justhoping]

I agree with justhoping. I have a half brother and sisterand I don't know what I'd do without them! You could leave it up to them when they're older but then I don't think they could have the same bond as what they'd have if they grew up knowing each other.. I'd go direct to the mothers. Then at least you know for certain and have proof you tried. You never know you could end up good friends as you have something in common x

my daughter has two brother and sister from her dad..

im great friends now with both other moms and vice versa...of course he didngt want us to meet or the kids to meet but i pushed it...
so in a way the kids did grow up together even in another country...before the computer was so popular they did letters and pics and my daughgter would wait frantically for those letters and pics and chritmas pressies ..lol

and then once the computer came we got camera and it was if they grew up in the next room together...lol

they all love each other and couldnt think what it wouldn be like without each other and are very glad i PUSHED it...

my daughter has brothers from my last marriage as well and she loves her brothers and sister as much as she loves her brothers she grew up with....and feels very blessed...
thought she did lose a few yrs...she wishes she has not and for that i feel bad i did not reach sooner....
dont let the kids lose these yrs they might have..even if its just letters or pictures sent back and forth its something..

in a way she is mad that her dad wanted to keep them apart they all are...you dont want that in her head.....
there are all sorts of families out there..we call our selves the most unconventional dysfunctional functional family...lol
kim just glad i was able to give this to all them....and they are all glad..

and two brothers and one sister live in scotland and we are in the usa...so its been quit a feet to make this work but i did and my child i think is benefiting for this...

Awh that really is an inspiration to me, well done x

thank you....i dont know where my daughter would be if I did what he wanted and kept them apart..i think they all would have been very sad as they really are so close and love one another very much...