Charlotteee
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So here is my birth story, it may get long so grab a coffee and put your feet up 
I was 41+3 when I had my third sweep, was so sure nothing was going to work but went home and had a hot curry and sex and went to bed thinking nothing of it. Went to the toilet about 3 times in the night and each time there was a lot of bloody show. Was woke up at about 6am with cramps which were uncomfortable but nothing I couldn't try and deal with. At about 8am they were getting quite strong and were every 5-6 minutes apart. Decided I would have a bath, sat in there for an hour and then got out. I went downstairs and had some breakfast and then sat on my ball until about 11am when I rang the birth centre as the pain in my back was excruciating. I went in and they examined me, I was still a finger tip dilated but my cervix was nearly almost thinned out. She sent me home with things to do to get baby off my back as he was currently lying posterior which is why it was hurting me so much.
Off home I went and got back into bed for about an hour with OH massaging my back but I kept getting woke up with contractions, by this point they were lasting a minute and were 2-3 minutes apart so at half 4 we went back to the birth centre. Just as I was about to get on the bed for them to examine me my waters went everywhere and would not stop gushing, they were clear and fine so they said they would give me some paracetamol and let me have a bath and check me at 7, if there was no change in my cervix they would send me home.
My god the contractions got so much more painful from here on, it really is true they are more painful once your waters have gone!! I was in the bath for about 2 hours trying to get some sleep but I just couldn't. I kept on going hot and cold and shivering when it was really warm but didn't think anything of it. At 7 o clock I was checked and I was 2cm but because my contractions were quite painful they said they could give me some pethidine to take the edge off things. The pethidine didn't really help the contractions at all, just helped me to sleep. Then at 9 the midwives swapped shift and a new one came on, she asked if I wanted another bath but I said no as it wasn't doing anything as I couldn't get my bump under the water so she said she would fill up the birthing pool for me and we could use it just as a bath for now. When I got in the birthing pool it was bliss. I felt so much more relaxed.
At about half 9 she checked me again and said I was 5-6cm!! How did I do that!! I felt so much happier that I was more or less halfway. I was given the gas and air, which again doesn't do much except dry your mouth out ridiculously. I was so so thirsty. I've never gone through so much water in my life. At 10pm I felt like I needed to push so she checked me and I was 8cm - he was back to back though still which is why I felt like I wanted to push. She was monitoring his heart rate and it was always inbetween 165-170bpm which they have to transfer you to the hospital for monitoring for if it stays at this. So out of the pool they make me get and change me into something comfortable for the ambulance journey.
From here it gets a little blurry. She was worried I was going to give birth in the ambulance because I was still pushing with every contraction. But we made it to the hospital and I was put on the monitor. His heart rate was high but kept dropping to a normal rate whenever I had a contraction. I was asking for an epidural so the anaesthetist came up and started asking questions, they did my obs and my temperature was 38.1 and because I was still getting my hot and cold shivers he was telling me that it was a risk giving me the epi as if I had an infection then him injecting into my spinal column could introduce the risk of meningitis, I didn't really care and kept saying ok just do it but OH at this point put his foot down and said no, try diamorphine. Finally I was given the diamorphine at ten past 1.
A doctor came in and examined me and said I was still 8cm. What happened next I don't really remember, this is what OH has told me. The doctor tried turning him in me so that he would be anterior and then with every contraction she was messing with a lip on my cervix trying to get it to move out of the way as that was the only thing stopping him coming out. At half 1 they told me I was 10cm and I could push. The Diamorphine still hadn't kicked in and they took my gas and air off me and said use the anger of the contraction to push. I was pushing and pushing and she then asked if she could perform an episiotomy, I don't really remember saying yes but I agreed and she did it when I had a contraction. I remember feeling his head, and making all the doctors and midwives laugh when I said to OH "If you ever come near me with your penis again I shall chop it off"
Finally with one last push at 02.25am on the 27th September 2012, my little man Jenson Paul James was born, he decided to poo on the way out but he didn't swallow any. He had such a cone head.
His Apgar scores at 1minute were 2, 5minutes, 6 and 10minutes 7.
This is where it all went down hill very fast. He made one feeble little cry and they whisked him off to the side to get him to breathe, OH couldn't cut his cord or anything and then all of a sudden in came the incubator transporter. (I'm getting quite upset writing this) There were about 13 people in the room.
I then didn't feel very well. My face felt all numb and tingly and I kept rolling my eyes and drifting in and out. My pulse was up at 170 and my sats were dropping so they put me on oxygen and after about an hour I started to feel ok again. OH and my mum went to visit Jenson and he came back looking broken. I never want to see his face like that again ever.
Anyway I'm cutting this short as I'm in tears, I'm so gutted that I didn't have my skin to skin and I've still not had a cuddle with him. I'm gutted that OH didn't get to cut his cord and that we still haven't been able to breastfeed.
We aren't 100% sure what happened to him, but they think it was lack of oxygen. I'm not sure how because half an hour before he was born they took a sample from his head and said his oxygen levels were fine. So somewhere something went wrong. I intend to make an appointment to see the obstetrician and find out what they think happened.
But Jenson had to go on a cooling mat for 72 hours to stop any further brain damage, during his first day of life he was having seizures, these have now stopped and he is off the cooling mat. And his breathing tube has been removed today. I am hoping for our first cuddle when we visit him soon. I don't really remember much of my first day visiting him as I was so distraught.
One things for sure is, I won't be risking this again on my next child, I will be having an elective C-Section. I came so close to losing my little man, we still aren't 100% out of the woods but everything is looking good so we are hopeful.
Here are some pictures of our boy.
https://sphotos-e.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/255482_10151180178249127_1414040753_n.jpg
https://sphotos-g.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/560920_10151183322494127_2004759937_n.jpg
https://sphotos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/185030_10151185021014127_368594321_n.jpg
The last picture is him off all his meds and finally awake
If you made it this far thankyou for reading
xxxx
I was 41+3 when I had my third sweep, was so sure nothing was going to work but went home and had a hot curry and sex and went to bed thinking nothing of it. Went to the toilet about 3 times in the night and each time there was a lot of bloody show. Was woke up at about 6am with cramps which were uncomfortable but nothing I couldn't try and deal with. At about 8am they were getting quite strong and were every 5-6 minutes apart. Decided I would have a bath, sat in there for an hour and then got out. I went downstairs and had some breakfast and then sat on my ball until about 11am when I rang the birth centre as the pain in my back was excruciating. I went in and they examined me, I was still a finger tip dilated but my cervix was nearly almost thinned out. She sent me home with things to do to get baby off my back as he was currently lying posterior which is why it was hurting me so much.
Off home I went and got back into bed for about an hour with OH massaging my back but I kept getting woke up with contractions, by this point they were lasting a minute and were 2-3 minutes apart so at half 4 we went back to the birth centre. Just as I was about to get on the bed for them to examine me my waters went everywhere and would not stop gushing, they were clear and fine so they said they would give me some paracetamol and let me have a bath and check me at 7, if there was no change in my cervix they would send me home.
My god the contractions got so much more painful from here on, it really is true they are more painful once your waters have gone!! I was in the bath for about 2 hours trying to get some sleep but I just couldn't. I kept on going hot and cold and shivering when it was really warm but didn't think anything of it. At 7 o clock I was checked and I was 2cm but because my contractions were quite painful they said they could give me some pethidine to take the edge off things. The pethidine didn't really help the contractions at all, just helped me to sleep. Then at 9 the midwives swapped shift and a new one came on, she asked if I wanted another bath but I said no as it wasn't doing anything as I couldn't get my bump under the water so she said she would fill up the birthing pool for me and we could use it just as a bath for now. When I got in the birthing pool it was bliss. I felt so much more relaxed.
At about half 9 she checked me again and said I was 5-6cm!! How did I do that!! I felt so much happier that I was more or less halfway. I was given the gas and air, which again doesn't do much except dry your mouth out ridiculously. I was so so thirsty. I've never gone through so much water in my life. At 10pm I felt like I needed to push so she checked me and I was 8cm - he was back to back though still which is why I felt like I wanted to push. She was monitoring his heart rate and it was always inbetween 165-170bpm which they have to transfer you to the hospital for monitoring for if it stays at this. So out of the pool they make me get and change me into something comfortable for the ambulance journey.
From here it gets a little blurry. She was worried I was going to give birth in the ambulance because I was still pushing with every contraction. But we made it to the hospital and I was put on the monitor. His heart rate was high but kept dropping to a normal rate whenever I had a contraction. I was asking for an epidural so the anaesthetist came up and started asking questions, they did my obs and my temperature was 38.1 and because I was still getting my hot and cold shivers he was telling me that it was a risk giving me the epi as if I had an infection then him injecting into my spinal column could introduce the risk of meningitis, I didn't really care and kept saying ok just do it but OH at this point put his foot down and said no, try diamorphine. Finally I was given the diamorphine at ten past 1.
A doctor came in and examined me and said I was still 8cm. What happened next I don't really remember, this is what OH has told me. The doctor tried turning him in me so that he would be anterior and then with every contraction she was messing with a lip on my cervix trying to get it to move out of the way as that was the only thing stopping him coming out. At half 1 they told me I was 10cm and I could push. The Diamorphine still hadn't kicked in and they took my gas and air off me and said use the anger of the contraction to push. I was pushing and pushing and she then asked if she could perform an episiotomy, I don't really remember saying yes but I agreed and she did it when I had a contraction. I remember feeling his head, and making all the doctors and midwives laugh when I said to OH "If you ever come near me with your penis again I shall chop it off"
Finally with one last push at 02.25am on the 27th September 2012, my little man Jenson Paul James was born, he decided to poo on the way out but he didn't swallow any. He had such a cone head.
His Apgar scores at 1minute were 2, 5minutes, 6 and 10minutes 7.
This is where it all went down hill very fast. He made one feeble little cry and they whisked him off to the side to get him to breathe, OH couldn't cut his cord or anything and then all of a sudden in came the incubator transporter. (I'm getting quite upset writing this) There were about 13 people in the room.
I then didn't feel very well. My face felt all numb and tingly and I kept rolling my eyes and drifting in and out. My pulse was up at 170 and my sats were dropping so they put me on oxygen and after about an hour I started to feel ok again. OH and my mum went to visit Jenson and he came back looking broken. I never want to see his face like that again ever.
Anyway I'm cutting this short as I'm in tears, I'm so gutted that I didn't have my skin to skin and I've still not had a cuddle with him. I'm gutted that OH didn't get to cut his cord and that we still haven't been able to breastfeed.
We aren't 100% sure what happened to him, but they think it was lack of oxygen. I'm not sure how because half an hour before he was born they took a sample from his head and said his oxygen levels were fine. So somewhere something went wrong. I intend to make an appointment to see the obstetrician and find out what they think happened.
But Jenson had to go on a cooling mat for 72 hours to stop any further brain damage, during his first day of life he was having seizures, these have now stopped and he is off the cooling mat. And his breathing tube has been removed today. I am hoping for our first cuddle when we visit him soon. I don't really remember much of my first day visiting him as I was so distraught.
One things for sure is, I won't be risking this again on my next child, I will be having an elective C-Section. I came so close to losing my little man, we still aren't 100% out of the woods but everything is looking good so we are hopeful.
Here are some pictures of our boy.
https://sphotos-e.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/255482_10151180178249127_1414040753_n.jpg
https://sphotos-g.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/560920_10151183322494127_2004759937_n.jpg
https://sphotos-d.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/185030_10151185021014127_368594321_n.jpg
The last picture is him off all his meds and finally awake
If you made it this far thankyou for reading
xxxx
but congratulations, he is gorgeous 
x
, you and jenson are tough as nails though, I really hope you got your snuggles today and little man is home with you and OH soon 
