Hi all please give me some advice someone. or just let me know someone else has been through this. after 4 very long years ttc i had my bfp last week. oh and i are absolutley thrilled but cant quite believe it. oh told his younger brother today, his brother then gives him the news that his wife is expecting their first child a few weeks before us. i feel crushed. i wanted to be the centre of attention and to give his parents the first grandchild. the entire family is very competitive and and i really dont like his wife after she betrayed me earlier this year. i know i should just be happy for us but they have only been trying two minutes and it feels like our struggle will be forgotten about now. please comment your thoughts. baby dust to all xxx
I can kinda sympathize what you're going through.
DH's brother is in the marines,met and married his wife, and i've never met her. DH did when they were up for a short visit and i happen to be at work. DH and his brother are extremely competitive at everything too. However, we have the first grandchild.Well, first with his family's last name. Now DH's brothers wife has a kid from a previous relationship, and the family then focused everything from our son, to theirs!
Then the news came of her becoming pregnant. His brother never knew of us ttc for 10 months. So when i found out, of course i was bummed. They have been apart most of their marriage, and just seemed like "darn, the only time they did end up together, she gets pregnant
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Well, now this previous kid of hers, is I believe 3 already. Our son will be 3 in a few months. The MIL told me she was giving them advice on pottytraining as our son has been pottytrained since 2 1/2. Telling them my thoughts and ideas on it.
Our son also has an extensive vocabulary. He even points out every car in the parking lot, and says what kind of car it is! lol! DH is a collision tech, so our son has a box full of emblems!
Seems like our son has his way of shining through, and getting the attention focused back on him
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It doesn't bother me one bit now if she has her kid 4 months before us. Besides, they live out of state now, and we live 7 minutes away from his folks (rolls eyes). I'd never be selfish in interrupting the time they do share together when they're up to visit.
It'll get easier
Your child will not be forgotten, nor your long journey to get there. Your new little bundle will find it's own way of being the center of attention
I'm always bummed hearing everyone around me getting pregnant before me, but i'm happy it's our turn.I won't let it get me down, don't let it get you down!