Is it bad to......

[Beccaboop]

......... give lo to mil so i can have some alone time with my husband doing things like having sex (as we havent been able to relax enough with lo in the room to do it yet) and have some sleep and go out to lunch and just do things we used to do as a childless couple? I feel like id be giving him away cos i miss things we used to do! Is that selfish?

I know mil would love to have him and we want lo to be close to his grandparents but i just feel mean and selfish!

 

[TwilightAgain]

Course not. Grandparents are important, so its lovely that you give them some time with LO, theres no need to feel guilty about enjoying that alone time with your OH! Everyone needs breathing space

 

[Samiam03]

Psh that isn't selfish at all. I wish I had family in the area that I could hand my Los off to occasionally. Having kids is no reason to forget about yourself and enjoy yourself and your hubby...in fact it is healthy! Consider yourself lucky to have someone to watch your kid.

 

[missk1989]

We did that the other week and although it was only for an hour it allowed us to sit at the table and have a conversation over dinner followed by sex. Its important to remember you were a couple before lo and will be when lo has grown up and moved out. You need time together.

 

[Hunbun]

No, I think it's a really good thing to do. It will help keep your relationship strong.

It's natural to feel a little guilty, but honestly there is no reason to.

 

[greats]

Do it! I wish my family were willing to take lo for a few hrs for that same reason.

 

[baby287]

What is ” sex”?....
lol we have done it once since having lo. Go for it! It will be good for you

 

[zombiedaisy]

Hun, theres nothing wrong with doing that! You need to have alone time with DH. On Saturday DH and I left LO with my mother so we could go out for a few hours in the early afternoon. It was nice. We didnt do anything spectacular, but we spent some time together walking the mall, shopping a bit, and just enjoying each others company.

 

[Larkspur]

Of course there is nothing at all wrong with it.

There is so much pressure on mums these days to be some kind of fantasy 'ideal' mother who, upon giving birth, immediately abandons all individual identity and becomes completely and selflessly devoted to her child, finding all satisfaction in being a mother.

I think that's rubbish. We do not have just one identity. Wanting a little time out without having to drop everything and instantly respond to the needs of an infant doesn't make you selfish in any way! It makes you a normal person, a good partner, and it means you're looking after yourself too.

 

[whatwillbe]

Not at all, as long as you know baby's being looked after properly that's fine, just because your a mom doesn't mean you can't do things for you anymore, I would do it myself but bf on demand and can't be bothered to pump x

 

[jenniand]

I agree, it's not a bad thing at all. It is a healthy thing to do, you need time out, you and your partner need time together alone and your baby needs some time without you too. It will help them build bonds with other members of the family and help them become confident and happy when you do have to leave them for work or school/nursery. Go for it and don't feel guilty you are just helping them get used to a perfectly acceptable social situation and preparing them for life. Have fun

 

[Vickie]

If you are comfortable with it go for it!

 

[Indigo77]

Go for it & enjoy!

 

[onetwothreebp]

having a healthy relationship with your husband is extremely important to your child's wellbeing.just because you have children doesn't mean that you suddenly don't need alone time with your spouse anymore and that if you have someone else watch your child, you're being selfish and missing the baby-free days.

it is still so important to make time with your partner because if you two are happy and in sync, it will benefit your lo. and children need that bond with their grandparents. it's a completely win/win situation.

don't feel guilty and enjoy your day!

 

[Peggy O]

Oh I wish we could do that for sex....my mom and dad live an hour away (We moved when I was months pregnant) we drop LO off all the time for shopping back home, and I just stop back every 2 hours to BF her. Sometimes I want to get a room at a hotel near there so we could DTD in peace for a a couple hours...we have only done it once since we had her, on Valentines day. Honestly I was not even sure I wanted to but once we did I found I want to more, but we can't, by the time OH gets home from work she is in fussy mode. Ugh. I miss couple time too...if you can drop LO off and have some grown up time...go for it! Lucky you, nothing to feel bad about at all.

 

[Insectile]

We left our baby with MIL two different times for long weekends and once for a night out. She lives about an hour away and practically begged to take him. She's smart and capable, and even managed to clear up some diaper rash that just would not go away for us. (She ended up giving naked play time, corn-starching his bum, and bathing him several times a day. And she loved doing it!)

I didnt feel guilty at all. I did miss him, but he does very well away from us and I knew she could handle him. I just relaxed, enjoyed sleeping in, and continued to put off all the housework that I finally had time to do.