It has been such a nice day so far...

[CeeCee2010]

It has been such a nice day so far and then I remembered that the monster in law is coming for the whole weekend I always dislike her visits immensely. She always makes snide comments about my weight / body, she expects me to run around after her and never lifts a finger, she is so rude to me about other things (she once told me that my DH had "settled" for me when he could have had the pick of the bunch) and she is so fussy with her food and when I cook her something she says she'll eat, she never bloody eats it.

Sorry to moan, I just always hate the way she makes me feel. She wasn't even bothered about this pregnancy until she found out we were having a girl and now she only speaks to my DH and never asks how I am. She always puts me down but pretends she's being nice like "Oh your so... quirky" basically meaning I'm weird. She even said she hopes that DD doesn't get my "tomboy genes" and that if she's anything like me she'll be a "proper little madam".

I wish I had a nice mother in law! Must look at Boo's 4d scan pics again to cheer myself up

Sorry again for the moan XXX Any advice on how not to spend the whole weekend in tears or end up killing her would be greatly appreciated XXX

 

[bump0911]

Does your hubby not stand up for you when she is being so mean? You need to show a united front. x

 

[CeeCee2010]

Does your hubby not stand up for you when she is being so mean? You need to show a united front. x

She's crafty. She insults me properly when he can't hear her and then makes the jokey pretend nice comments when he is around so that he thinks she's actually being nice and/or joking (if that makes sense). I've tried to talk to him about it before and he said "I know she's blunt but you can't be so sensitive sweetheart."

It's just because he can't see how she hurts my feelings because she's so good at being nice or pretend nice when he's around. It's not his fault. If he was complaining about my mam being mean to him I wouldn't think it was true straight off the bat either. Maybe I shoudl start wearing a wire and secretly tape her lol X

 

[Braven05]

Eww, so sorry! I don't have a MIL yet but I love my OH's mother...I can't imagine putting up with someone like that....actually I really wouldn't put up with it. She wouldn't come into my house and treat me like that, especially not for an entire weekend. And the comments about your child, completely uncalled for. You know, you CAN use pregnancy as an excuse to be unusually bitchy towards her when she makes comments like that. Just blame the hormones! lol I'm sorry, hope she's not so horrible this weekend! Good luck!

 

[bump0911]

Awww. She sounds like a crafty little thing. My advice is everytime she makes insults just rise about it, think of your little one and that will soon put a smile on your face

 

[CeeCee2010]

Eww, so sorry! I don't have a MIL yet but I love my OH's mother...I can't imagine putting up with someone like that....actually I really wouldn't put up with it. She wouldn't come into my house and treat me like that, especially not for an entire weekend. And the comments about your child, completely uncalled for. You know, you CAN use pregnancy as an excuse to be unusually bitchy towards her when she makes comments like that. Just blame the hormones! lol I'm sorry, hope she's not so horrible this weekend! Good luck!

Lol the problem is I'm like Meg Ryan in You've Got Mail - I only think of the insult or comeback I SHOULD have made about 2 weeks after she's said it lol My sister is amazing she can cut people down to size with her comebacks... me I missed out on that gift lol X

 

[magicbubble]

crumbs! she sounds like a nightmare! i can understand say your mother or brother etc being so rude. after all they would be imediate family but how did she learn to be so awful to someone who would once have been a total stranger??? she sounds overly familiar with you

 

[CeeCee2010]

crumbs! she sounds like a nightmare! i can understand say your mother or brother etc being so rude. after all they would be imediate family but how did she learn to be so awful to someone who would once have been a total stranger??? she sounds overly familiar with you

The funny thing is she barely knows me! She has just taken a dislike to me for some reason! Maybe I have a tattoo on my forehead saying "hate me!" that I am unaware of!

 

[magicbubble]

how do you put up with it!

 

[CeeCee2010]

how do you put up with it!

Well until now I've been civil to her because of my DH but its getting to a point now where I just want to shout at her and tell her she's a mean person lol not the best insult in the world but so true!!

 

[mummy2lola]

Arrrrgggghhhh I hate people like that,my fil is like it but doesn't realise,I know he loves me coz he can't stop singing my praises to everyone but he just gives snidey comments to everyone and until I was married I would just stay quiet coz he did it soooo much to dh I would get mad but felt it wasn't my place....and then I got that ring on my finger lol I'm now the first to stand up for dh and last year we were having a BBQ and i'd been on a diet and decided I would have abit of everything.so my plate was full but yet again all ge had was half a hot dog becoz food obviously feels him up to much so he can't drink as much (he clearly has a problem but dh won't have it) anyway he said to me "r u seriously going to eat all that?" so I snapped back "I don't feel myself up on beer" even my mil laughed but he shut up for the rest of the evening,I was so proud lol give little snidey comments back Hun,if she mentions ur body mention hers,something like "I'm so glad I look like this as I couldn't cope with having such small,saggy breasts like urself" say it all whilst smiling xx

 

[ChocolateKate]

How would you feel about asking her outright if you two have got off on the wrong foot? Bullies usually back off once confronted. She sounds really mean and it must be horrible for you. X

 

[CeeCee2010]

Lol the breasts comment just made me laugh lol Like I said I'm just one of those people that finds it really hard to insult people or come back with comments! I think the worst I could come up with is "You're really mean and I don't like you!" I know I need to stick up for myself and Boo now though too. I won't have anybody say anything about my LO and if they do then they will find themselves cut off very quickly!! Maybe I can train my LO to dislike her too and have an ally?!!! Lol

 

[CeeCee2010]

Chocolate Kate - I did once before DH and I got married. She basically booked everything for the wedding without telling me (even the church, cake etc) and I cancelled the lot of it as it wasn't what I wanted and I explained that to her as nicely as possible and told her she had no right to do what she had done. She was cold with me for months and then about two weeks before the wedding I said "I really don't want to not get along with you as we are going to be family and I would like us to have a close relationship." She told me I should have thought about that before I "destroyed her wedding!" After that I should have known what I was in for I guess! X

 

[mummy2lola]

Lol I like that "ur really mean and I don't like u" made me really laugh,just think when baby arrives urll be so protective that she will only need to look at u a certain way and urll eat her for lunch,it'll just come out with instinct...maybe bide ur time til then lol xx

 

[ChocolateKate]

Rubbish! There's obviously no reasoning with the woman. I really feel for you! How about your husband cooks? Would she react differently? You can fake pregnancy exhaustion and head to bed early?!

My MIL passed away a few years ago, the day before I was due to meet her and I always think about how nice it would be to have her around. After some of the horror stories I've heard though.... ;-)

 

[CeeCee2010]

Lol I'm hoping so i_want_one!! I'm hoping that all of a sudden I get this "Back off bitch" streak and that I can suddenly miraculously stand up for myself! That'd be nice! If not as I suggested in another thread, they should have a cash-for-gold type service for MIL's where you send the unwanted MIL off in a bag and you get money or something nice back instead. That would be PERFECT!!

 

[broodybeauty]

hehe ceecee you make me laugh!im exactly the same when it comes to comebacks i'll be laying in bed the night after,then get a little lightbulb over my head and chuckle to myself at the comeback i ''could have'' said at the time.I'm sure my oh thinks im on something.

Maybe try making a list of comebacks before she arrives could work :s haha

 

[ClaireMuir123]

Good god, what a witch!

If she says anything about how you look just tell her you just loooooove being pregnant. Basically go against everything she says. I find people like that feed off you being uncomfortable and it seems like that's what she's doing. Be really nice to her and overly enthuiastic about everything, she'll end up being the one who's uncomfortable and you'll be in control. But if she says anything completely out of order, put her straight in her place, even if it is just 'You're really mean and I don't like you' xxx

 

[CeeCee2010]

Rubbish! There's obviously no reasoning with the woman. I really feel for you! How about your husband cooks? Would she react differently? You can fake pregnancy exhaustion and head to bed early?!

My MIL passed away a few years ago, the day before I was due to meet her and I always think about how nice it would be to have her around. After some of the horror stories I've heard though.... ;-)

Lol I headed up to bed early last time she came up to stay and she called me "rude" for not spending time with them and instead of cooking, DH got in an Indian takeaway for us all and she said "When I was pregnant I was hosting full blown dinner parties up until I gave birth!" and laughed at me. Honestly the woman is the biggest nightmare you can imagine. So sorry to hear about your MIL ... my MIL is what horror stories are made of lol XXX