Is anybody else trying again before AF?

[dinky]

Hi ladies sorry for your losses. My pregnancy ended on August 28th and we tried again before af. Sadly af came 4 days ago so didn't work for me but I'm kind of glad af came first coz now I know my body's back on track and my womb lining can thicken up enough. This af is heavy but not as heavy as it normally is and sorry for the tmi but it's not as clotty as it normally is so maybe my womb lining wasnt thick enough for another pregnancy after the d&c. Good luck to you all x

 

[Sophiejash]

Hi dinky, sorry to hear about your experience and sorry that AF came. I think it's different with a d&c, think docs scrape absolutely everything out. My understanding is the release of an egg triggers the lining of the womb to thicken, so if your ovulating then the lining should be thickening in readiness. Fingers crossed for you this month x

 

[bubbles82]

I'm so sorry bubbles and pipsbabybean, it's so horrible isn't it. My baby was measuring four weeks behind so there was never much hope when I found that out 😢
Are you all feeling positive about trying again? X

I actually ended up being talked into testing yesterday at 9DPO after my post on here, used SMU and got a very faint but definitely there BFP. I'm absolutely terrified and can't seem to feel positive at all, I'm annoyed pregnancy isn't a happy exciting time for me and DH like it should be, and feel like I'm just waiting around wondering when it will all go wrong this time.

 

[Sophiejash]

Bubbles that's fabulous news. Congratulations. Try not to worry as its not good for you, what will be will be i'm sure everything will be fine this time around.
I'm beginning to wish i'd tracked my ovulation now as I have no idea when I ovulated. I had lots of CM end of last week and over the weekend, do you think I could have ovulated then? I started bleeding 16th, lost on 17th and stopped bleeding 26th. What do you think? We DTD every other night since 1st Oct. I'm so praying for a BFP xx

 

[dinky]

I did ovulate after my loss at about cd25. I was still getting positive hpts until 3 days before af arrived x

 

[Sophiejash]

I'm definitely not getting positive results now, I did a test last Thursday and there was a very very faint line and today there's definitely no line at all. I'm just going to carry on DTD every other day I think and fingers crossed x

 

[bubbles82]

Bubbles that's fabulous news. Congratulations. Try not to worry as its not good for you, what will be will be i'm sure everything will be fine this time around.
I'm beginning to wish i'd tracked my ovulation now as I have no idea when I ovulated. I had lots of CM end of last week and over the weekend, do you think I could have ovulated then? I started bleeding 16th, lost on 17th and stopped bleeding 26th. What do you think? We DTD every other night since 1st Oct. I'm so praying for a BFP xx

Thanks chick. As for your ovulation I wouldn't even be able to begin to guess for you, I would highly recommend charting if you don't usually do it, I've done it for years since TTC DD, and would have no idea where my cycle was at after my loss if it wasn't for my chart x

 

[Sophiejash]

Yeah I guess but I'm confused about how the miscarriage throws things out of sink as normally if my cycle had continued I've have had AF on 3rd Sept, then 30th Sept, then 27th October but obviously I had my miscarriage and therefore massive bleed right in the middle starting 16th Sept.
Would the miscarriage sort of reset all the dates? Or am I still to expect AF around 27th do you think with ovulation a couple of weeks before? I thought now my bodies clear of the pregnancy, brain would recognise and signal ovulation as it would after a period.
Arhhhhhhhh my brain hurts, think I'm over thinking it all x

 

[bubbles82]

Everyone's different, my cycle is usually around 35 days, and if I wasn't pregnant this month I'd be having a 39 day cycle roughly, counting from my first day of bleeding with my loss, so not much different to my normal cycles.

 

[bubbles82]

After my first loss I got pregnant with DD after ovulating 3 weeks later, and ovulated on CD25 this time, and I usually ovulate around 3 weeks into each cycle so the two losses didn't really make much difference to my cycle, and we're just like another normal cycle if I counted the first day of bleeding both times as if it was just a period and day 1 of a normal cycle if that make sense?

 

[Sophiejash]

I think so. So I know everyone is different but I think your saying for you the day you started bleeding with you miscarriage you counted as day 1 of a normal 35(ish) day cycle. So if I did the same my 28 day cycle would start from the day I started bleeding, so say 16th Sept. Is that right?
So I normally ovulated around day 14 which would possibly have been last week which is when I had increased CM. It may be similar then x

 

[bubbles82]

Yeah sounds about right, I think most people seem to quickly go back to their usual cycle from what I've read on here if it was an early loss.

 

[Sophiejash]

Ok thanks. X

 

[LynAnne]

I'm feeling very confused as to what my miscarriage has done to my cycle too. I wish it had been a whole lot more straightforward or at the very least I had decided to track ovulation! I found out id lost my baby on the 21st of August but I didn't start bleeding until the 5th of September, finally miscarrying naturally in the 8th. I have a regular cycle of 29 days which means if id had a normal cycle I would be a day late now. No sign of af yet. I've no idea if I ovulated or whatever. Although I wasn't testing regularly I didn't get my first negative until Sunday just passed (4th October), I had a very, very faint positive on the 1st of October. Just wish I knew what was going on or what to expect!

 

[pipsbabybean]

Wow bubbles that's amazing , how's the test today?
Sophie dtd every other day is defiantly covering all bases, let's hope uve caught that egg
I'm still waiting can't believe it really
Body is gearing up I no that, glad I temp also else I'd be completely lost I'm
Cd 25

 

[bubbles82]

Wow bubbles that's amazing , how's the test today?
Sophie dtd every other day is defiantly covering all bases, let's hope uve caught that egg
I'm still waiting can't believe it really
Body is gearing up I no that, glad I temp also else I'd be completely lost I'm
Cd 25

Slightly darker again today, I'm only using ICs still at the moment. Hopefully it keeps heading in the right direction, I'm not feeling positive at all. My tests were progressing last time but the day I decided to stop doing them was the day my mc started so even the progression doesn't make me feel much better at the moment.

I'd be lost without charting too, hope it happens for you soon x

 

[LynAnne]

Bubbles - fingers crossed everything keeps going in the same direction and it keeps progressing. Just remember it's a new sperm and new egg so there is no reason that this time won't be the one!

 

[pipsbabybean]

Wow bubbles that's amazing , how's the test today?
Sophie dtd every other day is defiantly covering all bases, let's hope uve caught that egg
I'm still waiting can't believe it really
Body is gearing up I no that, glad I temp also else I'd be completely lost I'm
Cd 25

Slightly darker again today, I'm only using ICs still at the moment. Hopefully it keeps heading in the right direction, I'm not feeling positive at all. My tests were progressing last time but the day I decided to stop doing them was the day my mc started so even the progression doesn't make me feel much better at the moment.

I'd be lost without charting too, hope it happens for you soon x

Excited for u hun, keep us posted, I can't believe my bodies taking so long x

 

[Sophiejash]

Yes bubbles we're all really excited for you.
That's great advise LynAnne about new sperm and new egg, haven't really thought about it that way but you're absolutely right.
I like to think I'm covering all bases Pipsbabybean but I guess time will tell. I'm cd24 now and although I thought I ovulated last week I feel like I'm having ovulating pains on my right side today. Oh I'm lost with my body at the moment. My cycle is normally 28 days so think it's safe to say I'm totally out of sync xx

 

[bubbles82]

Thanks girls, it's just so hard to stay positive after two losses, it feels like it's so much more likely for that to happen again than for me to take a healthy baby home again.