is it ever the right time

[Bumblebee24]

Hi Ladies,
me & hubby are considering ntnp/ttc these next few months for baby #2.

We had a VERY difficult 1st baby who may I add has turned out to be an amazing little girl I think I suffered with postnatal depression, it was 6 months of hell. She cried pretty much non stop, I know all babies cry but this was something else.

Anyway that behind us we got over it & are looking at try for #2. However there are 1 of 2 reasons am worried its not the right time.

First I just don't know if I'd cope with an activity toddler & another very difficult baby.

Secondly my husband the main bread winner of our family is looking to set up his own roofing company. Now I work but only part time & will be on maternity for 9 months so very low pay.

Should we wait or continue ntnp. Is anytime really the right time.

 

[maybenum3]

This is one reason why we are waiting at the moment. My partner says he wants us to be more ‘ready’ financially etc and I’m not sure I would cope with a bad pregnancy/labour again. I guess we have to weigh it up. Would be regret it more going for it or not going for it??

 

[RainbowDrop_x]

In my opinion there isn't ever a right time to have a baby, but there can always be a wrong time.

If we all waited for the perfect time we'd never have them

 

[Rachel320]

Bumblebee, what age is your other child? I had a similar baby, cried and moaned a lot, never seemed content, hardly slept. I also had rotational forceps and took months to heal from that. So feels like there’s a lot at stake when thinking about baby #2

 

[MissYogi]

I'm in a very similar situation, very energetic and challenging baby (nine months old) and I always thought we'd try for another around now, but I'm just not sure if it is a good idea. But then, will there ever be a right time?

 

[Bumblebee24]

Bumblebee, what age is your other child? I had a similar baby, cried and moaned a lot, never seemed content, hardly slept. I also had rotational forceps and took months to heal from that. So feels like there’s a lot at stake when thinking about baby #2

Sorry for the late reply, crazy busy & not been on here in a while. She's 4 in a few weeks & starting school in September.