Is 1 to 2 as much of a shock as 0 to 1?!

[Bun87]

Title says it really - I found it quite a big shock going from no children to having 1. Now I can't imagine or remember life before him and I love it! I know having 2 will be hard work but is it as much of a shock?! Not pregnant yet but we are ntnp #2! X

 

[aimee-lou]

Nope. 2 to 3 wasn't a massive shock either. You know what to expect and as we were in a routine baby slotted in both times pretty quickly.

 

[Scally]

The 0-1 was definitely more of a shock than 1-2!!! I found the 1-2 relatively easy- the only thing that i found hard was there was no sleep when they are sleeping, and we'd be up loads with little one for her to settle at say 6am , when the older one then got up!

 

[ready2Bmum]

Following!! very interested to hear opinions on this!

 

[lanaross]

2-1 not a shock in terms of how to take care of a newborn/why is he crying etc. A complete shock in terms of naps, rest, and your overall psychological condition -- can never be in two places at the same time but need to be pretty much all day.
0-1 was some serious shock, it's all blur

 

[history_girls]

0-1 was a huge shocko the system, life changing, whirlwind...

1-2 was so much easier and a lot more calm. I think I was a lot more confident and I spent so long stressing over everything with dd1 I forgot to enjoy it. I'm making the most of dd2 even if she doesn't sleep.....

 

[candyem]

I was talking about this with my best friend the other day.

Nothing can prepare you for how much your first will change your life. It flips it upside down so it is almost unrecognisable.

1-2 is much busier but not really harder, I have found.

 

[Amygdala]

0-1 was more of a shock than I could have ever imagined.
1-2 was completely fine, honestly. I was expecting a crazy sleep-deprived newborn phase but it never happened. Sure, there was tiredness but not more than the two years before. We had a halloween party when LO2 was 4 weeks old!! I have to say that my second pregnancy was a lot harder than the first though and I needed a lot of help and more time off work. I don't know whether I was unlucky and it was physically harder or it was the work and lack of sleep that comes with a toddler. Probably a combination of both.

 

[jd83]

0-1 was a complete shock as I had no clue what to expect with a newborn. Being around other babies here and there in no way prepares you for having your own baby 24/7, LOL! I had no clue what to do, why he was crying, was sleep deprived, etc...

1-2 I knew what to expect, so it wasn't such a shock to the system. The hard part is the lack of sleep. When you only have 1, you can nap when they nap, and try to catch up on sleep. When you have a toddler, you can't nap throughout the day to catch up. You just remain sleep deprived and get on with it. Life is busier with keeping up with both kids. But even given the sleep deprivation and busier life style, I still think it was easier going from 1-2. At least I wasn't completely clueless when I had my 2nd!

 

[smallpeanut]

Having two under two, I'm very very busy! But it was harder going 0-1...
The hardest thing is getting them up in the morning and putting them down at night. I find I have to get up at half 6 and get the littlest changed, fed and settled. Then get my eldest when she's up at 7!

 

[Cactusgirl]

0-1 complete shock
1-2 really easy in comparison though think it helps eldest is in full time school now!!

 

[Damita]

Following I found 0-1 so hard and such a shock

 

[Amy2701]

0-1 was a huge shock to the system. 1-2 was nowhere near as bad as I'd expected it to be - and I only had a 13 month age gap.

I don't think anything can be as muh of a shock as going from 0-1

 

[Mummy Bean]

0-1 earth shattering. Everything changed.

1-2 didnt notice except the more nappies and washing.

 

[babybaker2011]

0-1 was a huge shock for me
1-2 - the shocked feeling only lasted the first 3-4 weeks

 

[aimee-lou]

0-1 earth shattering. Everything changed.

1-2 didnt notice except the more nappies and washing.

Couldn't have put it better! lol

 

[Pearls18]

Nope, no way. I don't really class myself as a "natural mum" I miss sleep, like my independence so 0-1 was a massive shock and I was nervous about 1-2. But I've really taken it in my stride, and I say that with a husband who has worked away the last 9 weeks and a new baby that reeeeally doesnt like sleep. I wouldn't even rule out a third!

Don't get me wrong 2 children is obviously more of a challenge than one, but you're just so much more physically and mentally equipped.

And our best weapon is the knowledge that "IT DOES GET BETTER!"

 

[MumToEva]

0 - 1 - life as I knew it stopped completely, then slowly restarted as I started to get the hang of things.

1 - 2 - totally took it in my stride. Was used to a lot less sleep since our first was born anyway, and baby quickly fitted in with DD's routine.

I found pregnancy with a toddler much harder than having 2 under 2!

 

[JessPape]

My 2nd DD is only 9 days old, but so far going from zero babies to one baby was the hardest. Since I had no idea what I was doing...

 

[Sussy]

0-1 life picked up and smashed into a million pieces while I scrabbled about trying to put it all back together again!

1-2 no comparison! Baby has just fitted in and I wonder now what I found so hard about 1! Obviously bit tricky to get out of house on time, especially if toddler being a pain but it is completely do-able and no where near as life changing as that has already happened!