Is there a place for Very LTTC ladies?(VLTTC) 3+ years?

[kaypray]

I'm struggling lately…. it's been almost 4 years. Treatments didn't work, they couldn't find anything really wrong.

My hubby had one bad test a few years ago with 36% motility, then 2 additional tests with 75% motility.

After years of tests, they said I had what appeared to be polycystic ovaries but since I didn't have the other symptoms of PCOS, they said I don't have that.

We have tried 3 rounds of clomid (almost made me blind and crazy), we tried 3 IUI's, nothing worked. Never a BFP. Not sure what to do. We are not moving forward with IVF due to personal religious beliefs (we don't judge anyone who does). It's just very heartbreaking month after month and it seems like my PMS is getting worse and worse and more emotional. Not sure what to do, the Dr's don't know what the deal is

 

[Wish4another1]

kaypray
I didn't want to read and run - I am sorry that you are on this type of journey - it really does suck the life out of you...

I have been off the pill since July 2012 and we haven't had one glimpse of a BFP - so defintely not as long as you - but still disheartening every month for the to keep flying in...

I wish I had an answer for you - there are lots of threads here that maybe could hep you??

I hope your miracle is right around the corner!!

 

[waitingongod1]

Kaypray so sorry you have been going down this hard road. Its hard to figure out why God has given us this struggle. One time i yelled at my husband and told him I don't want this struggle God has given me haha...did the clomid make you ovulate?

 

[Prayingforno1]

I'm struggling lately…. it's been almost 4 years. Treatments didn't work, they couldn't find anything really wrong.

My hubby had one bad test a few years ago with 36% motility, then 2 additional tests with 75% motility.

After years of tests, they said I had what appeared to be polycystic ovaries but since I didn't have the other symptoms of PCOS, they said I don't have that.

We have tried 3 rounds of clomid (almost made me blind and crazy), we tried 3 IUI's, nothing worked. Never a BFP. Not sure what to do. We are not moving forward with IVF due to personal religious beliefs (we don't judge anyone who does). It's just very heartbreaking month after month and it seems like my PMS is getting worse and worse and more emotional. Not sure what to do, the Dr's don't know what the deal is

I know exactly how you feel hun. As you can tell from my signature I have been on this ttc journey a while now without any sucess so I know all about the long road. My original doctor (2years of ttc) never did a scan but ordered a hsg which came back clear put me on clomid and said give it time. After I didn't get any good result I went back to him and said that something has to be wrong/off. He then ordered a semen analysis which showed DH had poor sperm quality in basically every area. Referred us to an urologist who only upset us further by running more tests and saying come back in a year if nothing happens (REALLY???) . Frustrated with that doctor I finally did some research for local specialists. On my first visit to this doc in Jan 2013 he gave me an ultrasound and identified cysts he thought were endomitrosis. After months and months on meds I had a laparoscopy last December. This year has been a total nightmare though. Endless tests, proding, scans and tears we got the green light last month to try IUI. After taking pills, injections etc cycle cancelled and I find myself saying WTH. How many more tears do I have to shed? How many brave faces do I have to put on in front of family? When will this rollercoaster ride end for me?

I wouldn't have ever imagined ttc would be so difficult. I orignally dreamed of 3/4 kids but now I would be oh so grateful and blessed to have just 1.

I know our time must be near kaypray and our tears will turn into joy and we will be happydancing in no time.

 

[kaypray]

Kaypray so sorry you have been going down this hard road. Its hard to figure out why God has given us this struggle. One time i yelled at my husband and told him I don't want this struggle God has given me haha...did the clomid make you ovulate?

I ovulate every month that's what makes it so hard bc there's just no answers. I feel like my PMS gets worse every month I'm just so emotional and can't be around people. They say the meanest things and I just can't. I deleted my fb for a while bc it's just too hard

 

[kaypray]

I'm struggling lately…. it's been almost 4 years. Treatments didn't work, they couldn't find anything really wrong.

My hubby had one bad test a few years ago with 36% motility, then 2 additional tests with 75% motility.

After years of tests, they said I had what appeared to be polycystic ovaries but since I didn't have the other symptoms of PCOS, they said I don't have that.

We have tried 3 rounds of clomid (almost made me blind and crazy), we tried 3 IUI's, nothing worked. Never a BFP. Not sure what to do. We are not moving forward with IVF due to personal religious beliefs (we don't judge anyone who does). It's just very heartbreaking month after month and it seems like my PMS is getting worse and worse and more emotional. Not sure what to do, the Dr's don't know what the deal is

I know exactly how you feel hun. As you can tell from my signature I have been on this ttc journey a while now without any sucess so I know all about the long road. My original doctor (2years of ttc) never did a scan but ordered a hsg which came back clear put me on clomid and said give it time. After I didn't get any good result I went back to him and said that something has to be wrong/off. He then ordered a semen analysis which showed DH had poor sperm quality in basically every area. Referred us to an urologist who only upset us further by running more tests and saying come back in a year if nothing happens (REALLY???) . Frustrated with that doctor I finally did some research for local specialists. On my first visit to this doc in Jan 2013 he gave me an ultrasound and identified cysts he thought were endomitrosis. After months and months on meds I had a laparoscopy last December. This year has been a total nightmare though. Endless tests, proding, scans and tears we got the green light last month to try IUI. After taking pills, injections etc cycle cancelled and I find myself saying WTH. How many more tears do I have to shed? How many brave faces do I have to put on in front of family? When will this rollercoaster ride end for me?

I wouldn't have ever imagined ttc would be so difficult. I orignally dreamed of 3/4 kids but now I would be oh so grateful and blessed to have just 1.

I know our time must be near kaypray and our tears will turn into joy and we will be happydancing in no time.

I dreamed of the same thing. 4 kids… now it doesn't look like I'll have any
*hugs**** this is such a hard journey

 

[Prayingforno1]

Yes it really is difficult but worth the struggle. I see from your signature we both started ttc the same month and year (Feb 2011). You are a bit ahead of me though as my first iui will be this month

 

[heres_hoping]

I am sorry you are on this hard and painful road. I just wanted to recommend a book which I am currently finding very helpful- Hannah's hope by Jennifer Saake.

 

[CareBear]

I've been ttcing for 7 years. I've tried clomid, found out I have high prolactin levels been on meds for 3 years still no baby. One definite bfp followed by bfn's and a loss at 6 weeks. That happened last year and nothing since. Can't do iui or ivf for health reasons and they will not improve my chances of getting a bfp. I should have a six year old yet I'm still at the ttc stage. It's sucks and I feel for all of us in this position.

 

[Buttercup77]

Hi ladies, I've been trying for many years. In the past I was able to get pregnant on my own but the pregnancies all ended in mc's. It's so hard seeing friends, family, co workers even stars have families and I'm stuck in the same place. I took a long break and now committed to doing everything I can to ttc and have that family. It's helpful to see others that are in the same situation as I. I hope that we all get our BFP's very soon.

I'm currently 10dpo and on cd26. Some symptoms but it be AF is on her way...

 

[Shandis]

Hi Girls!

I am in the same boat, I have been TTC since Feb 2009 with no luck and I have never seen a BFP. I finally got the courage to go to the Fertility Doctor so my first appointment is at the end of this month. I have been working with my OB for a little over a year now with a small break due to my career. I am now on my second round of Femara and I also did one round of Clomid but it cuased me to overstim. I am hoping this journey comes to an end soo for all of us and we all have the strength to carry on. Baby dust to you ladies!

 

[Buttercup77]

Hi Girls!

I am in the same boat, I have been TTC since Feb 2009 with no luck and I have never seen a BFP. I finally got the courage to go to the Fertility Doctor so my first appointment is at the end of this month. I have been working with my OB for a little over a year now with a small break due to my career. I am now on my second round of Femara and I also did one round of Clomid but it cuased me to overstim. I am hoping this journey comes to an end soo for all of us and we all have the strength to carry on. Baby dust to you ladies!

Hi Shandis!

Welcome and best of luck to you! x

 

[Want1Too]

I'm struggling lately…. it's been almost 4 years. Treatments didn't work, they couldn't find anything really wrong.

My hubby had one bad test a few years ago with 36% motility, then 2 additional tests with 75% motility.

After years of tests, they said I had what appeared to be polycystic ovaries but since I didn't have the other symptoms of PCOS, they said I don't have that.

We have tried 3 rounds of clomid (almost made me blind and crazy), we tried 3 IUI's, nothing worked. Never a BFP. Not sure what to do. We are not moving forward with IVF due to personal religious beliefs (we don't judge anyone who does). It's just very heartbreaking month after month and it seems like my PMS is getting worse and worse and more emotional. Not sure what to do, the Dr's don't know what the deal is

I know exactly how you feel hun. As you can tell from my signature I have been on this ttc journey a while now without any sucess so I know all about the long road. My original doctor (2years of ttc) never did a scan but ordered a hsg which came back clear put me on clomid and said give it time. After I didn't get any good result I went back to him and said that something has to be wrong/off. He then ordered a semen analysis which showed DH had poor sperm quality in basically every area. Referred us to an urologist who only upset us further by running more tests and saying come back in a year if nothing happens (REALLY???) . Frustrated with that doctor I finally did some research for local specialists. On my first visit to this doc in Jan 2013 he gave me an ultrasound and identified cysts he thought were endomitrosis. After months and months on meds I had a laparoscopy last December. This year has been a total nightmare though. Endless tests, proding, scans and tears we got the green light last month to try IUI. After taking pills, injections etc cycle cancelled and I find myself saying WTH. How many more tears do I have to shed? How many brave faces do I have to put on in front of family? When will this rollercoaster ride end for me?

I wouldn't have ever imagined ttc would be so difficult. I orignally dreamed of 3/4 kids but now I would be oh so grateful and blessed to have just 1.

I know our time must be near kaypray and our tears will turn into joy and we will be happydancing in no time.

Hi Ladies - I hope all of our journeys end with child(ren). I too have been trying for some time. My OBGYN did nothing for me for 2 years, was aware of a cyst on one of my ovaries. Finally with no I demanded by OBGYN refer me. They did.

I got to the RE and had several test done immediately (vaginal US and blood work). My Vit D was low. I now take 2kiu daily. I also had the HSG and SONO procedure. Results: a polyp was found and minimal Endo. I just recently had surgery (LAP w. Hyst). The doctor now recommends injections with natural BD. My husband wants to try this option first before the IUI and insurance will not allow us to go straight to IVF without doing other options.

Prayingforno1 - Do you mind sharing what kind of injections you took or taking? I have my appointment w/ nurse on 15th regarding injections.

Good Luck to all of you ladies on this journey just know your not alone.

 

[lupinerainbow]

Hey ladies, i've not been around here for quite a while as i am currently on a break but its been over 5 years of active TTC and not got anywhere, all my friends are on 2nd 3rd and 4th babies ive never even had a positive pregnancy test. Looking to start clomid some time after our fertility appt we are going to arrange in february. We was seeing her but i wanted to exhaust the natural approach first, had all the tests done and i have a retroverted uterus which shouldnt cause a problem and PCOS i take 1000mg metformin a day. I know the reason is my eggs dont mature they stick to my ovaries, husband is perfect (fertility wise lol ). All my TTC friends from here have 3/4 year olds, and some are having their second children. Always seem left behind when it comes to babies.



xx

 

[Babydustpeace]

Hi ladies,

I can totally relate to everything already said in each of your posts

As you can see from my signature, we are ttc#1 for over 10 years! We had 2 ending in miscarriage early on but we have not seen a in a very long time. This journey has tested me to the limit and over the past year I have tried to deal with the emotional aspects of it all with the help of my Acupuncturist/Holistic Health practitioner. This has helped greatly especially with all of the permanent anxiety & stress I was feeling.

You can see some of our journey through the link to FF in my signature.

Roll forward to July this year .... I found out that I have high prolactin levels. I also discovered that my neglectful Fertility Specialist knew this 9 years ago but never treated me for it!! I am currently seeing an amazing RE who is treating the high prolactin with medication called Dostinex. I started taking it about 7 weeks ago and saw a longer LP (14 days for the first time ever) last cycle and much earlier ovulation than normal this cycle. I feel a lot more hopeful than I have for a while but at the same time I have age working against me now & I don't know what quality my eggs are at this stage!!

I wish you all and end to this struggle soon

 

[deafgal01]

Don't know of any on here. But I definitely can relate.

 

[Carybear]

Hi all... DH and I have been TTC for over 4 years... We had one mc 2 years ago but nothing since. It has really helped to put my trust in God and realize that His timing is perfect. It's just so hard because we get impatient...

Sorry to hear about everyone's struggles, but praying that we all see those two little lines soon

 

[nessaw]

Hi ladies am sorry to see you all in this situation. We have been ttc since dec 10 when I came off depo. After a year cd21 tests showed no ov however it turned out to be early ov. 1st bfp was a blighted ovum found at 9 weeks. Oh sa-low motility morphology and count. He went on vits. We then had 3 rounds of clomid with no luck. I then had to have the mmr jab so no ttc for 4 months which was torture but a goid mental break. Referred for ivf but had to lose weight. 2nd bfp naturally-twins lost at 14 wks due to twin to twin transfusion. 3rd bfp just lost mmc at 11 wks. Rmc consultant at the end of the month. Sorry bit of a long story! Nit actually sure if or when we're going to ttc again as not sure I can go through it again mentally but the idea of not trying again seems strange. Sending you all strength and hope we get our chance soon.xx

 

[Eshnick]

Hi ladies,
My DBF and I have been TTC for a little over 4 yrs now. In the beginning we were more NTNP but I had the hope of conceiving. I thought we would've been pregnant bc I had 1 pregnancy in my 20s, unfortunately due to a very rare condition the baby didn't make it, and my DBF has a 13 yo daughter.
After a year, though, I just knew that something was wrong with me. I blamed the D&C I'd had done in my 20s for our lack of conception. My Gyn tried to assure me that everything looked fine to her in sonograms. She sent me for a HSG which proved that my uterus, ovaries and tubes looked great. She insisted that my DBF have an SA done.
It took months to convince him but he finally relented. Then oddly enough I backed away from the idea of him having an SA, again I just knew something was wrong with my body.
Fast forward to this year and I finally decided that at 36 (me) and 37 (DBF) we had to see an RE. We went in Sept and DBF finally had his SA and lo and behold it came back with no sperm. We were both shocked and devastated. It's a miracle that DBF agreed to a second SA after taking multis, increased fruits and veggies and cutting back in his drinking.
We won't get the results until next Thursday, but I'm more determined than ever that we are going to get our BFP with a sticky bean or two! My only regret is that I didn't follow through 3 yrs ago with the SA and RE referral. Nevertheless, I pray for all of us, that we remain strong and encouraged on our journeys. Only God knows why this is the road we're on, but I'm a firm believer in everything happens for a reason. We may not understand it all now, but there are lessons we're all learning along the way.

Lots of baby dust and love to you all!

 

[lisap2008]

DH and I have been trying on and off sence september 2008 we did get a lucky BFP the first month we tried but it ended in early M/C, I thought for sure that since we got pregnant so quick it could happen again naturally but 7 months went by with nothing but BFN so we went in for testing and found out I am good .ovulating every month and HSG was clear , cd 3 bloods were all good. DH went in for a SA and a few hours later I got a call saying his count was low. so I wanted to proceed with medically assisted conception but DH was against it so my only choice was to put him on supplements and hope for a BFP, well 2 years went by with nothing happening so we both gave up and went on low carb diets.
early november of 2010 I started not feeling right so I tested and got a surprise BFP sadly it ended in M/C, have continued TTC on and off sence then , it hit me hard when we reached the 5th year of TTC and I had to accept the fact that I may never get pregnant again as I am starting to run out of time.