Is this a stupid rule?

[SpringCrane]

I'm insisting that the name we choose for our next baby not start with any of the first initials already in our family. So, no S, H, or C names. My rule is really irritating my husband, but it just makes practical sense to me! It's not as if we both love a name that I'm refusing to use because of my rule... we aren't anywhere close to settling on anything. I just want us to select from the others! Well, I also don't want an A name because our last name is with an A. And AA... Alcoholics Anonymous...

Am I being weird/picky?

 

[Jessicahide]

A bit.... I have an Alexander and now an Andrew too, i suddenly fell in love with the name Andrew and my husband has wanted it for every one of our boys.... just seemed right, i wouldn't have said no we cant have it even though we both love the name because he will have the same initials as his older brother....But different strokes and all that.

 

[Starlight32]

I don't think it's weird. My husband and I already have the same initials, so it wouldn't bother us to use the same initials for our child (if we liked any of the names with the letter... which we don't), but I understand what you mean by not wanting two siblings to have a name that starts with the same letter.

 

[staralfur]

I wouldn't want to name 3+ children all with the same beginning letter (Duggar style) but I think 2 is perfectly fine. I'm drawn to a lot of A names so it's a very real possibility for our next LO to have the same initials as our first. I think it would be silly to write off a name you loved because of it, but if you're not super fond of any of those names anyway then no biggie!

 

[_Delilah_]

It makes sense for easy sorting of the mail 😆

 

[LoraLoo]

I think it's a bit picky. We have 3 As in our house (hubby is aaron, kids are Amy and Alice) our surname also begins with A! 😂 I'm drawn to vowel names and if we have another daughter, the 2 names I have picked both begin with A! Doesn't bother me at all

 

[Eleanor ace]

I think it's a little picky, but if it matters to you then I'd stick with it (unless your OH falls in love with a name which is on the banned letter list, in which case I'd consider reconsidering); it's only a few letters so it isn't limiting you massively.

 

[minties]

I guess it depends on how many children you plan to have, for just a couple of kids I probably would want their names to start with different letters.

 

[SaraVO]

I understand. My husband and I have rejected anything starting with B F or J because our last name is an O. Bad initials... Im a twin and I understand avoiding things that are matchy.

I went to school with siblings Shaun and Shauna. And I know a family of six with all R names. I think that if individuality is a priority for you then stick to it.

 

[ZooMa]

I don't think you should *absolutely* rule out a name you *love* just because of the initial. However, I am with you in that I would like everyone to have their own initial (makes for nice nicknames or at least shorthand).

FWIW, our two cats' names start with B, and it's hard to call them by their correct names sometimes. I know pets aren't children, but I imagine it would relate. "Billy! I mean, Brandon! I mean, Beau!".... Your mind goes to the first sound and your mouth fills in the rest from habit sometimes.

 

[minties]

I don't think you should *absolutely* rule out a name you *love* just because of the initial. However, I am with you in that I would like everyone to have their own initial (makes for nice nicknames or at least shorthand).

FWIW, our two cats' names start with B, and it's hard to call them by their correct names sometimes. I know pets aren't children, but I imagine it would relate. "Billy! I mean, Brandon! I mean, Beau!".... Your mind goes to the first sound and your mouth fills in the rest from habit sometimes.

My MIL has a Jason and a Jody and does this ALL the time!

 

[LoraLoo]

I don't think you should *absolutely* rule out a name you *love* just because of the initial. However, I am with you in that I would like everyone to have their own initial (makes for nice nicknames or at least shorthand).

FWIW, our two cats' names start with B, and it's hard to call them by their correct names sometimes. I know pets aren't children, but I imagine it would relate. "Billy! I mean, Brandon! I mean, Beau!".... Your mind goes to the first sound and your mouth fills in the rest from habit sometimes.

My MIL has a Jason and a Jody and does this ALL the time!

I do this all the time to my kids that don't even have the same initials. Sometimes they even get called the dogs name 😂 Sometimes I just shout 'you!' Because I get it wrong 2 or 3 times haha! 🙈

 

[SpringCrane]

Thanks for all the feedback! My husband will be delighted that most of y'all agree with him.

I don't really like any names this time, so that's obviously a bigger issue. If we both loved a name that started with a claimed letter, I wouldn't refuse to use it... I think ;-)

Perhaps I'm just especially lazy, but I end up using first initials in a lot of ways, so it just seems easier to not have any duplicates. And I agree with those that said having a couple with the same initial isn't like having a family of seven all with the same. And we plan on this being the last.

Our other big naming issue is that all the names I do like my husband considers "dog names" which isn't fair because everyone gives their pets human names now (eg, Milo, Ollie -- literally neighbors' dogs). My husband likes really classic names (Jonathan, William, Mabel, etc). I also like last name first names like Cooper, Porter, Reilly, but he doesn't at all. We just really aren't finding any common ground.

The main reason I got to name my son what I did was because my husband saw me in agonizing labor and said we could name him whatever I wanted (he knew what I'd choose). I don't think he'll fall for that again, and it's probably why he's insisting we decide on a girl and boy name before labor this time ;-) (He does love our son's name now and was never really against it; I wouldn't do that).

Anyway, thanks for all of the input!

 

[pippi_89]

I don't! I think he real question is, will it really bug you if you ignore it? Will it bother you in 10 years that you did or didn't pick a name based on that rule?

I have a similar rule with initials (vowels but not the same letters) and middle names (girls have flower names, boys have Welsh names) so I'm even pickier OH goes nuts!

I know it's just weird rules I made up in my head but I know if I ignore it it will still be in the back of my mind, even in 20 years time. It just depends on how much it really means to you.

 

[wishingonastar]

I'm told I'm fussy! Our surname starts with an S so every B name is ruled out as no way I'm giving a child initials BS. Equally I'm funny about names that start with an S or end in an S as it's too much...especially if we ended up with a child with a lisp as that would be awful for them. This drives husband mad but I'm unmovable.

I'm not funny about people having same initials, that wouldn't bother me as it would never really come up other than post perhaps as they get older but children rarely get post anyway.

However I bet your husband is being fussy in ways he doesn't realise...like my husband wrote off a lovely boys name as he said he has a friend with the same name. Well we've been together 12 yrs and I have met said person once for 5 mins when we happened to cross paths with them randomly while away on hol...how he justifies writing off that name for someone he never sees I'm not sure!

I figure if all else fails with this baby we're now married so I can go register it with him aways the dad without him needing to be there so he'd best stop being silly...lol

 

[ButternutBabe]

I don't think your rule is silly. It's a personal preference and I honestly do think it's quite logical. I remember my sister getting mad at me when I made my email my initials, because her email was her initials, when our initials aren't even the same. Siblings are always directly compared to one another and it can be ridiculously annoying, I can very much understand wanting them to have their own separate stuff.

 

[aidensxmomma]

I don't think your rule is too picky. That probably has a lot to do with the fact that I have the same rule I've just never been a fan of families using the same letter for all their kids' names. It's different when there's a smaller family, though. I have always planned on having four kids, so I definitely didn't want the same first letter of their first names for all of them.

I would reconsider my rule if there was a name I absolutely love, though. Except for A names. My son is Aiden, my brother is Austin, and my nephew is Alexzander - my grandma has the hardest time when she's talking to any of them and will often go through all their names before getting the right one.