It's a... I couldn't help feeling disappointed early:(

[sashadoll]

I first want to say I'm happy to have a healthy moving and thriving baby. The doc had said my baby would be a miscarriage but God said nope and here we are at 16 weeks. I had it in my mind it was a girl. My husband agreed but deep down I knew he wanted a boy. We have one 5 year old boy and sometimes my husband and my son go at it wrestling and destroying the house playing and it's all fine but sometimes I'd like to relax and in my mind I knew a little girl could be the "calmness" so to speak to settle them down. Well we went in for our 16 week appt and the doc is a bout 80% sure it's a boy and the ultrasound confirms it. My husband just a bout jumped out of the chair with joy but inside I was sad. I love my baby no matter what he is our gift from God we had two miscarriages one this year in fact so I'm not being picky or whiny but in my heart of hearts I was praying for a mini me. I think it stems from all the things i had planned and dreamed about doing with her making her clothes doing her hair nails mommy daughter time. I've come to terms now and I'm just a bout as happy. But I was down today for a bit. Has anyone else felt this way?

 

[slg76]

I had the exact opposite situation. I have one child. I wanted a girl and hubby wanted a boy (no surprises there, right?). He was initially a little disappointed by having a girl but so very happy to be a daddy. Very quickly he decided that he just couldn't imagine it any other way and felt that even more strongly as she started to get older (I mean by just months). My dd is a huge daddy's girl and she is the center of his world. Congratulations on your healthy son!

 

[zenaa]

Congratulations hun, these feelings will come and go, the most important thing is for your baby to be healthy. I always wanted a girl and hubby wanted a boy, but deep down I was sure I was carrying a boy so we always said he until the ultrasound confirmed girl. I'm happy either way and my hubby looked a bit disappointed at the start but now used to the idea. I can't complain I've been trying for so long this is our miracle baby

 

[ParisJeTadore]

I can definitely relate to your post. I have an adorable little boy who I love to pieces but both dh and I (I have no idea why!) were convinced we were having a girl this time. When I found out our baby was a boy I was pretty sad and disappointed for a couple days....but then it passed and I am really excited now for my little boy. I think the sadness came into play because I too looked forward to having that girly bond with a daughter, and sharing some level of femininity in a house with boys. I'm not super girly which probably helps so I look at that as a positive. I'm sure once you meet your little boy and bond with him these feelings will pass

 

[ginny83]

I don't know if it's because of my history of miscarriages, but I can't really understand the feeling of being disappointed with having a certain gender. Who knows maybe one day you'll have daughter's in law or even granddaughters you can do girly stuff with. Or maybe even if you had a girl they wouldn't have wanted to do girly stuff anyway. Try and focus on all the stuff you are going to be able to experience. Your son having a brother - maybe they'll grow up to be best friends and he'll be able to teach him all sorts of things. I'd honestly be over the moon with either gender as long as I'm able to have a healthy baby. Best wishes

 

[RaspberryK]

No idea why you think a girl would be calm, my friends girl is a menace and my ds is an angel xx

 

[slowpoke22]

totally normal. i have a girl and found out this one is also a girl and i was over the moon but my hubs was a little sad at not having a son. however, we will have sons in laws or grandsons one day

 

[sashadoll]

I don't know if it's because of my history of miscarriages, but I can't really understand the feeling of being disappointed with having a certain gender. Who knows maybe one day you'll have daughter's in law or even granddaughters you can do girly stuff with. Or maybe even if you had a girl they wouldn't have wanted to do girly stuff anyway. Try and focus on all the stuff you are going to be able to experience. Your son having a brother - maybe they'll grow up to be best friends and he'll be able to teach him all sorts of things. I'd honestly be over the moon with either gender as long as I'm able to have a healthy baby. Best wishes

I've had two miscarriages but why would that or should that take away my right to feel a certain way or want a certain gender. It does not. Of course I'll love my child and spoil him as I will all my children but having a loss doesn't take away me wanting a certain gender.

 

[sashadoll]

totally normal. i have a girl and found out this one is also a girl and i was over the moon but my hubs was a little sad at not having a son. however, we will have sons in laws or grandsons one day

Lol my husband jumped out the seat just about when the doc said boy. He is my son's stepfather although we do t use that term and came in after my son was 3. He loves our son just as his own but I can understand wanting to start from the beginning of life. I don't want to think of daughter in laws lol their mine!!!

 

[sashadoll]

I can definitely relate to your post. I have an adorable little boy who I love to pieces but both dh and I (I have no idea why!) were convinced we were having a girl this time. When I found out our baby was a boy I was pretty sad and disappointed for a couple days....but then it passed and I am really excited now for my little boy. I think the sadness came into play because I too looked forward to having that girly bond with a daughter, and sharing some level of femininity in a house with boys. I'm not super girly which probably helps so I look at that as a positive. I'm sure once you meet your little boy and bond with him these feelings will pass

We were convinced too. But I think my husband suspected a boy and just went along with me. I love him already I'm excited to me him and see how he changes things in our household.

 

[prbetsi75]

sashadoll, you're feelings are completely normal and understandable. Check out the gender disappointment forum. You'll find many other moms who have gone through the same thing. Don't feel bad about grieving the girl you're not having....it's ok to feel those emotions....and in time you will eventually move past it and be over the moon about your little boy.

 

[sashadoll]

Congratulations hun, these feelings will come and go, the most important thing is for your baby to be healthy. I always wanted a girl and hubby wanted a boy, but deep down I was sure I was carrying a boy so we always said he until the ultrasound confirmed girl. I'm happy either way and my hubby looked a bit disappointed at the start but now used to the idea. I can't complain I've been trying for so long this is our miracle baby

We had a miscarriage earlier this year and the doctor just knew I was miscarrying again but God had different plans and here we are 16 weeks strong with a few other complications along the way. I'm allowed to exercise again for 20m a day which is great news. I was on complete bed rest for a couple months. Congrats on your baby!♡

 

[sashadoll]

sashadoll, you're feelings are completely normal and understandable. Check out the gender disappointment forum. You'll find many other moms who have gone through the same thing. Don't feel bad about grieving the girl you're not having....it's ok to feel those emotions....and in time you will eventually move past it and be over the moon about your little boy.

Ty it's actually gotten easier. I posted this twice I'm not sure how I thought I was editing the title but I said before after talking with my husband my mom and getting a good night's rest I was ok the next morning.

 

[cookette]

I must admit, i felt a bit similar when I found out it was a girl. I was sure from the get go it was a boy. It passed after a few days, and now cant imagine that I was ever even vaguely disapointed. Give it time

 

[sashadoll]

I must admit, i felt a bit similar when I found out it was a girl. I was sure from the get go it was a boy. It passed after a few days, and now cant imagine that I was ever even vaguely disapointed. Give it time

I agree. Congrats on baby