Invited to wedding at 35 weeks- thoughts?

[bitethebullet]

Hi there. We've been invited to a wedding when I'll be around 35 weeks. It is around a 7-8 hour drive away (don't think I'll be able to fly as easy jet don't allow flights after 35 weeks). I was fairly fit right up to the end of my last pregnancy and did go to a wedding nearer by where we live at 33 weeks. I managed to ceilidh dance but by ankles really swelled up! I think my biggest concern is going into labour early so far away from home and the long drive there. Would you guys go?

 

[WW1]

It would depend how close to me the people getting married were. If it's very close family / friends then yes I would. Otherwise I probably wouldn't. Is the wedding near good hospitals etc? If it is then I wouldn't worry too much on that score - the likelihood of you going into labour that early is low if all is going well and if you did then you'd be looked after. The bigger issue for me would be the car journey (that's a long trip when heavily pg) and whether you'd have the energy to enjoy it when you got there.

 

[Septie]

There is no way I'd want to spend 7-8 hours in the car even now, and I am only 32 weeks! The wedding itself would be fine. Unless they are very close, I'd pass.

 

[bathbabe]

If family/close friends then yes id go, but id try to make it a nice weekend/week away as well so your not doing too much travelling over (im assuming) 2days x

And obviously take your notes and hospital bag just incase! X

 

[Mississippi03]

Im in the same boat except at 34 weeks. 8 hour drive but im in canada and weddings in the states.

Beyond the fact that im not sitting in a car that long... I found out i can get insurance for myslf BUT if i ever went into labour and actually had the baby, the baby wouldnt have insurance. So im opting out!

 

[2have4kids]

I fully agree eith bathbabe, it'd have to be a sibling, a bff, or someone really close to me. If then I had to go bring the hospital bag and map out the local hospital & get your insurance sorted.

 

[bitethebullet]

Thanks ladies. The groom is closer to my husband but he was brillaont at our wedding and even took most of our pics. I think my husband thinks I'm being lame for being reluctant to go but I'd hate to have to give birth so far from home and although my little girl is invited , I think the journey would be too much for her and she'd have to stay at home at a time when I want to focus on making her feel extra loved! I'm in the UK so no real insurance issues. I have my midwife appointment on Tues so I might get her opinion.

 

[IsabellaJayne]

I would go. I went to a wedding in London when I was 36 weeks which is a 7 hour drive from me. I was fine in the car, plenty of service breaks, water in the car and I enjoyed the wedding. I slept most of the time in the car on the way home lol. I'd stay over and make a weekend of it

 

[Indi84]

I wouldn't have as I had a terrible pregnancy last time, wouldn't of been able to sit in the car, let alone walk after that (severe swelling, spd and sciatica!) I went to a close wedding at 34 weeks and was in agony!
However if you think you'll be fine then go for it!

 

[BabyJayne]

I'd definitely go - I love a wedding and providing I was otherwise fit and healthy, then yep. Just take regular car breaks - or can you maybe make a little trip of it and stop over half way down?

 

[JennaF]

I think you better don't do this. I have read in this community https://www.weddingforward.com/list-nots-week-wedding/ that it's better to sit home 'cause you know that anything can happen. But it's your choice=)

 

[RaquelDee]

I'm almost 35 weeks now and would have no problem attending a wedding. An eight hour car trip, though, is not something I'd be keen on. If you could break the trip up over a few days, then that would be the better option. You probably also want to research your options in terms of knowing where the nearest hospital is. But I'd be inclined to give it a miss.

 

[His Princess]

I would probably go, if the people were important to me. I'm 35 weeks at the moment and although I'd probably be shattered by the end of it, there's no reason why I couldn't sit in a car for 7/8 hours, providing I wasn't driving and had frequent rest stops. I've been invited to a wedding at 39+ weeks and the only thing that's stopping me is that I'm worried about going into labour mid way through the day.

Like pp's have said, just make sure you have your hospital bag and notes to hand.

 

[bitethebullet]

Thanks ladies. Well at least I seem justified in being slightly reluctant to go- not every one of you would be raring to go to a wedding that far along in pregnancy. I think we will probably go as I was 2 weeks late with my first and in good health all the way until the end. I guess I can always let them know that it's subject to me being fit enough! One of my friends was actually due a week before our wedding and she was sure she would come all the way up to the day before when she called to say she was in labour!

 

[nmpjcp2015]

I wouldn't go unless it was someone really important due to the length of the car ride. It just seems like you may not really enjoy the wedding after that ride. Don't forget to you have to do it twice... getting there and back home.

 

[icklemonster]

I'd pass and just send your OH alone if he is closer to the groom. That is one huge car journey when heavily pregnant. By that stage with DD I needed a wee every half hour, so I'd need to factor in 16 toilet stops

 

[PediNurseMom]

I'd skip it if it was me. The car ride would be way too much, especially since you still have to do it all over again to get back home. I wouldn't be willing to put up with the constant bathroom breaks and I'd be very uncomfortable having to sit so long (I know I'd be achy and stiff, not to mention all that sitting is not good for circulation and bad for baby's position that late in pregnancy). I wouldn't want to have to stop constantly, so I'd probably stay home with my toddler, have my hubby go, and send a nice gift. Good luck with your decision

 

[jlw617]

I personally wouldn't unless I was very close to them but that's just me...maybe ask your midwife what they think about it and if you do go, buy some compression socks and keep your feet moving!

 

[geordiemoo]

I wouldn't mind the wedding but the drive would put me off. Could you get the train instead?