Is anybody else trying again before AF?

[Sophiejash]

Hello, I've recently lost a baby and we're trying again straight away without waiting for AF. I had ultrasound which showed I'd passed all the pregnancy material but now we're trying again I feel almost tender inside. A little sore/achey and fragile I guess. Does anybody else feel like this when trying again straight away? Do you think I should wait until AF if it's not already too late? Thanks

 

[Kmx]

I had a loss two weeks ago at 6 weeks pregnant and we are NTNP this month. I figure if it happens then my body is ready and if not then we will just try again next month. I haven't had any issues with feeling tender etc im not sure why that could be. How far along were you when you had your loss?

 

[Sophiejash]

Hi kmx, I'm sorry for your loss and hope you're doing ok now. I thought you were waiting until the new year, well done on starting again straight away, I hope it happens for you soon. Well according to last period I was 9+5 weeks but scan showed measurement of only 5+5 weeks (probably why I miscarried, something wasn't right) but not sure if sac and placenta was 9+5 in size and just the fetus was small or what so a little uncertain. I wondering whether the tenderness could be due to my body ovulation again? Or preparing to. I'm so confused.

 

[pipsbabybean]

Hi ladies, recognise both ur names, be had a recent loss to, no af yet and 3 weeks from bleeding , been using opk and temping, I'm not missing it x

 

[Sophiejash]

Hi pipsbabybean, sorry for your loss. Is there any sign of ovulation for you yet then? I lost sac on Thursday 17th September and stopped bleeding Saturday before last. I haven't been using opks but a lot of people have said they've ovulated roughly around two weeks after losing sac. X

 

[pipsbabybean]

Hi pipsbabybean, sorry for your loss. Is there any sign of ovulation for you yet then? I lost sac on Thursday 17th September and stopped bleed Saturday before last. I haven't been using opks but a lot of people have said they've ovilated roughly around two weeks after losing sac. X

Sorry to u to lovely, ,Mine was 18th was also stopped bleeding the week after , I was using ics and opk's since the bleeding stopped, the hcg was messing with the opk's but as of two days ago they are negative now the ics I mean and opk are getting darker again,
Hoping it won't be long, I am temping to as I find this more reliable,
Yh I heard the two week thing to which for me is 3 days time xx

 

[Kmx]

Hi kmx, I'm sorry for your loss and hope you're doing ok now. I thought you were waiting until the new year, well done on starting again straight away, I hope it happens for you soon. Well according to last period I was 9+5 weeks but scan showed measurement of only 5+5 weeks (probably why I miscarried, something wasn't right) but not sure if sac and placenta was 9+5 in size and just the fetus was small or what so a little uncertain. I wondering whether the tenderness could be due to my body ovulation again? Or preparing to. I'm so confused.

Thanks I hope you are too! I didn't recognise your username before I posted! I had all intentions on waiting until new year but it's really difficult when I just want to be pregnant again so I'm just seeing what happens without trying to get my hopes up too much. I am having signs of ovulation so I'm keeping my fingers crossed although I know it's probably unlikely but I have also read online that your most fertile straight after a loss so that offers some hope! Have you been tracking ovulation using temp/opk? I did use OPKs for the month before I conceived but I ran out the month I did conceive otherwise I would use them this month. If I'm not pregnant this month I'll order some online for next month I think! Fingers crossed for us both it will be nice if we could both conceive straight away! Xx

 

[Sophiejash]

Pipsbabybean i did a pregnancy test last week to check if my levels had gone down and it showed negative. I thought it was two weeks from losing the sac so for me around last Thursday but if it two weeks from bleed then I'm not until this weekend. I have no idea now.

Kmx it is really hard to wait, I feel like the only thing that will make the situation better is getting pregnant again asap. No i haven't been using opks this time. With my DD we tried for 3 months and then I used opks for the first time and fell pregnant straight away. This time I used it the first month we were trying and it didn't work, the second month we didn't really want to fall pregnant as it would be due around our DD's birthday so we weren't really trying and I fell pregnant, it was due the day before my DD birthday in April. Obviously I unfortunately lost it though so back to square one. Everyone is telling me to relax about it so I thought this month we'd try without using them, try and relax and let it be a bit more romantic and see what happens. But if I get AF I'll probably go back to using them next month. We're hoping for a boy so trying to do a few old wife's tales as well. Of course we'd love either though.
One of my work colleagues told me last week she was pregnant and I'm finding it really hard, she's only 7/8 weeks but she also started bleeding last week, not that heavy though so although I'm quite upset about her being pregnant I really want her to be ok.

 

[pipsbabybean]

Hi kmx, I'm sorry for your loss and hope you're doing ok now. I thought you were waiting until the new year, well done on starting again straight away, I hope it happens for you soon. Well according to last period I was 9+5 weeks but scan showed measurement of only 5+5 weeks (probably why I miscarried, something wasn't right) but not sure if sac and placenta was 9+5 in size and just the fetus was small or what so a little uncertain. I wondering whether the tenderness could be due to my body ovulation again? Or preparing to. I'm so confused.

Thanks I hope you are too! I didn't recognise your username before I posted! I had all intentions on waiting until new year but it's really difficult when I just want to be pregnant again so I'm just seeing what happens without trying to get my hopes up too much. I am having signs of ovulation so I'm keeping my fingers crossed although I know it's probably unlikely but I have also read online that your most fertile straight after a loss so that offers some hope! Have you been tracking ovulation using temp/opk? I did use OPKs for the month before I conceived but I ran out the month I did conceive otherwise I would use them this month. If I'm not pregnant this month I'll order some online for next month I think! Fingers crossed for us both it will be nice if we could both conceive straight away! Xx

I agree it's so hard to wait when all u wanna do is be pregnant
I'm so worried it's a progesterone thing for me, I've a doc appt tomorrow as she wants to talk to me , I've been pushing for progesterone ,
I temp and use opks I hate to say it but I need to try and feel in control but right now I feel nothing

Pipsbabybean i did a pregnancy test last week to check if my levels had gone down and it showed negative. I thought it was two weeks from losing the sac so for me around last Thursday but if it two weeks from bleed then I'm not until this weekend. I have no idea now.

Kmx it is really hard to wait, I feel like the only thing that will make the situation better is getting pregnant again asap. No i haven't been using opks this time. With my DD we tried for 3 months and then I used opks for the first time and fell pregnant straight away. This time I used it the first month we were trying and it didn't work, the second month we didn't really want to fall pregnant as it would be due around our DD's birthday so we weren't really trying and I fell pregnant, it was due the day before my DD birthday in April. Obviously I unfortunately lost it though so back to square one. Everyone is telling me to relax about it so I thought this month we'd try without using them, try and relax and let it be a bit more romantic and see what happens. But if I get AF I'll probably go back to using them next month. We're hoping for a boy so trying to do a few old wife's tales as well. Of course we'd love either though.
One of my work colleagues told me last week she was pregnant and I'm finding it really hard, she's only 7/8 weeks but she also started bleeding last week, not that heavy though so although I'm quite upset about her being pregnant I really want her to be ok.

That's good about the test hun ,
I no wat u mean I'm surrounded by pregnancy announcements and births

 

[Sophiejash]

What makes you think it's progesterone with you pipsbabybean?
People announcing pregnancy is the hardest thing, I can't help but feel a stab of jealously and also a little resentment (that sounds so horrible but I don't mean to be) Another friend of mine told me she was pregnant going back weeks and we were due three days apart which was so nice, we both bled and unfortunately I've lost mine but she's absolutely fine and I feel really down about it. My colleague told me yesterday she lost hers, gutted for her.
I am no good at waiting either, not a patient person as also like to feel 100% in control which is why I'm going to use opks again if nothing happens this month. When I want something I want it now. I didn't want to push it this month though as im not convinced my body is ready but if it happens great, after AF though I know it will be so will be back on it xx

 

[LynAnne]

I've been NTNP since my miscarriage four weeks ago. It took until Sunday for me to get a negative hpt so I have no idea what that will do to my cycle - AF would normally have shown today. I was only testing sporadically but it was still positive, albeit very lightly, the Thursday before. I didn't track ovulation as I never have and we were just having fun, so to speak. Plus, I've heard conflicting things about if you can even ovulated with any hcg in your system so I've no idea if I ovulated or if I did when that was! I'm not holding out hope for this month. In fact I think AF will probably show soon.

 

[Sophiejash]

Thanks LynAnne, I'm not expecting AF to show her ugly face when she normally does after what's just happened, they say it could be 6weeks later don't they. I really don't want her to show though and although we're trying to relax about we started dtd again last week and have done it every other night since. Going but my CM I think I've just ovulated but who knows. I'm holding out hope though. I'm so sorry for your loss, how far along were you? X

 

[pipsbabybean]

What makes you think it's progesterone with you pipsbabybean?
People announcing pregnancy is the hardest thing, I can't help but feel a stab of jealously and also a little resentment (that sounds so horrible but I don't mean to be) Another friend of mine told me she was pregnant going back weeks and we were due three days apart which was so nice, we both bled and unfortunately I've lost mine but she's absolutely fine and I feel really down about it. My colleague told me yesterday she lost hers, gutted for her.
I am no good at waiting either, not a patient person as also like to feel 100% in control which is why I'm going to use opks again if nothing happens this month. When I want something I want it now. I didn't want to push it this month though as im not convinced my body is ready but if it happens great, after AF though I know it will be so will be back on it xx

Sounds just like me hun I need to feel in control
That's y I use opks and temp

I have a short lp and never did with my girls, cycles gone a it crazy tbh late ov short lp with spotting before af never had that before ,
I hate it y can't it just be normal x

 

[LynAnne]

Thanks LynAnne, I'm not expecting AF to show her ugly face when she normally does after what's just happened, they say it could be 6weeks later don't they. I really don't want her to show though and although we're trying to relax about we started dtd again last week and have done it every other night since. Going but my CM I think I've just ovulated but who knows. I'm holding out hope though. I'm so sorry for your loss, how far along were you? X

I had a mmc at 9+5 where no heartbeat was found and baby was measuring 8+3. I decided to wait it out a little to see if I would miscarry naturally and just as I was getting myself scheduled for D&C the next week, I miscarried naturally at what would have been 12+3. My cm has been a bit all over the place this month. It feels super unreliable! Hope that AF doesn't show but I'm sort of okay if she does cos then at least I'll have a rough idea of what's going on in my body!

 

[bubbles82]

Good luck ladies! I'm TTC before AF after my recent loss which started on September 3rd. I didn't really know when to class as CD1 for this cycle, as I didn't get any days of heavy bleeding like AF with the loss, but I used OPKs and eventually ovulated at roughly 3 weeks since the loss started, which is normal for my cycles usually as I have around 35 day cycles and ovulate around CD22. I was still getting positive HPTs a few days before I ovulated, which was confirmed with OPKs and temps.

I'm 9dpo now, not feeling very hopeful but I think I'm just nervous about another loss as this was my second and hit me quite hard even though it was only early. I wasn't sure I should be trying again so soon, my body feels quite sensitive this time round still, and I had ovulation pains which I never get. Like others have said though, if your body isn't ready you just wouldn't get pregnant. Also I conceived my DD straight after my first loss so I know it's possible to have a healthy pregnancy straight away, and hoping things could work out that way again this time.

 

[Sophiejash]

LynAnne that's very similar to me, I was supposed to be 9+5 when I started bleeding but scan showed baby was only 5+5 but there was a heartbeat which was reassuring, hospital thought dates were just all wrong but I knew that couldn't have been the case as it just didn't add up, miscarried later that very day. I dont want AF to show but I feel the same, if she does at least I know where I am.
That's very strange about yout cycles pipsbabybean but I guess our bodies go trough such massive changes with pregnancy it's not really a suprise it messes things up. When I entered me 20's my periods changed for really heavy and lasting a week to only a few days and pretty light. I went to doctors as I was concerned and after investigation they said I was just lucky. That was without my body experiencing a pregnancy. I already have one DD so I know I can have children I just want another one, I'd lie to have a boy as well. Xx

 

[Sophiejash]

Sorry bubbles i missed your post there. Welcome to our group. So sorry for your loss/s. I also feel tender after my loss but also figured if my body isn't ready it won't happen. Fingers crossed for us all though. How far along were you?

 

[bubbles82]

I was about 8/9 weeks when they finally confirmed I had miscarried, the earlier scan around 6/7 weeks just showed a gestational sac measuring around 6 weeks.

 

[pipsbabybean]

We all sound very similar in wat happened , I was also 8 weeks but I'd been spotting pink from 6 weeks
Went to have my scan baby only measured 6 weeks went back 9
Days later and there was no change, id already started bleeding so I knew there was no hope even tho I tried to stay positive x

 

[Sophiejash]

I'm so sorry bubbles and pipsbabybean, it's so horrible isn't it. My baby was measuring four weeks behind so there was never much hope when I found that out 😢
Are you all feeling positive about trying again? X