July/August (Summer Sunbeams) 2012!

[nicola ttc]

hello Poppy!! So pleased everything looks good Pup. Do you get another scan before 20 weeks?

Great news on your scan too Coastgirl. lovely pic.

Wow Libra Mariah, congratulations! My neice has 2 girls with 11 months between them. She loves it too and they're so close now (they're 4/5- they always have a playmate around too.

 

[puppycat]

No, no more scans now until 20 weeks. I should start feeling Poppy properly though in the next few weeks and it'll be a easier to find HB on a doppler so I don't mind.

 

[TTCinBC]

We are due date buddies Puppy! glad your scan went well. Makes everything feel better. Ive already figure out that I can have my 20 week scan the last week of March. They wont tell us gender any sooner then exactly 20 weeks.

I started feeling really good sickness wise so stopped taking my diclectin, only to find out, nope, still need them. Probably even more now then last week. Blah...

 

[jmandrews]

i don't get to find out the gender until 20 weeks either ... wish it was sooner, but oh well. I am so excited!

 

[tmr1234]

Coastgirl~ Glad your scan went well August babys are the best i have 2 2nd & 4th.

Libra mariah~ I was due 3rd with my LO but he came the next monring lol.

Puppy~ Can you change mine please from 23rd to 19th please

A.F.U

We are a Lemon told that to DH last night and he looked at me like "yes you are a lemon lol" 17 sleeps untill we find out pink or blue. Dh had his head on my bump lasy night and i could feel bubs trying to kick him off it was only a slite prod but it was defo bubs.

 

[struth]

Congrats on your great scans puppycat and coastgirl!

And welcome to all the newbies!

Oops - try not to worry about the doppler honey. You are still really early and it is so difficult to find this early. I'm sure that all is fine and that your little bean is just hiding somewhere! I hope that you feel better soon hon xx

AFM - OH told me last night that he wants to find out gender at our 20 week scan. Hmmm... I guess it is my fault - I told him he could choose as I wanted him to have a say in something and if knowing genders is going to help him bond then I thought it would be a good idea. I so wanted to be team yellow though..... Ah well. I guess at the end of the day it doesn't really matter...!

 

[coastgirl]

A bit cross today girls...........well my sister in law had not one nice thing to say about any of our pictures or facebook status.......we announced our pregnancy yesterday after seeing a healthy little one and consultant reassured us the miscarriage risk is as good as it gets now. So I had 48 lovely comments from people and all she could say was '48 comments!!! Really????????!!!!!' I found this very 'off'........not one positive thing to say about her future niece or nephew. Then my husbands aunt congratulated his parents and 'aunty claire' and it made me angry as she couldnt give a toss!! She was placed on top table at our wedding and was absent all day as she was 'apparantly sick'......I dont know what I have done or what to believe and my family and friends commented on her behaviour too on the day.

The other thing is I have fallen out with my mum since 2009, she chose not to come to our wedding and I told her aabout being pregnant when I found out and text her yesterday about our healthy scan and nothing.............zilch. She also couldnt care less. I made a point of not letting her upset me or control my life any more back in 2009 and she hates it. I cant believe her, I feel like not bothering anymore and wiping her out of my life totally Sorry for the rant, i am ecstatic really but times like these really bring it home to you about whats important. xxx

 

[aurora32]

Morning Girls,

Gz on your scans xx

Could you add my date in too Puppy 8th August

Hope everyone is feeling well today
xx

 

[tmr1234]

Coastgirl~ So sorry you have some 1 like that upsetting you try not to let it get at you. Me & my sister do not talk i think her words where she is dead to me this was after when she go marred 2 yrs ago i had just had my son and had BAD PND i was on my own with my 2 kids as DH couldn't come and i got realy upset and started crying so i walked out i did it so i didn't rune her day not to be unkind. Now she hates me my mum told her i was preg with this 1 after her having her 2nd baby 7 months ago and saying how much she can not wait to have another (trying to rub my face in it) then my mum told her and she said no body should have more than 2 kids as it is not fair on them and like i will not give a toss about my outhers. I will not talk to her or even help her if i seen her in truble people like that are just nastey pices of work that like to put outher ppl down.

SORY FOR THE RANT.

 

[puppycat]

Will update newbies/dates tonight girlies.

Coast that sounds awfully hard, being a mother it's hard to comprehend not talking to your own child. I'm sorry you're having all this upset but you need to concentrate on your little family now and screw anyone else.

I put our scan on fb last night. Anyone who knows us knows we've had 3 losses and quite a rough year and would be happy for us but there'll always be those who obviously don't comment and those who choose to comment and say wholly inappropriate things.

 

[coastgirl]

Puppycat at least we can choose our friends. I am sorry you have family trouble too.

This is a lovely positive thread so dont want to drag down the tone of it..........will try keep this brief ........so i text mum and it started a text argument, I got called a liar to a spoilt bratt and all my previous problems with ex's etc thrown back in my face, she said she should have left me to it years ago.........so I said 'maybe you should it might have done me a favour!'. She has previously said to me how having a kid is not all its cracked up to be and that made me feel worthless (maybe I am telling lies about that too, I have been put down so much by her sometimes I think I am beginning to believe her!!)...........for some reason this pregnancy is making me think about whats important, and making me think about the kind of mother I will be. I dont want her in my childs life so that is it I think. The decision has been made. Its her loss. Good luck puppycat, we can PM if you want a grumble. xx

 

[puppycat]

Hey ths thread's here for the good stuff and the bad so don't you worry about chatting here ok

I'm shocked. Your mum sounds really bitter. I don't think that reflects on you at all, she's obviously got some unresolved issues xxx

 

[coastgirl]

Uggghhhh, she is still going on about what my dad did on her and they have been divorced since I was about 4 and I am nearly 31! Its always about what people have done on her, she has isolated herself from her own family, has fallen out with all but 1 of her 5 sisters and brothers and has lost friends over the years, it affected me as I was isolated too as a child and it affected my relationship with family too. I have a lovely hubby now, havent needed to cry properly for a long long time (until today) and life is good. I think she hates it. People cant understand how you cant attend your own daughters wedding!! It was a great day, today she has tried to tell me my wedding day was all a lie because my dad was there and gave me away. Well anyhow I think you get the picture, you girls can see the situation as clearly as I can I am sure. Thanks puppycat.......I really do hate ranting but healthier to be off my chest!! xx

 

[aurora32]

Uggghhhh, she is still going on about what my dad did on her and they have been divorced since I was about 4 and I am nearly 31! Its always about what people have done on her, she has isolated herself from her own family, has fallen out with all but 1 of her 5 sisters and brothers and has lost friends over the years, it affected me as I was isolated too as a child and it affected my relationship with family too. I have a lovely hubby now, havent needed to cry properly for a long long time (until today) and life is good. I think she hates it. People cant understand how you cant attend your own daughters wedding!! It was a great day, today she has tried to tell me my wedding day was all a lie because my dad was there and gave me away. Well anyhow I think you get the picture, you girls can see the situation as clearly as I can I am sure. Thanks puppycat.......I really do hate ranting but healthier to be off my chest!! xx

Coast, Some people cant see what they have in front of them hun, try not let it get you down, you have all the positives to look forward too, dont let your mums negativity get to you or bring you down, she will come to want you before you here, enjoy your happiness, your life and your pregnancy, some people are truly not worth the heartache whether related or otherwise we are always here if you need to vent

 

[lolalei3]

Coast at this time in our lives we get to really find out who is important to us and who isn't i know she's your mum but if she puts you down all the time and is nasty to you then it might be worth keeping your distance. Im finding out the hard way about a few of my so called close friends right now, a lot of them are actually jealous im pregnant and haven't called or been in contact, really sad people are so complicated!!

 

[oopsbaby]

Coast, I agree with what the other girls have said. The thread is where we can come to talk about the exciting bits of our pregnancies, and the not so exciting bits. We all support each other through the good and the bad . To me, your sisters comment suggest jealousy!! She seems to be jealous of all the attention your pregnancy is getting (48 comments go you ). Also agree very much with what Lolalei said! When you are pregnant you realise who matters, who never did and who always will. Its one of the toughest yet most rewarding things you can do being a mummy, and if people can't be happy for you, they don't deserve to share in this exciting time of your life xxx

 

[coastgirl]

Thanks everyone for your supportive comments!! I am shattered today, I have forgotten how much arguing and being upset drains you!! Just proves how out of practice I am at it, there was a time it was an everyday occurence!! Anyhow thanks again....onwards and upwards!! xxx

 

[oopsbaby]

Pip is a lime today, but I can't muster the energy for excitement. Really struggling still, sorry I've been quiet ladies, am hoping to pick up after seeing my psych on Mon, and my scan is Thurs, only 5 sleeps. I am so glad to be pregnant and so happy for the exciting journey to come, but the depression and anxiety is just tarnishing everything. Hope another meds change isn't needed, not sure I could cope with it. xxx

 

[nicola ttc]

Happy 11 weeks Oops
sorry you're feeling so down. You have quite a bit to deal with hun so try to be kind to yourself.

 

[jmandrews]

yippee my lil bean is 13 weeks old today! whoo hoo!!! Second Trimester!