'It'll be different when the babies here...'

[Mel+Bump]

Anyone else fed up of people saying this?!?!

The fob really isn't stepping up to the plate and isn't really acknoledging that he's going to have a child and my friends just keep saying to me 'he'll be different when the babies here' Well quite frankly, why should I be ok with him spending 9 months not noticing Im growing his child and then when she's here he can give a rats arse. Sorry, I get irritated lol.

Anyone else having this? Im pretty sure they would be differnt if it were their children.

 

[lily123]

OMG I couldn't have said it better myself lol.
"everything will be fine when the baby is here" - I hear it everyday from members of my family and it makes me SO angry!
Too little, Too late!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel hun, and it's a nightmare

x x x

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I have to say OH wasn't all like that, but he certainly had his moments. And said he would be around more, like not going out as much once Robyn was here.. hmm.. well put it this way, he's out!!! I do find I am Robyn's main, if not sole carer a lot of the time.

xoxox

 

[lynne192]

when i had my son i was 18 and i heard this alot i thought it was over said, but now i know how right some of them were, i love my son but he is a nightmare but he has suspected autism.

 

[kodi]

haaaa i hear this too all the time

I was talkin to my OH today about me going back to working evenings up the newsagents by us when LOs born(about 3mths after) and he was like "No she needs mommy!!" LOL i was like " she/he needs daddy too thanks!!! he was like but you're gonna breastfeed so u cant!

so i replid with well thats what breast pumps are for darling!!

he went dead quiet after that!!!!

 

[miquelsmommy]

OMG I couldn't have said it better myself lol.
"everything will be fine when the baby is here" - I hear it everyday from members of my family and it makes me SO angry!
Too little, Too late!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I know how you feel hun, and it's a nightmare

x x x

same here. its like uhhh helloooo im carryinq your child!! my baby father isnt like that but i hate when ppl tell me tht ( referrinq to his qf ) like sayinq how he will leave her when the baby comes ... BULL SHhhh. !

 

[stuffymuffy]

I couldn't have it said it better! I feel the same way hun! It is soooo irritating!
I hear it every time anyone asks about FOB and even when I bring up FOB to people who the know "situation", everyone always says "he'll come around when the baby is here". Well I'm sorry but he should be caring NOW, it shouldn't take the baby being born to get him to care about his child and start taking some responsibility. People just don't get it

 

[Croc-O-Dile]

Honestly, I find myself saying "It'll be different when she's here," more often than not. My mom, even though she's really supportive, keeps hinting that she's afraid I'm going to push all the responsibility off on her. Her reasoning? Because I sleep a lot, am hard to wake up (because I don't get to sleep till 5am then she tries waking me up at 10am!), and I "don't do anything outside of the house." (We just moved, I know nobody, I have no car, I can't do anything)
I'm always telling her it'll be different once she's here, because then I won't be pregnant anymore so I won't require all that sleep. (not that I'd get it anyway )

 

[bbyno1]

yess!! i here that quite alot!
im saying 2 him you dont spend time with me ud rather just go out n about wasting time on the streets with your mates n i need some help n thats exactly what he says .itl be different once the baby is here.
but like the baby basically is already here! he is living with a heartbeat its just the fact he isnt out yet!x

 

[Mel+Bump]

Im so glad Im not the only one this happen to! Not that I want everyone to be annoyed lol.

I understand what everyone means, because they baby is much more real for us because we feel them move and kick and react to things, so were just waiting to see what they look like now! But the fathers aren't as connected so can seem distant, but really, sometimes a little effort would be nice!

 

[Raspberries]

I hate this too! It's so annoying!
My OH is 30 whilst I'm 18 and one day he was talking randomly and said he'd like children someday soon and was unsure what sort of compromise we'd come up to but if I ever got pregnant he'd support me and be there for me.

And whilst I thought it was sweet, I was in no rush to have kids, but then I found out I was miraculously pregnant (I was told I'd have problems conceiving but infact conceived on the pill ) 2 weeks later and he suddenly went beserk saying he wasn't ready so how could I be? And wanting me to have a termination. I said no.
Now occasionally he'll be sort of ok but most days he's still the same, it so irritates me when family and friends say he'll come round when the baby's born. WHY should it take that long?! I have to accept this straight away and make changes to my life instantly, he has nothing to change about himself apart from support me mentally, why is that so hard? GRR

Sorry for such a long reply, it just makes me mad!!