Is anyone dating?

[new_to_ttc]

I left FOB (big one!) when I was pregnant - I had my reasons! I first dated after that when my LO was about 1ish I think but it only last about a year as I was always tired, working, single parenting with no contact from FOB, and college and all the guy wanted was attention and other stuff i was just too tired to give, but he didnt put the effort in on my days off with days out etc so knocked that on the head, then was on my own until my boy was 3, settled with someone for a few years. Started as my time, but over time became a little family but once that happened it fizzled out and the day to day thing didnt work for us I am now courting an amazing guy, have been for over 2 years he is my soul mate... he is FOB of the baby... but he is MY TIME lol... We both like it this way, no day to day things, I bring the baby up on my own with my lad, he lives across town we live independant lives but have the most amazing chemistry when we have our time. It started off as best friends crossing the line.. well we crossed it further and totally fell for each other when we got pregnant, but have never changed the ways things are.

Dating with kids can be hard work, but it totally doable!!!

 

[rebeccalouise]

I'd like to start dating soon, I think I'm ready! FOB is now seeing LO & everything is falling into place. I'm getting used to being single, even though I do hate it! x

 

[okaypriscilla]

I would like to start dating but I'm running into a lot of people backing off as soon as they find out I'm pregnant. It's frustrating because I'm not even showing yet and it's not like I'm asking anyone to marry me. I just want to date and have a good time. It's frustrating but I completely understand at the same time. As long as you're happy and baby/ies are safe and happy as well that's all that matters! Date on!

 

[ZombieQueen]

FOB has a new girlfriend, she's literally a shorter, slightly more Asian version of me... Annoys me a bit that he can be dating while I barely have time to wipe my ass but I know I'm not ready to date, even though I desperately want to.. I won't because I desperately want to. Desperation leads to mistakes. I'm just gonna focus on baby.

 

[Danie1stbaby]

Zombiequeen I love how open and honest you are yes being desperate leads to mistakes...matter of fact,I think I might post a thread on my other situation.l need advice~ Being lonely will make you decide on dumb things.

By looking at the avi's,you ladies are gorgeous.OMG these no good men makes my skin crawl.Our babies are blessings,but my goodness I wish I could have had her with another person.Same baby and different man...perfect.

Well I attempted dating...I am a love bird....got hurt again..is it me? wow.How am I coping with heartache after heartache??

 

[Jennifurball]

Our babies are blessings,but my goodness I wish I could have had her with another person.Same baby and different man...perfect.

This is EXACTLY how I feel, my baby is beautiful and perfect, I don't know how with a father like hers, really, but I wouldn't change her, just wish I could have changed who I DTD with and she still popped out! lol

 

[lil lovey]

It would be nice to date. Have someone supporting you,going to appointments with me etc. But don't think I'll be dating anytime soon as FOB and I had a bad relationship. I don't think I'll be able to ever trust men anymore at all. Argh it makes me so angry and jealous when I see FOB with his new GF! Makes me feel like he never loved me. He even feels embarrased when he sees meHe also wants nothing to do with LO.</3 I tried going back on the dating scene but didn't work out well as they just run away as they find out I'm pregnant.

 

[Laura2919]

I have started going out with the pram more/shopping etc to try and 'bump' into someone but surely it will work against me having a pram because they will assume I have a man?? How do you work round that?

It will happen if it is meant to be. If it is not then it wont.


You need to take some time to find you first and find all the things you like about what situation you are in.

 

[jellybean20]

My last relationship ended a just over a year ago when the lovely very sweet guy asked 'when are you going to put our relationship first? Your always focusing on the baby!!' She wasn't even one then my response ' maybe when she is an adult, but no time soon!!'

 

[ZombieQueen]

My last relationship ended a just over a year ago when the lovely very sweet guy asked 'when are you going to put our relationship first? Your always focusing on the baby!!' She wasn't even one then my response ' maybe when she is an adult, but no time soon!!'

 

[teal]

My last relationship ended a just over a year ago when the lovely very sweet guy asked 'when are you going to put our relationship first? Your always focusing on the baby!!' She wasn't even one then my response ' maybe when she is an adult, but no time soon!!'

really wonder about some people!