Is 23 Too Young For Kids?

[spacegirl]

If you are both ready then why not go for it? Don't let others dictate what is right for you both.

As it happens I wasn't ready until 34. I guess I took a chance waiting so long but I just didn't have the desire before. If you have the desire and feel happy that you have done things that may be important to you (money, travelling, going out etc) then go for it!

Cxxx

 

[plutosblue]

I am 23 and DH is 22 - age is just a number its all about maturity so don't listen to what anyone else has to say - it's not them that have to waddle around for 9 months and squeeze out a watermelon

 

[Star7890]

No way, if your ready your ready, some people just have this maternal urge in built in them that you cant ignore, I know that Ive dreamed of having children for at least ten years!
Im 20 (21 in August) and OH is 22, ans as long as you have a roof over your head, a big heart and food on the table you will be happy

 

[moomin_troll]

im 23 and pregnant with my second child. at this age i am ready to be a mother where as some people my age arent. i happen to think its a perfect age to start a family

its completly up to u and how u feel x

 

[janeybaby]

I was pregnant with #3 at the age of 23, as long as you feel ready then age isnt important

 

[OmiOmen]

Not at all. I think personality has far more to do with these things than age. My son is soon to be a year old and I am 26 but my husband is 22 and no one every thinks he is too young, it is me that gets judge because I look quite a bit younger than I am!

If you feel ready and know you you can look after a baby then that is the right time. But let us not for get that a woman fertility decreases at the age of 24 and that there is a higher chance of problems with both mother and/or baby after the age of 30!

 

[AP]

good grief no, i wouldnt say its too young. as long as you are settled and prepared, age has nothing to do with it

i was 22 when i had my LO and im 24 now with my second.

 

[ChocLabMum]

If you and your partner feel ready to be parents then that is your choice, it doesnt matter what others think.
I'm 36 and ttc number 4 .. my boys are teenagers and the very few people i've told i'm trying have said various things like i'm too old or I must be mad wanting a baby now my boys are all older
for all no matter how old or young you are xx

 

[bluelilly72]

i had my first at 19 and my second at 23 and now ttc my 3rd i don't think your too young think its up to you. my mum is fine with me wanting another. oh mum is not she wants us to wait 2 to 3 years i don't think so this will be my last and want them closes together if it works out that way hoping only on 2nd month fx for you

 

[Tasha]

No not all, dread to think what she would of though of me then. I had my fourth baby two days before my 23rd birthday

 

[SteffieLee]

Oh hun, everyone will have their own opinion on what u should do with your life but, you are the one in control and if you and your DH are ready then thats all that matters. I was 23 when I got pregnant with my DD and now I'm 25 and ready to try for #2.

 

[Lily7]

I'm 28 and we got married last year...DH and I always say to each other we wish we had of met sooner so we could have done everything younger! Don't listen to what people say...it's all about you and your OH and what you's together decide is right for you.. x

 

[Freakycactus]

OH and I are both 23 and TTC, we would have started sooner but wanted to wait for me to finish uni, then for us to both get full time jobs (that's another issue). As long as you're ready then go for it!

 

[Hispirits]

i started ttc at 22. i'm now 27. when i look back and realised i spent the whole of my early 20's wishing for a baby, being upset, stressed and distraught because a couldn't conceive, it does feel like i wasted my early 20's away .
as soon as i gave up trying and got busy doing living instead of obsessing about getting pregnancy (i started university) i feel pregnant twice both within 6 months, after 4years of nothing.

So from your perspective i no it feels right and it felt right for me when i was your age, but now i realise, it wasn't the right time then and although i would have survived it if i did have a baby, but it would have been very hard, and there is no way i would be able to support look after and provide for a baby then as a can now. me and my husband earn much better money now and don't really have to scrimp and save

I won't say your too young, but i think that if you are having to ask wether you are old enough, makes me feel you are uncertain yourself. in which case,you have all the time in the world, its no rush , take it one step at a time, and don't make the mistake i did and waste your early 20's, i regret that dearly. xxxx

 

[Kendrae]

i think you are the only one who can decide what age is appropriate. i know people that are wonderful mothers at young ages, and older. so as long as you know you two are ready and the baby will be in good care- go for it! and good luck! :smile:

 

[ssh0923]

i think hispirit is right, if you're second guessing yourself then maybe you have to evaluate the situation again. plus (and don't get me wrong here because i'm supportive of EVERYONE here) but in another post didn't you mention that your dh wasn't ready to start having babies yet? you might want to think things through before trying w/o him knowing. you don't want to intentionally get pregnant and he's not in agreement with you...it may cause a rift in your marriage. maybe wait til he's ready. unless you tell him you're gonna not try but not prevent either and see how he takes that approach. i personally wouldnt take fertility pills to get pregnant if my husband didn't know.

 

[Laurenmomma]

im 23 and have one baby now and ttc number 2! as people say do it when your ready, if you were to leave it til u are 30 and god forbid it took a while to happen then you would regret not starting early!

its your body and u are settled with your husband! times have changed!! xx

 

[Jerenet]

In my opinion, age doesnt matter, its whether you are mature enough and ready to be a mother. That is the most important key. I just turned 20 yesterday, but I knew I was ready when my feelings went from being "I want a baby..." to..."I want to be a mother..." Two TOTALLY different things, but if you are feeling the wanting to be a mother instead of just the "OOOH!!! BAAAABBBYYYY!!!!" feeling, lol, then youre ready

For me personally, I plan on having ALL my kids by the time I am 27/28...Goddess permitting...Everyone says live life first, start my career, ect, but I dont want to start my career (which requires world travel) and then have to stop for children. I can have my children while still in school, then start my career after. Its very much so up to you, and dont let anyone try to tell you what is best for you!

 

[Jem123]

Nothing to do with age. Its whether your ready

 

[Hopefulwishes]

I hate when people look down on you because THEY think you're too young. It's up to you & your oh whether you can handle parenting, not other people that won't or will barely be in the childs life. I'm 21 btw