Just been for scan - baby has died. d&c tomorrow.

[liz_uk]

Well I posted on here on Tuesday that i`d had some pains, and I was booked in for a scan today. They found the baby had died.

I`m booked in for a d&c tomorrow at 7.45 and am absolutely petrified.

I`m having tummy aches now and am so worried it will happen on its own through the night, as I don`t know what to expect.. and i`m also worried about the operation tomorrow.

I guess i`m just a big hormonal mess at the moment.

I went on my own for the scan this morning, and adimently sent my partner off to work saying that i`ll be fine, and theres nothing to worry about.. so had to deal with it all myself in the sonography room.

Guess I`ll be a regular visitor here now. and I`m sure i`ll have lots of questions.

It`s times like this that the `virtual` world really helps !!

 

[FEDup1981]

im really sorry to hear that, hard to know what to say, xxx

 

[NickyT75]

sorry for your loss hun xx

 

[ANGYPANGY]

sorry for you loss hun my toughts are with you

 

[maybebaby]

 

[millymolly]

So sorry to hear of your sad loss!

x

 

[miel]

very sorry for you lost sweetheart.

 

[Suz]

Very sorry for your loss

 

[Alexas Mommy]

i am so sorry about your loss.

 

[todteach]

I'm sorry hun. If there is anything we can do, let us know. We're all here with you. Lots of Take care.

 

[Omi]

Oh, Sweetheart so sorry to hear what you're going through

I had a similar thing happen to me, although i never had any indication that my baby had died. Just went for the dating scan (at 10 weeks) and was told the baby had died 2 weeks earlier- it was a terrible shock and very very sad!

I had the d&c ..in fact i called and asked for it as i had to wait a week for another us and i just knew it was over and i hated the wait. Also, i was told by a friend who'd miscared a month before me..( in fact, she's oh's friends fiance so very rarely see her but i knew she was ttc and on fertility treatment- anyway she came out of the woodwork for me when she found out!!) She did medical management and said the whole experience was awful and she regretted not going for the d&c herself.

Anyway, by the time my d&c and us was scheduled i'd started miscarry on my own and it was godawful, so for me the d&c was a godsend.

Dont worry, if you can ( ) they'll take great care of you. I cannot fault anything and it really wasnt scary at all. At first i was given a couple of pills to soften/open up the cervix. A few hours later i was taken up to theatre..well in a room adjacent to it. The anastheseologist came and explained everything, as well as the the surgeon/doctor and the operating nurse. She was lovely by the way and stroked my hand..i was given a shot in the canula in my hand (the best thing to happen that day as i was in so much pain) and i literally went out like a light.-3 secs!! I woke up in the recovery room with the nurse and the anastheseologist. The took my bloodpressure etc- and me woozy from the drugs and feeling rather good, started rambling on... how embarrasing Then i was taken to a room on the ward..yes, its not the best scenario as you could hear babies crying but i was so much better than before and glad it was over i didnt care much. I was given a cup of tea and a roll and my oh and the midwife came in. She checked me over again (just to check on bleeding) and said we could try again right away if we wanted to.

Honest, sweetheart..i understand its scary but you wont notice a thing. I went home soon after (2 hours after the op) and had a sore tummy the next day..but not bad. I bled for 4-5 days and i got straight to ttc again.

I know everybody's experience is different but the d&c itself is nothing to be scared of. I hope you too have a good exdperience and that things will normalise quickly for you..for me the d&c really got me back on track i feel. It takes time emotionally..but if you're kind to yourself and eachother you will come out of this a stronger couple, i promise you.

Have a glass of wine and anything else you've been missing when pg (after the op, obviously) and a good duvet in front of telly wont go amiss either. or a magazine or two.

Sorry to have gone on a bit, but i really felt for you and your worrying, sweetie. You'll be fine!

Mahoosive hun!

Omi xxx

PS(please feel free to pm me if you wanna chat or have any questions)

 

[Younglutonmum]

So sorry to here of your loss

 

[Frankie]

sorry for your loss x

 

[mkmum]

Well I posted on here on Tuesday that i`d had some pains, and I was booked in for a scan today. They found the baby had died.

I`m booked in for a d&c tomorrow at 7.45 and am absolutely petrified.

I`m having tummy aches now and am so worried it will happen on its own through the night, as I don`t know what to expect.. and i`m also worried about the operation tomorrow.

I guess i`m just a big hormonal mess at the moment.

I went on my own for the scan this morning, and adimently sent my partner off to work saying that i`ll be fine, and theres nothing to worry about.. so had to deal with it all myself in the sonography room.

Guess I`ll be a regular visitor here now. and I`m sure i`ll have lots of questions.

It`s times like this that the `virtual` world really helps !!

goodness me! im so sorry . i could have written that! it all hapened to me last friday. i sent partner to work thinking everything will be fine, but i had me 7yr old with me. i know exactly how you feel, i had to go through it all alone too, and i was sooooo scared about it happening naturally, and i had to wait a week for erpc!! ( just got back from it an hour ago). again, im very sorry.

 

[linzi74]

Hi Liz

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

We're all here if you ever need a chat.

Linzi
xx

 

[Pixie]

I know there are no words to take away the pain, but thinking of you at this sad time and sending you a big

Take care xx

 

[tillymum]

I'm so so sorry for your loss, I know how devastating it is to go to your scan full of excitment and hope only to leave heartbroken.
Good luck tomorrow honey. We are all here to help you through.

 

[superp123]

I just couldn't read and run. I have to second what Omi said. My D&C was not bad either, the staff was very kind and helpful and recovery was not bad either. I hope that you'll take her advice and be kind to yourself.
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
P

 

[xXx Vamp xXx]

I'm really sorry sweetheart

 

[cerilou]

So sorry for your loss. Give yourself time to grieve and look after yourself.