Jealousy?

[Hollynesss]

I am so incredibly happy for all of my friends, IRL and here on BnB, who have gotten pregnant quickly! However, I can't help but feel pangs of jealously that this journey was so quick for them, and I'm still here I spent a lot of time in WTT with a lot of ladies, and they have all moved on to the Pregnancy forums already. I know that I will get there soon, but that green eyed monster keeps creeping in

Kind of a pointless post, just needed to vent! How do you ladies deal?

 

[RachaelP1027]

I am so incredibly happy for all of my friends, IRL and here on BnB, who have gotten pregnant quickly! However, I can't help but feel pangs of jealously that this journey was so quick for them, and I'm still here I spent a lot of time in WTT with a lot of ladies, and they have all moved on to the Pregnancy forums already. I know that I will get there soon, but that green eyed monster keeps creeping in

Kind of a pointless post, just needed to vent! How do you ladies deal?

I understand completely!! One of my good friends got pregnant last March (by "accident") and delivered her beautiful baby girl back in December! My other good friend who was a bridesmaid in my wedding back in October got pregnant on MY wedding night, while I woke up the morning of my wedding with my period that lasted all but 1 one day before returning from my honeymoon! It seemed sooo easy for them... so easy my one friend wasn't even trying! And my other friend, this is baby #2! My husband and I started trying in January and we have gotten BFN's every time. I just tested today at 11dpo and got a BFN So i'll test again on Monday as long as my AF doesn't show her ugly face! It's stressful, so stressful. But I'm so glad I found this forum so I can talk to you ladies and vent as well!

Happy baby making!

 

[Hollynesss]

Girl, I can totally relate on the wedding front! My period came the first day of our honeymoon and lasted until our second-to-last night! So frustrating! I was at least glad it didn't come ON my wedding day!

I try to remember that we don't always know the personal struggles of others. I don't talk to any of my friends about it really, I only talk to all of you on here, so I'm sure that what seems "easy" sometimes really isn't, they just haven't talked about it.

That being said, I do have a few friends who weren't even trying, or NTNP for that matter, and have gotten pregnant! For us its been life events holding us back. My husband was laid off, then got a new job, then he didn't feel ready, now I'm having a very unusually LONG cycle.....ugh!

 

[coach7712]

One of the hardest situations for me personally is seeing the high school students I'm around that get pregnant. Knowing that they most likely were trying to prevent and probably don't even want a baby makes the jealousy factor even worse. It's also a little worse that my husband's first cousin who got married the year before us is pregnant before we are too. I was hoping we might be pregnant together Of course I'm happy for them, but also sad for me

 

[RachaelP1027]

I am just believing that it's all in God's time. I'm planning to retest Monday or Tuesday. My nipples have been SO sore the last 3 days and tonight my husband said "Rach your nipples are huge!" Who knew I'd accept that as a compliment!! I'm also very bloated and feeling queasy... Not really nauseous like I'm going to vomit, just like ill. Who knows, maybe I'll get a BFP in a couple days. Staying hopeful!

 

[tuesdaysbaby]

Oh! Yes! I feel you totally.

I have the pangs, or the overwhelming waves of jealousy on a regular basis. We've been trying since January and BFNs abound… I tested a couple days ago and it was BFN but then I have no idea of ovulation date as I didn't do OPKs or temping this cycle.

We are taking a natural, holistic approach to it all - trying to stay sane, and still doing stuff that we can do to help us. I've just started acupuncture to regulate my cycles as they can be a little different each month - she didn't seem to think this was a problem, so YAY on that front as I have been so worried that it was causing us issues.

As much as I try to stay sane - I am anything from it at certain times of the month and in certain situations. My friend who is 20 weeks invited me for coffee this weekend and I had to decline. I just couldn't do it. It is too much for me at this stage as I feel like the last person around who doesn't have a bun in the oven.

Hang in there, it will totally happen for us! We have to believe it will and stay positive.

& remember: you aren't alone in your jealousy!

 

[xnataliex21x]

Totally get where us are coming from my sister in law is pregnant I'm soo over the moon for her but just wish it was us but our time will come soon I hope she's 14 weeks soo this baby will be spolied rotten x

 

[SamStormchase]

Oh my god, I'm so glad it's not just me. I have a number of close friends who have had babies this past year, and another 5 who are currently pregnant. I feel awful for feeling so jealous, but I am. It's like you feel it's so easy for them and we're just hanging here ... I also want to have my baby be able to grow up with my friends' babies and if I don't get there soon, this won't happen, and I feel like we'll all drift apart a bit because our lives will become so different. I know in my heart that won't happen, but you just sense it - because their lives have new meaning and I'm there just waiting. :/

 

[SamStormchase]

I understand completely!! One of my good friends got pregnant last March (by "accident") and delivered her beautiful baby girl back in December! My other good friend who was a bridesmaid in my wedding back in October got pregnant on MY wedding night, while I woke up the morning of my wedding with my period that lasted all but 1 one day before returning from my honeymoon! It seemed sooo easy for them... so easy my one friend wasn't even trying! And my other friend, this is baby #2! My husband and I started trying in January and we have gotten BFN's every time. I just tested today at 11dpo and got a BFN So i'll test again on Monday as long as my AF doesn't show her ugly face! It's stressful, so stressful. But I'm so glad I found this forum so I can talk to you ladies and vent as well!

Happy baby making!

OMG This would KILL me. Huge hugs babe. I feel the same about these forums. I am just hoping after 6 years of no periods, and them coming back due to good health returning, and getting married, and then being on bc, I just am hoping I have a normal cycle this month - ALL signs show am still in a fertile patch and we BD'd a few times, so everything crossed. But, today's chart/temp confused me a little

 

[xnataliex21x]

Just feel like completely giving up x

 

[SamStormchase]

Awww, no don't give up. And, try *try* not to stress out as that won't help the whole process. Best thing to do is just have sex a LOT ...

If I didn't try, I'd regret it. xx Huge hugs

 

[xnataliex21x]

Aww thanks hunni x

 

[xnataliex21x]

Best sight is seeing my sister in laws wee baby 14 weeks and 3 days with a heathly heart beat and waving x

 

[Hollynesss]

Don't give up, Natalie! We will all get there Its human nature to be jealous of those who already have what we are striving for, but it will be SO worth it when we get there!!

 

[RachaelP1027]

I'm a very spiritual person, and even though I stress like crazy when I start feeling "symptoms" I have to keep reminding myself that God is in control, and if I just "Let go, and let God" I will get my little miracle, whenever the time is right. We can't help but to rush these things when we start trying, you know?! Being a mother and experiencing this, I believe is God's greatest gift. How much our heart aches to love and nurture a little life is so amazing, and God see's that in our hearts and feels that same longing we long for. We just have to remember that his plan is far greater than anything we "plan" to do.

Happy baby making. I wish you all BFP's in your future. God bless!