Is this selfish..

[Kaylattc]

Wanting a second rainbow baby?

 

[Andypanda6570]

Of course it is not selfish, most of us also want this. I think the only difference with us all is the timing. Some people jump right back and try again others like me don't. I lost Ava 10 months ago and only now am I trying. The fear has held me back for so very long. I know if I do get pregnant I will be petrified, but the fear of not trying again is worse for me. I am 41 so i need to do this now, i can't wait any longer, don't ever think it is selfish we all have different feelings . XOXO Good Luck

 

[babybeanz]

Hey Kayla, I miscarried only 6 days ago and really want to start trying again soon. I also have feelings of guilt about it, but I think its only natural. Our angel babies can never be replaced, and I know we will never forget them.

I think the bottom line is that we just want a baby, so I please dont beat yourself up about it. xx

 

[JellyBeann]

Hiya, totally not selfish! I miscarried in July, jumped straight back into it, miscarried again ion October, and now I am pregnant again, 4 weeks along, so still early, But if it's what you want, go for it!

 

[Twinkie210]

I don't think it is selfish at all. The reason we TTC is because we want a baby we can hold and cuddle and raise to an adult and when we MC, that baby gets taken away, but not the original "want". My angel makes me want another baby even more. I don't think our Angels would want us to give up on our dreams. People raise multiple kids all the time, we just have some that live in Heaven!

 

[Kaylattc]

Thank you ladies,

My doctor is saying I can't try again for three months do y'all have any idea why I would have to wait?

 

[Andypanda6570]

Thank you ladies,

My doctor is saying I can't try again for three months do y'all have any idea why I would have to wait?

All doctors are different. Honestly I don't see any reason you would have to wait unless it was a molar pregnancy or something along those lines that would be harmful to you. When i lost Ava my doctor told me I could wait 1 cycle and try again. I gave birth to her so i bled for 5 weeks then got my AF.

I feel it is really up to the person when they should start trying.
Good Luck

 

[Twinkie210]

I would talk to your Dr. and ask the specific reason why you should wait 3 months. He should be able to explain his medical opinion. He may say it is for emotional reasons...

 

[Kaylattc]

Thank I am going to ask him everything tomorrow. I just have been dreading going in because I don't want to hear the words....

 

[silverlizard]

It is not even the slightest tiniest bit selfish. *hugs*

 

[SabrinaKat]

I was advised to wait as the emotional toil was quite heavy. Ultimately, we waited a bit longer as my FIL was very ill, but it gave us/me a chance to deal with alot of the issues that the mc brought up....

ask your doctor 'why', but for me, it was better to wait --everybody is different, tho., and the most important thing, is to take care of yourself!

best wishes

 

[mimi1979]

Not selfish at all. I feel the exact same way. Even though I will never forget my angel, I am not deterred in my desire to be a mommy. Continue to stay strong. Let us know how it goes with your doctor. xxxx

 

[Reb S]

Absolutely not selfish! As for the 3 months - unless there is a medical reason, or you're not ready emotionally, some new research suggests we are MORE fertile just after MC, so it's worth checking with your doctor. x

 

[Kaylattc]

Absolutely not selfish! As for the 3 months - unless there is a medical reason, or you're not ready emotionally, some new research suggests we are MORE fertile just after MC, so it's worth checking with your doctor. x

I have never heard that before. wow I am not getting any tests done I don't see why he would want me to wait.

Where did you hear about that?

 

[Reb S]

From my acupuncturist - she's very well informed. Try Google-ing it and see what you come up with, but I've heard it quite a lot x

 

[Kaylattc]

I write in the reoccurring miscarr thread about what happened today

I am going to start trying. Next month.Thank you for that info I am going to look that up now. I have been obsessed with google since I found out I was MCing...

 

[Reb S]

Maybe if you're having recurrent miscarriages he wants to do tests and therefore doesn't want you to get pregnant just yet - it could end badly again? I should check with your FS and see what they say. Is it a Missed MC? Are you having DnC or waiting for natural miscarriage?

 

[Kaylattc]

He told me to wait for natural and to put the tissue in the fridge and bring it to his office so he can send it for testing and he wants me back in three weeks for an u/s and blood testing..

Other than that I have no idea what's going on with me.. I was told by someone my levels would be higher and now I'm thinking igot hose wrong and I am just really confused right now...

 

[Reb S]

Sounds like you do need to wait if he's going to do testing - no point in going on to get pg and having another...hopefully he'll find out what's causing it and you can fix it and get your baby!!! x