Is there any happy single moms?

[Kate&Lucas]

Luckily, by the looks of it, the member has taken her happy thoughts with her and left the forum

 

[MooCow11]

My partner left me 22 weeks pregnant .. Was hard at first to come to terms with being a single mom for the first time but I just think 'stuff him he's not worth it and look what he's missing out on' that's my view .. My daughter was only born 10 days ago but I couldn't be happier to be honest who cares if I dont have a man in my life .. No one needs one (if u wanna be technical) lol us women are strong xxxxxxxx so keep all your chins up and NEVER let a man get you down xxxx

 

[Dezireey]

Luckily, by the looks of it, the member has taken her happy thoughts with her and left the forum

Thank god. You don't stand a chance in this forum with a stupid post like that. We ladies are all in the mood to take no crap from anyone anymore after what we've all been through lol. Don't mess with the single mums!

 

[Jennifurball]

Agreed!!

I remember in first tri when everyone kept going on about MMC's and I was worried sick about my 12 week scan and didn't need to keep being reminded what can happen, so I just stopped going on it so much when it started upsetting me, I didn't tell everyone to stop posting their bad news because it is affecting MY life. Bloody selfish I tell you.

 

[jaytee146]

I think overall for the most part.. I'm happy.. I feel that I come here and vent about things I wouldn't and couldn't normally say to my family and friends as they wouldn't understand . I think like pp said most women come here trying to find their way out of hurt and pain.. and your happiness is a reminder that things get better, hold on... that outlook maybe a gift to someone who can't see the forest for the trees :wave:

 

[new_to_ttc]

Obviously she wasnt that happy if she needed to come on here and moan??

Im a very happy single parent, but then I have had lots of years to get used to it and FOB (well the older one anyway) is totally out of my life, unfortunately out of my sons life too his choice but it does mean he doesnt let him down on a regular basis and hurt him over and over and my son knows he can talk to me any time and he is happy and not felt messed around.. happy boy, happy mama!!! And you know what, despite having 9 years of being a single parent - i still have bad days and I still get upset! And despite having an amazing man in my life right now (courting - he isnt part of our family life) I still have sad days. Single parenting is amazingly rewarding, but it can also be just as amazingly lonely and hard and scary at times!!!

 

[rebeccalouise]

I'm happy, I get to do things how I want. don't get me wrong, I'd love to start dating soon & meet someone but I'm not depressed about how things are. FOB has LO on a regular basis now so it gives me a break, I love being able to chillout for a while & eventually I want to start going out. I do miss LO like mad when she is gone, but every mum deserves a break! x

 

[Rosella]

I get no break apart from hiring additional childcare, work full time, and it is extremely hard!!!!

 

[rebeccalouise]

I get no break apart from hiring additional childcare, work full time, and it is extremely hard!!!!

I bet! I wouldn't get a break if FOB didn't see LO.. he's only recently started, so I do know what it's like not to have one! x

 

[new_to_ttc]

I found the key to 'getting a break' was a good bedtime routine. My eldest son is 9years+ and hasnt once been with his dad, so thats a long time without a break, often going to work was my break! But a good bedtime routine means the evening is all mine, for a hot bath, movie, book etc anything that wasnt mummy related - house keeping etc can wait! xxxx

 

[RaRalalala]

I complain about FOB because he is so useless as a father (I would call him more of a sperm donor) but I'm happy to not be with him since he is such a waste of space. Was me who ended it so I've always been quite happy about it!

 

[jaytee146]

okay so i gave this some thought, and i think i wouldn't mind conversating with another single father. maybe it would be easier as he'd understand the struggles and rewards of doing this alone. . . never met a single father though

 

[wantnum2]

I am a single parent and extremely happy. My DD is 12 this year, so I guess I have had time to get used to it. Loving every minute of it and also trying for my second with a donor.

Lots of love xx

 

[AnnabelsMummy]

MEEE!!!!!!! ( i haven't read any other posts here sorry..) But i am really happy as a single mummy, i feel free and i completely adore it.

I have two beautiful daughters, and i look at them every day and think, i've done this all by myself, they make me so proud of myself and them! Even if i do say so myself, they are really delightful children.

When i was with my ex my daughters stability and the amount of attention she got was no where near what she is now, and it showed. She is so confident, and watching her become like that and blossom, has made me feel more and more happy about being a single mummy.

 

[Seren0613]

I'm not a single mom, but my OH is away enough that I have a pretty good idea of what being one would be like. Ideally I'd prefer not to be a single mom but if it ended up happening for whatever reason, I wouldn't be unhappy or depressed. I can support us both financially just fine and I'm good at everything I set my mind to so I'm sure I'd be an awesome single mom if I had to be
(Keeping in mind my OH isn't an antagonistic douchebag, he prefers not to argue if he doesn't have to, so that's a luxury not many people have)

I think you should go to the "I'm not single but my husband is gone" forum. On your way over, you can pass by the "I judge people in situations that I cannot relate to" forum as well as the "everyone should cater to my mood" forum. Alright, thanks for stopping by. Don't let the sad, depressing door hit you on the way out.

 

[Dream.dream]

Oh smh

No were all a bunch of miserable cranky man haters who are mad at the world *sarcasm*
Now seriously . Yes lol there are happy single moms. I am happy.

I have bad days too and honestly being able to express my hurt feelings about FOB to people who have been there and understand is hugely theraputic and part of the reason I can get through and let it go.

It's taken me 4 years to be able to honestly say I'm at peace with my sons dad, so its also helpful to me to be able to share with some of the people who are just starting out what worked for me and what didn't .

There is alot of happy posts in here you look for them and honestly anyone who doesn't see them is clearly not looking

 

[Rags]

I'm happy, tired but happy. I'm a single mum by choice so don't have the hassle of dealing with a father who can't be bothered half of the time.