Just about to miscarry (I think)

[MarieLou72]

Hi there, I've just joined this site and have found some of the messages about miscarriages really comforting.

I was told last week at 9 weeks that it looked like my baby's heart had stopped beating at 5-6 weeks and this was called a missed miscarriage. I'd had a feeling something was wrong as I'd been brown spotting for over 2 weeks and never really had any pregnany symptoms, but it was still a huge shock. They said I had to wait 2 weeks then go in for another scan before I could have a d&C. Today the brown bleeding had increased and I have a feeling I'm going to miscarry any time. I just want it to happen now so that I can move on as I'm desparate to get pregnant again. It took 12 months to conceive our DS and 7 months to conceive this one so I'm worried that it's going to take months again.

Is it true that you can be more fertile after a MC? I'm hoping that I'll get pregnant straight away.

 

[NickyT75]

Im sorry to hear this hun

They do say we are more fertile after a loss but this hasnt been the case for me, so I guess it will be different for everyone.

They advise you to wait for 1 period but this is mainly for dating purposes

if you get preg immediately without having 1 period it can be difficult to work out your dates & can cause unneccesary stress if you conceived later than you thought (as you will be measuring small for dates & will have the added worry that you'll need to go back in another 2 wks to find out if it has grown or not)

I think the sensible thing to do is wait just until your next period to save yourself any more heartache

Im sorry you are having to go through this horrible situation & hope you have plenty of support around you xx

 

[Sambatiki]

Marielou72 Im so sorry what you are going through
My suggestion like nicky has said is to wait 1 AF, but tbh I would start again when you and OH feel happy too.

I hope that all goes aswell as it possibly could do.

 

[Hevz]

Hi there, I've just joined this site and have found some of the messages about miscarriages really comforting.

I was told last week at 9 weeks that it looked like my baby's heart had stopped beating at 5-6 weeks and this was called a missed miscarriage. I'd had a feeling something was wrong as I'd been brown spotting for over 2 weeks and never really had any pregnany symptoms, but it was still a huge shock. They said I had to wait 2 weeks then go in for another scan before I could have a d&C. Today the brown bleeding had increased and I have a feeling I'm going to miscarry any time. I just want it to happen now so that I can move on as I'm desparate to get pregnant again. It took 12 months to conceive our DS and 7 months to conceive this one so I'm worried that it's going to take months again.

Is it true that you can be more fertile after a MC? I'm hoping that I'll get pregnant straight away.

Aww babe, got my fingers crossed for you.

I found out 6 weeks after I lost my premature son that I was pregnant again and was shocked beyond belief as we'd only had 1 "comforting cuddle" and it had taken us nearly a year to conceive Thomas, the baby we had just lost.

After a miscarriage that I had the year before last, it took us 9 months to conceive my son Toby, had him at St Mary's, is that who you're under?

My friend had a missed miscarriage and d&c last year at Stepping Hill, never had a period after it and found out she was pregnant again immediately


Everyone's different babe, but good luck

 

[buffycat]

Marie-Lou....

i am so sorry to hear that you are going through this....it really isn't fair......

i've also heard that straight after a mc is very fertile......didn't help for us though.....i was ttc for 11 months before mc in march......still trying now though.....

all i can say is, take some time to heal, both physically and emotionally......you will know when you are ready...

here if you want to pm too....take care...

luv & hugs

 

[Totally Mommy]

I'm proof that you're more fertile after a miscarriage. I miscarried in April and got pregnant with twins in May. But I did end up losing one of the twins early on. I don't know if I got pregnant with twins because of the miscarriage the month before or the fact that both my parents are twins and I was a twin but my mother miscarried mine so I'm prone to have twins. At the same time though I don't know if I would suggest getting pregnant right away. Give yourself time to heal first because I went threw hell the first three months and even now of the pregnancy. I didn't get pregnant this time on purpose but because I didn't realise that you ovulate later after a miscarriage.

Please take the time to heal first it's better for you sanity and it's better for the baby.

 

[Jessa]

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. It's definitely something that takes some time to get over, both physically and emotionally. I had a natural miscarriage three weeks ago and have just stopped bleeding. I, like you, am hoping to get pregnant again right away. Good luck!