I didn't give my OH the choice, I decided when I was pregnant we were using cloth, and I bought a load of pre-loved nappies and wraps. However, he was reluctant, because he had memories of old-style cloth from being a kid when his mother was a childminder and there was all these smelly buckets everywhere. He wanted for us to get the shit into a scented plastic bag and into the bin asap.
It was a long, hard slog for me to get him to listen to all my arguments, and tbh, he never really admitted there was anything in my arguments, I think he just realised this was a fight he wouldn't win and it didn't matter the barriers he tried to put up I was doing it and that was that. I used the environmental argument, the cost argument, the better for baby argument, you name it, if I could find a positive I waved it in his face.
However, my OH is an extremely stubborn man, just as stubborn as I am (makes for some fun) and although I won the war, overall, I didn't win every battle. I haven't managed to persuade him to put Adam in cloth overnight, he thinks one disposable a day is fine and - blah blah blah, and I let him have his way so he gives me a break on the other things he is inclined to gripe about, even now and it's 11 months since we've been in cloth (began at 1 month because it was only then I had my head around everything else sufficient to take on the extra washing). He moans mostly about the washing machine, which is very quiet in its wash cycle but horrendous on its spin, and he also hates the nappies hanging round the flat (we have no outdoor drying space). I actually bend over backwards to try and accommodate his feelings and if I can I do the washing while he is out, and try to do the hanging on racks etc, when he's not in the room.
Ideally, he'd have me get rid of the cloth, but there is no way. He does use it, though, and doesn't whine any more, but it's only in the last couple of weeks he's attempted a popper-fastening nappy. He also uses cloth wipes on poo, after a lot of resistence! He tries to rinse pooey nappies, but doesn't do a great job and I always have to redo them, but the thought is there. He rarely disassembles pocket nappies when they go in the pail. And he won't even attempt to stuff a nappy, or put together something like an Itti SIO. He wouldn't wash them, and I really doubt he's ever listened to me enough to understand why I don't use loads of washing powder and conditioner on them, so I really hope he never tries. He would put them away if they were all dry but not the way I would, all ready to go for next time, he'd just shove them in the drawer any which way.
One thing he doesn't understand is the positive pleasure I get from it all. If I didn't, and I was resenting the nappy care, I really don't think I'd do this, but I honestly don't regard it as a chore. And I am not a housework-inclined person at ALL. It's strange, really, and I can understand why people (my friends and family) are very confused by it.
I do the washing, drying, stuffing and putting away, but then again, i do all the washing seeing as im on mat leave n he works. 
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