Joining.. looking for support and to give support

[AugustMidge]

I am on Pregnancy number four, my last loss was at 17 weeks and 4 days, preterm labor. (refer to my introduction) The Doctor I had didn't seem to think anything of it, this one now that I am pregnant again seems to be convinced my issues is solvable and has already be solved. I have a Cerclage. I have made it just past my last one, two days past. Although I am happy and thrilled I am nervous, scared... worried. I have nightmares and I know they are caused by my inner worry and I need to think POSITIVE thoughts otherwise ... well positive helps, I believe emotions manifest physically more often then not.

Its difficult!

 

[Peril]

Congratulations and welcome!!! Positive thoughts being sent your way xxx

 

[Lucy1973]

Hi, I am newly pregnant after 2 losses this year. Really hope you will gain confidence as the pregnancy progresses, sounds like they know what the problem was and have sorted it.

Its not fair we can't enjoy an easy carefree enjoyable pregnancy, I think the worry will always be in the back of our minds until we are holding our babies....for me it feels like a lifetime away! Hope you can find little ways to feel more relaxed.

 

[vickyd]

Hey there!
Im almost 14 weeks pregnant after two losses in 2009. One at 22 weeks (termination due to severe problem with baby) and one mmc at 9 weeks. Although things are good so far i have yet to feel confident. Just today i was staring at a co-corkers bump thinking ill never get there....I think we should all help eachother when we get these neagtive feelings!

 

[Lucy1973]

I also saw a co worker's bump today and was thinking exactly the same thing! Thats what is so great on here, we all know what the other is going though.

 

[vickyd]

Luce you have no idea how relieved i feel that you think like that as well!!! I was beginning to fear i had an intuition about the future lol!!! I guess its expected that we are so anxious all the time....

 

[Lucy1973]

I think it's because we can't imagine being lucky enough to get that far Vicki, ....when it gets to early scan time I will be beside myself! Its totally normal...

 

[AugustMidge]

I feel the same, I look at others and think... that's never going to be me. Although I keep trying to tell myself that my partner is right, that I am doing great and I'll know if something is wrong.

Some days its just so hard!

 

[Lucy1973]

Losing a pregnancy/baby makes us lose our innocence August, sad but true. Maybe after one slightly stressful but successful pregnancy we may have more hope during the next one. Hopefully as time passes you will have more good days and when you pass viability stage you will hopefully feel a bit better.

 

[vickyd]

I thought id be calmer by now, i mean ive had 4 scans!!!!!! Guess im just a neurotic freak lol!!! The way things are now, ill be stopping after i give birth to my first!!!!

 

[Lucy1973]

Vicki I think I am going to be much the same for most of this pregnancy....at the moment I just want to still feel symptoms at 6 weeks, and still be preg at 8 weeks...I just can't see any further than that.

 

[AugustMidge]

I thought I would have allowed myself to really GET EXCITED once I passed the point that I gave birth last time. I didn't. Now however I feel it, after the millionth heartbeat test and so on. Yet I know in a few weeks I am going to be thinking...
"Is the baby okay?"
"Is anything wrong?"
"Will I know if there is?"
The same ol' doubts. I guess its the curse of having so many difficulties in the beginning. As it was said lets hope that after one stressful but successful pregnancy we can truly ENJOY the next one.

 

[Lucy1973]

I am sure the next one will be easier. Also when you can feel the baby moving all the time should make it easier.

 

[croydongirl]

Feeling for you ladies, and right there with you. Praying for peace for you xx

 

[Lucia]

Just got my first BFP today and I am with you! It is so hard to not stress. I've had 2 losses in the past year and I am just not feeling optimistic about this...I am just going to try my best to think happy thoughts and let nature take its course. I can't change the outcome so I just need to accept what comes.

 

[mentormel]

I am 14 weeks pregnant after a missed miscarrige at 6 1/2 weeks in Feb. I had an ultrasound at 10 weeks and I've heard the heart beat twice at the doctor's office - the last one at 12 weeks 4 days. Having a missed miscarriage was hard because I had no idea something happened, so I constantly worry the same thing has happened again. I want to be excited about this pregnancy, but I am so worried all the time. I go to the Dr. Thursday and I think that will ease my mind. I fear I will live for my next Dr. appt. during the whole pregnancy.

 

[AugustMidge]

I am 14 weeks pregnant after a missed miscarrige at 6 1/2 weeks in Feb. I had an ultrasound at 10 weeks and I've heard the heart beat twice at the doctor's office - the last one at 12 weeks 4 days. Having a missed miscarriage was hard because I had no idea something happened, so I constantly worry the same thing has happened again. I want to be excited about this pregnancy, but I am so worried all the time. I go to the Dr. Thursday and I think that will ease my mind. I fear I will live for my next Dr. appt. during the whole pregnancy.

I LIVE for each appointment, each time I get to hear my baby's heart beating it reassures me and calms me. I think about once a week sometimes a bit longer I begin to Intensely worry. Where I voice things like "Is he okay?" "I hope everything is okay." However once you feel your little one moving it gets a little easier. Now I can tell you mine apparently has a very close attachment to my left side. It eases your mind some.

Sending positive thoughts your way.