IVF or Laparoscopy/Hysteroscopy

[Butterfly22]

Hey everyone! Thank you in advance for listening to my looong story and for any advice. I really do apologize for the length of this post, it is actually the 1st time I am writing it all out. That alone is helping me feel better and more relaxed.

My DH and I have been ttc for 13 months now. DH is 31 and I am 29. We started out with just counting days on the calendar and having tons of bding around suspected O day, you know, just having fun. Well, since then, we have tried so many different things like OPKs, temping, clomid, relaxing, pre-seed, bding everyday then bding every other day, SMEP. I haven't had 1 single BFP, nothing. I am starting to feel like I am just not able to get pregnant...

I stopped taking BCP 20 months ago and my cycle has finally gone back to "normal". When I first stopped taking the pill I would have spotting for days and days before af showed and my cycle used to be 24-29 days long. Now my cycle length, for the past 4 months or so, is every 27/28 days and I ovulate on about the 13/14 day. I have wet/ewcm every month and I even get the ovulation discomfort.

My DH was tested and he is perfect.
I have had U/S done showing everything is good, HSG and all blood tests are great.

MY FS is saying that at our age and with all other tests coming back perfect that my husband and I should have gotten pregnant naturally by now. The FS says that our options are to continue ttc naturally, do the laparoscopic/hysteroscopic procedure, or IVF. But his suggestion is to get the laparoscopic/hysteroscopic procedure done now "just to be sure everything is ok" then if nothing bad turns up with that then to move onto IVF. He is not suggesting IUI as he believes I am ovulating every month and everything appears to be fine with DH sperm.

I have done alot of reading on all this and my DH and I have talked about it. We are not sure what to do. Sometimes I feel we should keep trying naturally and relax a little bit/have fun with it since we are still relatively young and have "only" been trying for 13 months. But then when AF shows up, I regret not moving forward to something else and feel as though we are "wasting time". On the ther hand, I don't know how I feel about having surgery done. I have thought about trying 1 round of IVF and if that doesn't work then do the procedure, but I only get 2 paid IVF through my insurance and I don't want to waste one if the procedure does find something and it is an easy fix. On top of all that, I keep thinking "what if the IVF doesn't work". DH and I will be crushed!!

My DH and I are so supportive of each other with all of this. We have been ttc naturally (without opks, temping, etc) and just having fun the past 2 months with nothing to show. I am due to ovulate todayish or tomorrowish and we are bding whenever we feeling like it, which is fun. But we both think it may be time to try something new, but are hesitant on jumping into more procedures too soon.

I know many of you have been ttc for way longer than 13 months and I realize that I may sound crazy/really sad for feeling like this. I apologize if I am insulting anyone. DH and I just wanted some input from others going through the same thing or have been through the same thing.

Any thoughts at all would be appreciated greatly!!

PS- I am thinking about deactivating my facebook account because everyone on it is either just getting pregnant, is pregnant, or just had a baby and it seems to be the only thing anyone is writing about (I'm not really going to deactivate it but I seriously have thought about it lol).

Thanks again!!

 

[stayinhappy]

I would recommend the lap/hyst procedure 1st...to rule out all is good! Also, if you do have any Endo...it can be taken care of then, thereby increasing success rates of IVF. I had it done 2 months ago...as both my husband and I are normal...and lo and behold I had Stage 1 Endo...NO SYMPTOMS. Anywho...I suggest doing that first, then move on to IVF. Why pay so much for IVF is the "house" isnt cleaned up? Good luck to you!!!

 

[popchick75]

I'm kind of surprised about moving straight to IVF. Most REs will suggest a few rounds of IUI (medicated or unmedicated) before moving to something so invasive. Also, clomid is pretty commonly given to women who ovulate regularly with the purpose of releasing multiple eggs and/or having a stronger ovulation so improve your chances.

I was encouraged by a doctor to just get IVF because that was my only chance, despite the fact that we were both healthy with no problems. We did it and it didn't work. It turns out that years later we found out I had a common genetic clotting issue...it wasn't a sperm meets egg problem, it was an implantation issue. We could have gone through IVF a dozen times and it still wouldn't have worked.

You should go with your gut...I know I wish I would have. If it is telling you that you don't want to jump straight into ivf, then don't. Maybe go get a second opinion just to get some perspective.

 

[babybirdangel]

I would recommend doing the lap before you do ivf. I had it done and they found out I had endometriosis. We tried Iui then had to do Ivf to get pregnant. If you get the lap done you will see if there any blockage also. Good luck and baby dust!