AnnaLaura
TTC #1
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Hi everyone, hope you all have some fun plans for the weekend. I plan on cooking a couple of dishes today so I won't have to over the weekend. I don't really like to cook and would rather do it this way.
But anyway, I woke up last night and while I was lying there in the dark waiting to fall back asleep I decided I didn't want to TTC any more (I got over it but that feeling was there for a little while). Sometimes I get worried when I think of how things will change if it all works out. We've been together for almost 24 years, married for almost 21 years (in March). It's always been just us and we pretty much both do as we please. What if it's a horrible mistake, just something biological driving me, and it's really not what we should do? What if everything gets ruined by the stress of the changes? We are happy now, and worked VERY hard over the years to get where we are today, both in our lives and in our relationship. Will a new baby add to that or wreck it? When I was really trying to explain to him that it's now or never, time is running out, he told me that he liked our life and was afraid of these things too. It's not that he didn't want a baby, just that he was happy now and was scared. So we both have the same doubts.
I've known other women who have had babies at my age but they were usually on their second or third, and never seemed to have a single doubt. And my husband has NEVER heard a positive word from any of his colleagues and friends who have children. He is doing this for me but if left alone he probably wouldn't at this stage of life.
I know what a baby entails, have taken care of many in my work. I like doing it. I've planned out for years about everything, even down to what diapers I want the baby to use and what books I want to read to him. We are going to keep trying but still these thoughts come into my mind sometimes because I know all these plans may go straight out the window with the reality of a baby and not just the dream of one.
Don't know if anyone can relate, but would love to have some input.
But anyway, I woke up last night and while I was lying there in the dark waiting to fall back asleep I decided I didn't want to TTC any more (I got over it but that feeling was there for a little while). Sometimes I get worried when I think of how things will change if it all works out. We've been together for almost 24 years, married for almost 21 years (in March). It's always been just us and we pretty much both do as we please. What if it's a horrible mistake, just something biological driving me, and it's really not what we should do? What if everything gets ruined by the stress of the changes? We are happy now, and worked VERY hard over the years to get where we are today, both in our lives and in our relationship. Will a new baby add to that or wreck it? When I was really trying to explain to him that it's now or never, time is running out, he told me that he liked our life and was afraid of these things too. It's not that he didn't want a baby, just that he was happy now and was scared. So we both have the same doubts.
I've known other women who have had babies at my age but they were usually on their second or third, and never seemed to have a single doubt. And my husband has NEVER heard a positive word from any of his colleagues and friends who have children. He is doing this for me but if left alone he probably wouldn't at this stage of life.
I know what a baby entails, have taken care of many in my work. I like doing it. I've planned out for years about everything, even down to what diapers I want the baby to use and what books I want to read to him. We are going to keep trying but still these thoughts come into my mind sometimes because I know all these plans may go straight out the window with the reality of a baby and not just the dream of one.
Don't know if anyone can relate, but would love to have some input.