It has now been 1 year

[isla 951]

I came off of the pill 13/03/2011 so it has now been just over one year TTC first child.

It sounds crazy but in my mind I had little marks in time which I thought I would have concieved by. My first one was at 6 months, when I first started TTC I thought I'd definately be pregnant by 6 months. The next one was 9 months... I kept thinking if i'd have fallen pregnant in my first month i'd have my baby by now. The one i'm at now is one year.

When i first started TTC I never thought i'd still be trying with no success one year on.

Did anyone else feel this way?

xxx

 

[macca197831]

Hi there, I know how you feel! We tried for 6 months then deceded to put it on hold to get married. I just expected to fall pregnant after our honeymoon and when I didnt I thought ok I am bound to be within 6 months. That didnt happen either, we are now approaching our 1st wedding anniversary and that was my next milestone and still not pregnancy.

I find it really dishearting but im also aware that by setting these milestones im putting extra pressure on myself that we dont need. We have been through some fertility investigations and had some challenges to overcome so im hoping this might be the year for us.

Good luck to you!!! xxx

 

[LuluSS]

I came off of the pill 13/03/2011 so it has now been just over one year TTC first child.

It sounds crazy but in my mind I had little marks in time which I thought I would have concieved by. My first one was at 6 months, when I first started TTC I thought I'd definately be pregnant by 6 months. The next one was 9 months... I kept thinking if i'd have fallen pregnant in my first month i'd have my baby by now. The one i'm at now is one year.

When i first started TTC I never thought i'd still be trying with no success one year on.

Did anyone else feel this way?

xxx

Wow, I just told DH last night "If we got pregnant right away when we started trying, I would probably be giving birth any day now".

 

[LouTTC1]

Yep we used to have our milestones. Things like by next Mothers Day, Christmas etc we might have a baby to join us.

I don't do it as much anymore. The only one we have both mentioned is that if our first IUI works we'll have a baby by Christmas 2012. If it doesn't work then hopefully sometime in 2013!

 

[Tinkerbell3]

Yes, we did this too. When we first started TTC it was just before Christmas 2010 and we were saying 'by next Christmas' then i wasnt pregnant in time for that and it was 'by our wedding' then it was getting to the point that I'd be due around our wedding which wasn't a possibility as it was abroad and we were saying 'we'll have to postpone the wedding' then it got to the one year point and we were saying 'we have to have baby in our arms by the end of 2012' but now it's extremely unlikely that will happen so our new one is 'by our first wedding anniversary' we aren't even married yet

Have you been to see your GP?

 

[Janers]

Thats my husband and i as well, we would mark the milestones by the birth of our child, "if we get pregnant this month, we'll have a itty bitty baby to bring to my cousins wedding", that kind of thing.

Hasn't happened yet, but we are still doing it! I'm 3dpo and now we're talking about a having a Christmas baby. I don't know why we keep doing this!

 

[No Doubt]

I think we all have milestones...I did. We see things happening a certain way and ina certain time and when they don't our world is completely flipped...at least I know mine is. We just did our first IUI and it was pretty emotional day for me and before we went in I was crying and feeling down and told DH that in the amount of time we've been trying we could have two kids by now. I wished I wouldn't have even thought that right after it came out of my mouth cause it hit me really hard and made all of this time extremely real to me...that I could have two kids by now. Then I just got hurt and pissed all over again and continued to ball my eyes out. So I'm trying to not put limits on any part of this journey anymore. It's like people that say they don't have expectations because when nothing happens they can't get disappointed. So I'm trying to remove the possibility of disappointment, but keep the faith. Not even sure if that's possible.

 

[hopingforit]

Because of my age, I never thought I'd be trying this long. I am 20! I've gotten pregnant before (while on BCP!) and had a mc so my Dr was quite stumped as to why I am not getting pregnant. There doesn't appear to be anything wrong with my DH either and also he has 2 kids from his previous marriage so he can get people pregnant. 18 months into it and we still don't have our BFP. On the plus side, this is the point where you can start to get checked out if you choose.

Sending you lots of

 

[bextas]

Stopped my pill on the 31st March 2011 so almost 1 year ttc. If one more person says to me it will happen, give it time or stop thinking about it I think I will punch them. My sister has a beautiful 23 month old and is thinking of trying again in the summer and I have no doubt she will fall pregnant before I do and as much as I love her and will be chuffed I know it will hit me hard.
We do on holiday in 14 weeks so that is what I am concentrating on loosing weight for that and getting healthier as my weight could be the thing stopping me falling (although I did fall pregnant 6 yrs ago and mc and was 2 stone heavier than now).
Stupid AF came 5 days early this month - never happened before. So I'm with all you girls - we will get our BFP one day!

 

[heavenly]

Yep, know exactly what you mean. I had milestones the first year. But here I am..........4 years on and looking at IVF.

 

[Indiapops]

Yes we have done this, for some reason when we started trying I was excited and just assumed that I would be pregnant within 3 months or so... and each month I still say to myself if im pregnant now this is when I will give birth.. I also look at my nephew and think if I get pregnant this month he will be this old.. when our baby is here.. and the age gap won't be to big.. but 14 moths later and we are now under the fertility specialst waiting to find out what the problem is.

best of luck xx

 

[isla 951]

I haven't yet visited my GP, I dont think i'm quite ready yet.
Although my favourite thing to do now on BnB is go to the first pages in the LTTTC section and reading posts from women who were so frustrated with how long it was taking them to conceive, and then looking at their signatures and seeing they now have one or two children. It brings me hope and happiness and reminds me of the importance of being patient

Xxx

 

[wannabemummyb]

We did the same. When i came off bcp df said he thought i would fall pg straight away, mainly because this happened with his ex wife, i explianed it could take up to 18 months for the pill to totally leave my body. But after nearly a year with no af df needed to admit it wasn't going to be as easy as he thought!

I stopped setting "if we get preggers this month" dates and also milestone dates. Normally i remain quite positive about this ltttc journey and think we will get there eventually, this week i am not feeling that positivity!

 

[charbaby]

i have set a few dates in my mind that i would have loved to have had a baby by but 14 months later still no baby, Our new date that we have set (i know we shouldn't do it to ourselfs) but its the 12'12'12 I think this is such a cool d.o.b.
Plus o/hs brother had a baby last december on the 13'12'11 so they would both have cool d.o.bs Lol xx
I started taking metformin on the 28th feb so i'm hoping to be one of them lucky people who get a bfp first cycle x

 

[susan_1981]

I was completely the opposite actually. When we started TTC, I just thought that it wouldn't be easy for us. Was just a feeling so when I fell pregnant on my 3rd cycle of trying, I was really, really shocked, but obviously over the moon. But then I miscarried and it took me a year exactly to fall pregnant again, but sadly that was a chemical pregnancy. Then it took me 2 years to fall pregnant again! So it took us 3 years after our first miscarriage to get this far (and so far so good).

For me, I think pre-seed played a massive part in me falling pregnant this time (even though I always got plenty of EWCM) so if you haven't tried that, definitely give it a go!

So don't give up hope. For some, it just takes longer unfortunately. But I would definitely think about going to see your doctor for some advice. I felt it was best to get the ball rolling and hopefully I wouldn't need any extra help and that it would happen naturally - which it did thankfully. We were due to start IVF at the beginning of this year as well so maybe having that to think about helped me fall pregnant.

Good luck. I know how awful it is when each month goes by without any luck. I hope your BFP is on it's way to you! xxx

 

[Oobies]

If I'd fallen pregnant the cycle we started trying, my baby would be 15 months old by now. The month they would of been due all I could think about was 'we should have a baby by now, why isn't it happening?' Mind you, I'd just finished a 62 day cycle during which I was certain I was pregnant. I wasn't.
Last Christmas all I could think about was the fact that I had no kids to share it with. What is Christmas without children? This wasn't helped by the fact that at Carols By Candlelight the guy who made the speech at the end made a point of saying that children are proof that God hasn't abandoned us. Kinda made me want to shout out 'Don't you mean God hasn't abandoned all of us?' Instead, we just left before i had a chance to burst into tears.
But then I thought: 'Maybe next Christmas. Maybe I can share next Christmas with my first child, and God will show that he hasn't abandoned me either.'

OH's sister is going into hospital to have her second child via cesar tommorrow morning.
OH and I met 2 days after her 1st (Jack) was born, and when we started trying I kept thinking 'he wont be that old so he'll probably be great friends with his little cousin when they get here,' Now he's three, but Ruby will be here tomorrow, so it's hard not to think that she might be 9 months old when her next cousin is born. I was best friends with my cousin, who is 8 months younger than I am. My older sister (by 3 years just so happens) not so much.
My little brother's (he's 18) gonna be a dad in August, so there's another milestone for me. How old will his baby be when I finally have mine?

These thoughts are going through my mind constantly, as much as others like it. I read something about someone who had 'finished having her kids' yesterday, and I thought 'wouldn't that be a great feeling?'
But I guess I should of seen it coming. I had my share of 'naughty' moments that could of ended in me being pregnant when I was a teenager (and I don't agree with abortion so any one of those times would have meant me becoming a mother), And I'm terrible with establishing routine so there were a few occasions where I forgot my Pill while I was on it. Now I look back and think 'bubs would have been this old or this old if that had happened. My brother's fiance (engaged before they conceived) fell pregnant because she stopped taking the Pill because it made her feel sick, she didn't realise she could fall so easily so soon after stopping (which, I'm told, is actually one of the times you're most likely to fall pregnant). OH's SIL fell pregnant their first month trying.
When I left my family (I live 4hours away, in the same town as OH's family), the last thing my mother did was pat my tummy and say 'hopefully next time we see you you'll have a bean of your own in there.' She wasn't trying to be insensitive, she knows what I've been going through these past 2 years, but I don't need more mile stones, you know? I make enough of my own.

So yeah, I know exactly what you mean =) thankyou for letting me have my rant, feels good to get it out, I tend to pen it all up. I'll shut up now lol.