It's a... I couldn't help feeling disappointed earlier

[sashadoll]

I first want to say I'm happy to have a healthy moving and thriving baby. The doc had said my baby would be a miscarriage but God said nope and here we are at 16 weeks. I had it in my mind it was a girl. My husband agreed but deep down I knew he wanted a boy. We have one 5 year old boy and sometimes my husband and my son go at it wrestling and destroying the house playing and it's all fine but sometimes I'd like to relax and in my mind I knew a little girl could be the "calmness" so to speak to settle them down. Well we went in for our 16 week appt and the doc is a bout 80% sure it's a boy and the ultrasound confirms it. My husband just a bout jumped out of the chair with joy but inside I was sad. I love my baby no matter what he is our gift from God we had two miscarriages one this year in fact so I'm not being picky or whiny but in my heart of hearts I was praying for a mini me. I think it stems from all the things i had planned and dreamed about doing with her making her clothes doing her hair nails mommy daughter time. I've come to terms now and I'm just a bout as happy. But I was down today for a bit. Has anyone else felt this way?

 

[StranjeGirl]

I'm sorry you had some disappointment! I had in my mind that this was a boy (have one 2 year old girl), but blood test said girl! It takes some time to get out of your mind the thought of not having what your gut was saying. I am excited for 2 girls and at the same time sad I will not get to experience a boy. However I keep thinking how blessed I am to have any children and I know once we have our baby it will seem that it is the perfect fit for our family!

 

[Maybe1daysoon]

I'm sorry you feel down. If it makes you feel any better, I actually want a second boy. I imagined them playing on the same sports teams and going to school together. I was even going to let them wear the same/similar outfits. OH thinks a girl and boy 2.5 years apart will fight a lot. We are both only children so the whole sibling dynamic is a bit foreign to us.... We shall see I guess. We all are blessed and highly favored to be carrying little lives inside our wombs. It took a few weeks but I'm now excited to be having a baby girl.

 

[pinkcatgirl]

I think it's natural to have a preference and better to acknowledge any slight disappointment now and let it go.

I've got a little girl and I really want another one!! Will find out in 10 days but think it may be a boy as felt so different this pregnancy! It is what it is, and I just want a healthy baby more than anything!

Hope you feel better soon - and that your sons give you granddaughters

 

[Hoping4Four]

It's completely normal to feel this way. I was a little disappointed when I found out I was having a second girl, and occasionally still feel a brief twinge of resentment towards those with one of each (ridiculous I know, especially since I have a boy now!!) but I promise.. Having two of the same gender is wonderful. I love the matching outfits and the fact that my girls are best friends. I'm sure your sons will be best buddies too.

Big hugs and congrats on your precious baby boy

 

[SisterRose]

Im sorry you felt disappointed, in sure you will love having two boys once he is here but we cant help our feelings. My first two are girls, and i love them to pieces.
if its any consolation, my little girl isn't calm at all, she is wild! And a complete tom boy. Shes always running around, jumping off furniture, screaming, messing in dirt and with insects, play fighting! She is as opposite from calm as you could get lol. So even if you had a girl you don't know how she would turn out! Xx

 

[Brightxeyes]

It would be completely natural to have some disappointment when you have one boy and ideally would love one of each. You never know, maybe a girl will come later down the line?
Obviously you've just found out, so more than likely you will get more excited at the thought of two boys eventually.

Congratulations on a healthy baby!

I was convinced for weeks I was having a girl, then at 12 weeks my other half convinced me we were having a boy. As it's my first, I'm happy either way, but I do know I would be a bit gutted if I never ever had a girl too! Completely understandable! Xxx

 

[Zeri]

Having a gender preference is quite normal - so is feeling a bit if disappointment if you don't get the gender you wished for. I can understand you wanting a girl- I think there are lot of mothers who wish for that special mother/daughter relationship- and to be able to do and share things with their girls in the way you might not be able to with boys.

I've always wanted a DD and did have one, and was hoping for a 2nd DD this time around- we're having a boy. I felt disappointed too and to be honest on some days still feel sad at not having another girl, but I'm slowly getting warmed up to the idea of having a boy.

 

[Louise07]

It is normal to feel this way if a girl is what you had your heart set at.
But trust me my girls are by far worse then my boys at mess! Attitude and fighting.
Sometimes I think we can put to much pressure on ourselves to have the 'perfect' boy and girl, and most of the time girls are more boyish then the boys, and vice versa lol.

 

[SteffieLee]

I'm sorry hun. Its normal to have disappointment when you have your heart set on a particular gender and you don't get that gender. Those boys will be best friends growing up. I'm sure that once he's here, you'll never imagine your life any different. And who knows, maybe Gods got another baby planned for you in the future.

 

[sashadoll]

Thanks ladies. After talking to my husband and my mom and getting a good night's rest I feel so much better. I'm happy he is healthy and he will be just as spoiled lol. It was silly I know but I'm praying one day God blesses us with our baby girl. Now I can start shopping. My 5 year old starts kindergarten next month so we decided to spoil him this mo this than focus on the baby next month so he won't feel left out. Thanks for the encouraging words.

 

[Bakebino]

I think its normal to have a preference when it comes gender, so you are definitely not alone in that. I've got a 19 month old daughter and I would love to have another girl. I always wanted a sister (I'm an only child) so I love the idea of having two girls so close together. On the other hand, hubby has 2 daughters from previous relationships and I would love to give him his son We will find out the gender on Friday but think baby may be a boy. Bottom line is I just want a healthy baby!! Like a previous poster said...I hope your boys give you a Granddaughter

 

[sashadoll]

I think its normal to have a preference when it comes gender, so you are definitely not alone in that. I've got a 19 month old daughter and I would love to have another girl. I always wanted a sister (I'm an only child) so I love the idea of having two girls so close together. On the other hand, hubby has 2 daughters from previous relationships and I would love to give him his son We will find out the gender on Friday but think baby may be a boy. Bottom line is I just want a healthy baby!! Like a previous poster said...I hope your boys give you a Granddaughter

Thank you very much and congrats on baby. Just as long as baby is healthy. I'm feeling much better

 

[MamaLa]

Me and OH wanted a boy, but we are blessed with a little girl. Was a little disappointed but can't wait to dress her and hold her. Just excited to have a baby to hold.

 

[lauraemily17]

I felt the same when I found out I was having another boy.

It's not the fact that I'll have 2 boys that I found hard, I can't wait to have them running around creating chaos (if the baby is anything like his big brother!) And I really hope they'll be great friends. It was the loss of my imagined daughter that hit me hard. Took me a couple of weeks to get over that as we're definitely not having any more but I did get over it.

 

[moter98]

Totally normal. I'm having boy #3 and was a bit sad at first too. Not because he's a boy but because I will not get to experience parenting a girl as well. Always wanted a daughter myself so I think it's just a matter of letting go of that dream you had in your head, not anything to do with baby at all. I already love my little prince to pieces and we haven't met yet! I also think of how great a bond my three sons will have. My two are already so close and love doing the same things and get along so great, they play together for hours at a time. It really is wonderful.

 

[sashadoll]

Thank you ladies. I had been used to saying she but I've been saying he and my little baby boy. I'm excited all over again. We will just shoot for next time. We plan to have 2 or 3 more so hopefully she will be in one of those lol.