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It wasn't easy...but she is worth it... *trigger warning*
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Congratulations on your baby! I'm so sorry you had to go through that and I'm even more sorry you had such jerk doctors at times. Some of them really dislike the natural birth movement because it takes away from them and the hospitals. But the good news is that it's all over now and its time for you to heal and be with your healthy LO.
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Thanks eris! I agree, I think doctors sometimes feel threatened by the natural birth movement. That was why I wanted to avoid hospital altogether! Oh well, next time
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Congratulations. It's the most awful feeling leaving your newborn in the nicuI still, a year later, can't think about my little girls delivery and subsequent stay in nicu without welling up!!
I'm really sorry you went through a similar experience. I wouldn't wish that on anyone
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Sorry to hear your story was so traumatic. I too had a difficult experience and only now 2 years on am I really coming to terms with it. Hugs -you did amazing and congratulations on your happy and healthy girl!
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I'm really sorry that you also had a difficult experience. Every time I think I'm coming to terms with it, I cry again. It's devastating really and so few people understand; they think I should just 'move on'. Hopefully I will some day!
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Congrats and so sorry things went pretty much the complete opposite of how you wanted!
I know what you mean about feeling awful about how traumatized she must be after going through all of that! But I assure you she won't remember, she probably doesn't even remember now. So try not to let that bother you!
The birth of my dd was crazy but at the same time everything happened so extremely fast that I barely had time to process it, definitely much different than your story. I had an EMCS at 30 weeks and my dd was in the NICU for 5 weeks. I know it's not easy being separated. I honestly didn't feel like I bonded with her until a few months after she was home. It was so hard to be in the maternity floor and walk by all the rooms and hear moms with their new babies in there with them, only to retreat to my empty room every time. I pumped every 2 hours night and day and made the journey up to the NICU floor several times a day, while recovering from the c-section... so it took me like 15 minutes just to get there, so I know exactly what you mean - by the time I got back to my room it was about time to pump again. And going home without her was so sad. But two years later all of that is just a memory, part of our story, and I rarely even think about it because time flies so quickly and she's here and healthy and all of that is in the past.
Best of luck to you and your new baby girl!
I know what you mean about feeling awful about how traumatized she must be after going through all of that! But I assure you she won't remember, she probably doesn't even remember now. So try not to let that bother you!
The birth of my dd was crazy but at the same time everything happened so extremely fast that I barely had time to process it, definitely much different than your story. I had an EMCS at 30 weeks and my dd was in the NICU for 5 weeks. I know it's not easy being separated. I honestly didn't feel like I bonded with her until a few months after she was home. It was so hard to be in the maternity floor and walk by all the rooms and hear moms with their new babies in there with them, only to retreat to my empty room every time. I pumped every 2 hours night and day and made the journey up to the NICU floor several times a day, while recovering from the c-section... so it took me like 15 minutes just to get there, so I know exactly what you mean - by the time I got back to my room it was about time to pump again. And going home without her was so sad. But two years later all of that is just a memory, part of our story, and I rarely even think about it because time flies so quickly and she's here and healthy and all of that is in the past.
Best of luck to you and your new baby girl!
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Thanks everyone 
RcdM - thank you; I don't think she remembers anything at all from being separated from me, thankfully. And we do have a fantastic bond. I can totally thank breastfeeding for that
I'm sorry that you had a similar experience I'm so relieved to hear that you don't think about it so much anymore, and I can't wait to get to that stage! Having said that, I am doing ok. I am, however, making a complaint about some of the doctors I met as they were pretty nasty. I kind of feel I *have* to.
I see from your signature that you're due very soon RcdM - best of luck with everything!
RcdM - thank you; I don't think she remembers anything at all from being separated from me, thankfully. And we do have a fantastic bond. I can totally thank breastfeeding for that
I'm sorry that you had a similar experience
I'm so relieved to hear that you don't think about it so much anymore, and I can't wait to get to that stage! Having said that, I am doing ok. I am, however, making a complaint about some of the doctors I met as they were pretty nasty. I kind of feel I *have* to. I see from your signature that you're due very soon RcdM - best of luck with everything!
