Is 23 Too Young For Kids?

[FertilMertile]

i think hispirit is right, if you're second guessing yourself then maybe you have to evaluate the situation again. plus (and don't get me wrong here because i'm supportive of EVERYONE here) but in another post didn't you mention that your dh wasn't ready to start having babies yet? you might want to think things through before trying w/o him knowing. you don't want to intentionally get pregnant and he's not in agreement with you...it may cause a rift in your marriage. maybe wait til he's ready. unless you tell him you're gonna not try but not prevent either and see how he takes that approach. i personally wouldnt take fertility pills to get pregnant if my husband didn't know.

I second this.

I remember my mom telling me when she was trying to get pregnant with me, my dad would give her such a hard time. He always used protection. She went as far as putting holes in the condoms before he used it lol. It really isn't a good idea obviously. He never really wanted kids and it kinda shows. He's a good father but it isn't something that's for him.

 

[pupsicle]

Im 21 and this is all I've ever wanted in life

 

[FertilMertile]

Im 21 and this is all I've ever wanted in life

I always wanted kids young too and I did it. I was 19 when I got pregnant. I don't think age is what makes a good mom, I really don't. I think it's the mentality of the person. You could be 15 and be very mature in your thinking and way of life and be a wonderful parent and you could be 30 something and be the worst parent out there. It really isn't about age at all. I also know people who prefer having kids with someone but never getting married. I was never big on marriage but having kids was something I dreamt about since I was a little girl. I actually wanted to get pregnant at 14. Of course I knew my dad would have a heart attack and it wouldn't be the smartest thing so of course I didn't try but it was always something I wanted. The good thing is I got a stabled relationship/marriage so I'm good. As long as you know you can handle having kids, deal with the ups and downs even when it comes to financial situations then you're good to go. DH and I have had our fair share of instability (and sometimes we still do) but we'd never bring a baby into this world if we know we couldn't afford it. We'd wait to try. But because we know we can handle it, we're trying again People will always have their opinions. Of course I wouldn't tell a 13 year old to go out and get pregnant. But when someone is over 18 and they want a baby and they're engaged or married and have good jobs then why not? but that's just my view on things.

 

[Star7890]

Im 21 and this is all I've ever wanted in life

I always wanted kids young too and I did it. I was 19 when I got pregnant. I don't think age is what makes a good mom, I really don't. I think it's the mentality of the person. You could be 15 and be very mature in your thinking and way of life and be a wonderful parent and you could be 30 something and be the worst parent out there. It really isn't about age at all. I also know people who prefer having kids with someone but never getting married. I was never big on marriage but having kids was something I dreamt about since I was a little girl. I actually wanted to get pregnant at 14. Of course I knew my dad would have a heart attack and it wouldn't be the smartest thing so of course I didn't try but it was always something I wanted. The good thing is I got a stabled relationship/marriage so I'm good. As long as you know you can handle having kids, deal with the ups and downs even when it comes to financial situations then you're good to go. DH and I have had our fair share of instability (and sometimes we still do) but we'd never bring a baby into this world if we know we couldn't afford it. We'd wait to try. But because we know we can handle it, we're trying again People will always have their opinions. Of course I wouldn't tell a 13 year old to go out and get pregnant. But when someone is over 18 and they want a baby and they're engaged or married and have good jobs then why not? but that's just my view on things.

This post sums me up! Im 20 (21 in August) and have wanted kids since I was at least 11! I knew my teens wasn't the best time to try so after nearly four and a half years with my OH, engaged, own home, jobs and cars Im completly ready to live out my dream!

Everyone who doesn't support my decision doesn't get a look in!

 

[FertilMertile]

Im 21 and this is all I've ever wanted in life

I always wanted kids young too and I did it. I was 19 when I got pregnant. I don't think age is what makes a good mom, I really don't. I think it's the mentality of the person. You could be 15 and be very mature in your thinking and way of life and be a wonderful parent and you could be 30 something and be the worst parent out there. It really isn't about age at all. I also know people who prefer having kids with someone but never getting married. I was never big on marriage but having kids was something I dreamt about since I was a little girl. I actually wanted to get pregnant at 14. Of course I knew my dad would have a heart attack and it wouldn't be the smartest thing so of course I didn't try but it was always something I wanted. The good thing is I got a stabled relationship/marriage so I'm good. As long as you know you can handle having kids, deal with the ups and downs even when it comes to financial situations then you're good to go. DH and I have had our fair share of instability (and sometimes we still do) but we'd never bring a baby into this world if we know we couldn't afford it. We'd wait to try. But because we know we can handle it, we're trying again People will always have their opinions. Of course I wouldn't tell a 13 year old to go out and get pregnant. But when someone is over 18 and they want a baby and they're engaged or married and have good jobs then why not? but that's just my view on things.

This post sums me up! Im 20 (21 in August) and have wanted kids since I was at least 11! I knew my teens wasn't the best time to try so after nearly four and a half years with my OH, engaged, own home, jobs and cars Im completly ready to live out my dream!

Everyone who doesn't support my decision doesn't get a look in!

I was actually younger than 14 but 14 was the age I thought hmm maybe I should try lol but I always wanted kids. It may have even started at the age of 7!! I just loved little kids and being around them. I was like a little adult lol. I never hung out with kids my own age, I was always with my parents and their friends and their BABIES, not their kids my age lol. I'm still like that!! I guess it goes by mentality. But it's true, if people don't support your decision then I guess they don't mind missing out on something great when it finally happens!!

 

[wanting2010]

I think being ready for kids depends less on your age and more on other factors in life- such as relationship stability, job stability, etc.

My husband and I are both 23 and we both feel more than ready for kids. We've been married for 4 years, together for 8, and we both have steady, stable, full-time jobs. We own our own home, have 2 reliable vehicles, are able to pay all our bills easily while putting a good chunk of money in savings as well.

On the other hand, I know other people who are around my age who aren't in stable relationships, don't have stable jobs, still live with their parents, etc., who I would say probably aren't ready to have kids.

If you're questioning your decision to try to get pregnant, maybe it's something you should take some time to reevaluate. Having kids is a lifetime commitment and you definitely don't want to rush into it if you're not completely, 100% sure that you're ready. At 23, you do have time on your side.

 

[ARRIELLE]

Tina that is how i feel... I am scared if i try when i get older it really wont happen... I dont think you are too young, you are married so why not!!! I do undertsand what the lady from church was saying though... Because kids are expensive, and all the freedom to do whatever you want is now different because you have to be a mom, but for some ppl that all they want is to build their own family...

 

[moomin_troll]

i was 19 when i met the person i knew i wanted babies with and 19 when i got pregnant, 20 when i had him. it just was the right time for me and i will never regret having him young because i would of missed me chance to have a baby with the man i knew i wanted it all with. now at 23 having baby 2. i just no that when im 40 i will have the money and time to go do all i want and not have to worry

 

[mom22boys]

NOPE its not too young at all!

I was 20 when I got pregnant with my first! He was planned all the way!!!!

SO many people after we got married told us dont have kids right away. They will just mess things up. These people clearly had no clue to what they were talking about cause our children are the best thing that happen to us!

I was 24 when I had my second. Looking back now (I am 34) I am so glad I did!

 

[youngwife20]

I was just talking with a woman from church who had fertility problems and I told her I do too and she asked me how old I was and I said 23 and she laughed saying I'm too young for kids. She said I should just enjoy life with my husband for now. Is 23 really too young? The lady said she didnt have her first until she was 30.

You arnt to young if you think you are in the right stage of your life to have kids. its not about age lots of people are in there 30s and not emotionally ready to have kids. thats just her opinion because when she had kids was right for her. its not about her its about what is right for you.

I am 20 years old happily married own home good job and completely ready to start a family some people think people our age should be out drinking enjoying our selfs but the difference is my definition of enjoying myself would be looking after my baby and stayin in with my husband.

you make the choice and dont listen to anyone elses opinion because at the end of the day its you thats got to take the baby home not them . aslong as you had your hubby are happy thats the main thing!

 

[wishing4baby3]

I was just talking with a woman from church who had fertility problems and I told her I do too and she asked me how old I was and I said 23 and she laughed saying I'm too young for kids. She said I should just enjoy life with my husband for now. Is 23 really too young? The lady said she didnt have her first until she was 30.

if your ready then your ready hun,im 24 in july and expecting my 3rd the end nov/dec and i wouldnt change my life one bit,im not bothered about going out drinking every weekend and would well n truely prefer taking my kids to fun factorys,the zoo n anywhere else we can,my husband is a great support too so to me i have everything i want/need x x x

 

[babyhopes2010]

IM 23 and im not too young! ignore stupid people xx

 

[hellohefalump]

I was 21 when I had Madeleine and I don't regret it... I know this sounds bad, but it's not like I had anything better I could of been doing. Some of my friends are having a great time and aren't ready to settle down yet, but I was doing pretty much nothing, had a boring job... so for me it was the right time to settle down and have kids.

I'm now 25 and TTC #3!

 

[youngwife20]

its a breath of fresh air to see other young women ttc or young mums its great! i actualy thought i would get alot of negitive comments being 20 not that it would have changed my mind! lol but its nice to see lots of positivity

 

[redrose89]

I just turned 21 in November, did my drinking that day and at thanksgiving. After that, I was already bored with the idea of drinking and partying. I knew I wanted to be a mother, so now I'm trying.

As everyone else has said, age is just a number and you should try when you and OH are both ready.

 

[moomin_troll]

seen as im 23 on pregnant with my second its my older sister whos been getting stick at 26 from people saying it should be her married with the kiddies lol

altho people do think im the older sister which im not happy about seen as others think im 18

 

[deafgal01]

Tina- I wouldn't worry about your age. 23 isn't that young. That woman is not the person you're having a baby with so it's really between your DH and you- thus it's really only your DH and your business when you are trying for a baby. Who knows- the fertility issues might make it take a while for you to conceive before you finally have a lil ?

 

[wishing4baby3]

haha well im the same moomin as my older sister has only just had a child and im on my 3rd plus married and she isnt but at the end of the day there is no time limit to when any of this should be done,i get dirty looks off old people n everything and i find it funny and do tell a few where go at times but id prefer have them now than wait till my 30s and have problems and not give myself enough time to have them sorted,where as if ur young with problems you have plenty of time to get to the bottom of it and have your healthy bundle of joy,ive always been a family girl and that will never change,i think some people out there need to realise that its our lifes not theres and if we are happy and so are our kids thats all the matters x x

 

[moomin_troll]

haha well im the same moomin as my older sister has only just had a child and im on my 3rd plus married and she isnt but at the end of the day there is no time limit to when any of this should be done,i get dirty looks off old people n everything and i find it funny and do tell a few where go at times but id prefer have them now than wait till my 30s and have problems,ive always been a family girl and that will never change,i think some people out there need to realise that its our lifes not theres and if we are happy and so are our kids thats all the matters x x

my sister isnt even planning a baby but her oh is desperate for babies lol they are 26 and 30 this yr so they get judged and alot of comments about what they should do.

we went for a meal and my bils mum just kept going on about them having babies n then asked me if i had something to say cuz my son looks like my bil :0

i just cant wait to be 40 knowing i can go off and do what i want because i no ile have the money for holidays ect and dont have to worry as the boys will be 20 and 17 lol


EDIT juts seen ur from staffordshire....so am i

 

[moomin_troll]

also just remembered a story my sister told me.
i was jokin sayin if my boys are like their dad ile be a gran at 30 and then she said there is actualy a woman at 23 who is a granny!

she had her daughter at 12 and her daughter had a baby at 11