ive lost all hope of ever achieving a pregnancy.

[lady blush]

Hi girls the title says it all realy.ive been ttc for nearly 6 years and its not been an easy ride for me and dh.i was diagnosed with pcos 3 years ago and dh SA were not all that great (7% morphology) good count,good motility.i took clomid for 6 cycles and had 2 chemicals pregnancys within the time.went to see FS october 09 who said the only option was IVF but it will be sometime at the end of this year,he said that we have unexplained infertility even with the problems diagnosed he says it isent enough to stop me from getting pregnant.

ive been feeling realy depressed lately and i cant see the light at the end of the tunnel realy.i feel that it will never happen for us and i have lost all hope and faith of it ever happening.

does enyone feel like this?

your thoughts will be greatly appreciated.
xx

 

[hopesforababy]

I'm so sorry lady blush. I think we've all been where you are. I'm glad to hear that IVF is an option, so there is something to look forward to. I find it easy to make it through the days when I have something, anything, to look forward to. I hope things get better for you and that you finally get your miracle.

 

[lady blush]

I'm so sorry lady blush. I think we've all been where you are. I'm glad to hear that IVF is an option, so there is something to look forward to. I find it easy to make it through the days when I have something, anything, to look forward to. I hope things get better for you and that you finally get your miracle.

thank you hunni.i do try to keep myself ocupied with stuff but its been very difficult lately. i just feel it wont happen and it realy scares me,the thought of living my life without children is a very scary thought.

 

[Trippymama]

Have you considered adopting? We are trying for our first birth child right now, but we've adopted three children ... natural siblings. They are beautiful, and I can't imagine loving a birth child any more than I love them. We took the foster parenting class, and almost immediately when we were finished they called us about the sibling group. There are lots of counties that have babies who need homes straight from the hospital. Keep your head up!

 

[lady blush]

Have you considered adopting? We are trying for our first birth child right now, but we've adopted three children ... natural siblings. They are beautiful, and I can't imagine loving a birth child any more than I love them. We took the foster parenting class, and almost immediately when we were finished they called us about the sibling group. There are lots of counties that have babies who need homes straight from the hospital. Keep your head up!

yes we have considered adoption as a last resort but we are going to try for our biological child,but if it doesent work out then we will look into adoption.i would love to adopt even if i do get to have biological children.

what your doing is great trippymama.good luck.x

 

[muncho]

i know girls on another thread who were waiting for ivf who had PCOS and male factor and all 3 f them for bfp by doing acpuncture, would you try something like this 1st?
ideally you should start 3 months before ivf
good luck

 

[CurlySue]

You're not the only one

 

[lady blush]

i know girls on another thread who were waiting for ivf who had PCOS and male factor and all 3 f them for bfp by doing acpuncture, would you try something like this 1st?
ideally you should start 3 months before ivf
good luck

thanks muncho ive been doing some reseasrch on accupunture and have heard that it does work for a lot of people so i may try that next month.

does it hurt? (accupunture)

 

[3yearsttc]

lady blush, did you ever try IVF?

 

[muncho]

i know girls on another thread who were waiting for ivf who had PCOS and male factor and all 3 f them for bfp by doing acpuncture, would you try something like this 1st?
ideally you should start 3 months before ivf
good luck

thanks muncho ive been doing some reseasrch on accupunture and have heard that it does work for a lot of people so i may try that next month.

does it hurt? (accupunture)

it doesnt hurt, sometimes it can be quite uncomfortable, but it is worth it,
it has helped me loads:

egg quality
reduce stress
thicken my lining
controls the hormones - although dont know much about this

oh by the way i have endo and a blocked tube.
there are plenty of forums about acupuntcure but make sure you find that that is trained in fertility.

 

[imogenwanted]

My thoughts are with you i'm going to try acupunture, soon so ill let u know

 

[lady blush]

i know girls on another thread who were waiting for ivf who had PCOS and male factor and all 3 f them for bfp by doing acpuncture, would you try something like this 1st?
ideally you should start 3 months before ivf
good luck

thanks muncho ive been doing some reseasrch on accupunture and have heard that it does work for a lot of people so i may try that next month.

does it hurt? (accupunture)

it doesnt hurt, sometimes it can be quite uncomfortable, but it is worth it,
it has helped me loads:

egg quality
reduce stress
thicken my lining
controls the hormones - although dont know much about this

oh by the way i have endo and a blocked tube.
there are plenty of forums about acupuntcure but make sure you find that that is trained in fertility.

thank you muncho for this info. i am willing to try enything now as its been a tough journey.

 

[lady blush]

My thoughts are with you i'm going to try acupunture, soon so ill let u know

thank you hunni good luck to u too.x

 

[Beckic]

Hi Sweetie,

DH adn I have been TTC for four years now - we are also diagnosed as unexplained - although HD has morph. of 8% but the NHS refuse to believe anything under 15% is an issue. All my tests came back clear - but since having IVF I have a sneaking suspicion that one of my ovaries isnt that great cos it never responds well to the drugs and the eggs I get form it dont seem to fertilise.
So for us I feel that things are slightly harder cos most of DH's sperm has bleedin two heads - and I only produce good eggs from my right ovary. BUT that is just my own years of self-diagnosis and the Dr's have classed is asn unexplained!

As we are unexplained after three years we qualified for three goes of IVF under our PCT (I count my bessings for where I live everyday!).
Unfortunately so far they ended in a BFN and a chemical.

So i understand excatly how you feel sweets.

If you read my journal - I did nothing but cry my way through January.
It is so hard to just keep on going and I think, you, like me have reached a point where there is just no hope - and it so hard to claw our way back from there.

In Jan I couldn't see the wood for the trees - but snce Feb started I have tried to be more positive - and bascially came up with a survival plan:

1. I started having reflexology and hypnotherpay - i dont necessarily beleive this is going to get me pregannt (i treid accupuncture with my first IVF and it didn't help me - but I have heard really good things from it) - but I think that as we are coming to the end of the NHS' help - if this IVF doesnt work thats it for me medical wise- i just want to start introducing other homeopathic treatments in to try to give me something to focus on. Anything that can give you a bit of hope, even for a short while is such a boost.
2. I've started filling my diary with loads of fun things - nights out wiht the girls etc.. to try to give me something to focus on in the short term. Its so easy to start down a spiral of wallowing and self-pity - and even though we deserve to feel sorry for oursleves - once you start down that road its so hard to come back. At the start of the year when I felt so hopeless it seemed like the weeks stretched ahead and there was no end to it. Now I am trying to live my life in small blocks, so one week till a good night out in Birmingham, two weeks till my family visit and we are goign to the theatre etc.... Its so much nicer to focus on good things coming up than thinking about and fearing the months ahead!!!!
3. DH and I have agreed a post IVF failure plan where we have agreed six months of really going for it natuarally if IVF doesn't work in March - where we are going to BD like rabbits and I am going to try every homepathic remedy goign. And if it hasnt worked after 6 months then we are going to start lookign into adoption.

There are no words (except those little two words we've all been wanting to say since we strated this TTC road) that I can say that are gonna make you feel better sweets - but I promise you, i now how you are feeling and there is an end in sight. I woke up on the 1st Feb and said to myslef - I am not going to be unhappy today, I am not going to arge with my husband today - and I have kept to my promise. Dont get me wrong, I am not jumping aroudn with joy (although I was after a good few bottles of wine at the weekend!!), I am not positive by any means - but I am getting through the day without breaking down and I think thats all we can hope for at this stage.

Hang on in there hun.

I really beleive that us 'unexplained' girls WILL get pregnant - I have read so many stories of it eventually happening for people - BUT - its the eventually part that kills me. WHen I hear stories of girls getting pregnant after 8 years TTC, when they 'had given up' it makes me want to scream - cos I dont want to have to wait that long. So my plan has bene to try to adopt before then and if a miracle happens later on in life then that would be the icing on the cake.

So I relaly believe you will one day get pregnant hunni - its just that for us its might take a bit of time.
Because we are unexplained its potentially a whole combination of things that are stopping it form happening naturally - but that doesn't mean that it will forever and one day it will just happen for us.
But i can tell you one thing sweetie - Im never goign to give up. i will be a Mum someday - it just going to be a different road for me than most normal couples.
You have come this far sweetie - so you dont sound to me like the sort of girl to give up either

Make a plan if you can - having a focus is always a good thing.

You have got this far sweets - you have proven to yourslef and everyone you know that you are strong - be proud of yourself for getting here - and keep on putting one foot in front of the other - focusing on little steps and know that we are always here for you , anytime.

A million hugs sweetie,

Bx x x

 

[lady blush]

Hi Sweetie,

DH adn I have been TTC for four years now - we are also diagnosed as unexplained - although HD has morph. of 8% but the NHS refuse to believe anything under 15% is an issue. All my tests came back clear - but since having IVF I have a sneaking suspicion that one of my ovaries isnt that great cos it never responds well to the drugs and the eggs I get form it dont seem to fertilise.
So for us I feel that things are slightly harder cos most of DH's sperm has bleedin two heads - and I only produce good eggs from my right ovary. BUT that is just my own years of self-diagnosis and the Dr's have classed is asn unexplained!

As we are unexplained after three years we qualified for three goes of IVF under our PCT (I count my bessings for where I live everyday!).
Unfortunately so far they ended in a BFN and a chemical.

So i understand excatly how you feel sweets.

If you read my journal - I did nothing but cry my way through January.
It is so hard to just keep on going and I think, you, like me have reached a point where there is just no hope - and it so hard to claw our way back from there.

In Jan I couldn't see the wood for the trees - but snce Feb started I have tried to be more positive - and bascially came up with a survival plan:

1. I started having reflexology and hypnotherpay - i dont necessarily beleive this is going to get me pregannt (i treid accupuncture with my first IVF and it didn't help me - but I have heard really good things from it) - but I think that as we are coming to the end of the NHS' help - if this IVF doesnt work thats it for me medical wise- i just want to start introducing other homeopathic treatments in to try to give me something to focus on. Anything that can give you a bit of hope, even for a short while is such a boost.
2. I've started filling my diary with loads of fun things - nights out wiht the girls etc.. to try to give me something to focus on in the short term. Its so easy to start down a spiral of wallowing and self-pity - and even though we deserve to feel sorry for oursleves - once you start down that road its so hard to come back. At the start of the year when I felt so hopeless it seemed like the weeks stretched ahead and there was no end to it. Now I am trying to live my life in small blocks, so one week till a good night out in Birmingham, two weeks till my family visit and we are goign to the theatre etc.... Its so much nicer to focus on good things coming up than thinking about and fearing the months ahead!!!!
3. DH and I have agreed a post IVF failure plan where we have agreed six months of really going for it natuarally if IVF doesn't work in March - where we are going to BD like rabbits and I am going to try every homepathic remedy goign. And if it hasnt worked after 6 months then we are going to start lookign into adoption.

There are no words (except those little two words we've all been wanting to say since we strated this TTC road) that I can say that are gonna make you feel better sweets - but I promise you, i now how you are feeling and there is an end in sight. I woke up on the 1st Feb and said to myslef - I am not going to be unhappy today, I am not going to arge with my husband today - and I have kept to my promise. Dont get me wrong, I am not jumping aroudn with joy (although I was after a good few bottles of wine at the weekend!!), I am not positive by any means - but I am getting through the day without breaking down and I think thats all we can hope for at this stage.

Hang on in there hun.

I really beleive that us 'unexplained' girls WILL get pregnant - I have read so many stories of it eventually happening for people - BUT - its the eventually part that kills me. WHen I hear stories of girls getting pregnant after 8 years TTC, when they 'had given up' it makes me want to scream - cos I dont want to have to wait that long. So my plan has bene to try to adopt before then and if a miracle happens later on in life then that would be the icing on the cake.

So I relaly believe you will one day get pregnant hunni - its just that for us its might take a bit of time.
Because we are unexplained its potentially a whole combination of things that are stopping it form happening naturally - but that doesn't mean that it will forever and one day it will just happen for us.
But i can tell you one thing sweetie - Im never goign to give up. i will be a Mum someday - it just going to be a different road for me than most normal couples.
You have come this far sweetie - so you dont sound to me like the sort of girl to give up either

Make a plan if you can - having a focus is always a good thing.

You have got this far sweets - you have proven to yourslef and everyone you know that you are strong - be proud of yourself for getting here - and keep on putting one foot in front of the other - focusing on little steps and know that we are always here for you , anytime.

A million hugs sweetie,

Bx x x

thank you so much becki you've made me feel so much better.as you know it is very very difficult to be positive sometimes.
it has been a long ride for us all and im sure we all have days where we feel that it will never happen.
you have been through alot hun you are so strong and very brave.
its very difficult when there isent a reason as to why we cant concieve even though DH has 7% morphology and i was diagnosed with PCOS i do ovualate and i do get bang on 30 day cycles,doctors say that even with these problems i am classified as unexplained.i just dont know why its taken nearly 6 years,i feel very down sometimes and its very hard to talk to my friends and family about my struggles as they dont understand much about INFERTILITY and there is nothing they can do or say to make me feel better.
im glad i found this site bcoz now i dont feel alone and there are alot of people struggling with the same thing as me.

im going to have a look at your journal.

GOOD LUCK with the 3rd attemp i hope its a STICKY BFP.

 

[CaseyBaby718]

Hope 2010 is your year sweetie!

DH and I have been trying for a year now and it's exhausting hoping for as long as I have, I can not imagine the pain you have been going through for 6 years.

I know we can all get pregnant. Technology today allows it. I wish you the best of luck.