cosmotbear
Expecting number 2 :-)
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I am not really sure why I was thinking about this today, but it was on my mind all afternoon so I thought I'd post.
I had a mmc when I was pregnant the first time, started bleeding at about 11 weeks and opted for a D&C at 12 weeks when we knew it was for definite. I was so calm when I found out I had miscarried...shock maybe at a) being pregnant anyway b) that it was all over.
But as I was on the trolley about to go into theatre I just started sobbing. The doctor walked in a few minutes later and said to me that it was all going to be fine and that in the long run, having a miscarriage is actually a positive thing as it is the ultimate proof that you are fertile and able to conceive. He said 'I'll bet you that the next time you're back in this hospital you'll be in labour ward'. I wasn't entirely sure about this but low and behold I was back there, in labour ward 13 months later giving birth to my DS.
Miscarriage is awful, especially if you have consecutive ones, and I am just shocked that so many women deal with it all the time, but I remember what that doctor said to me and I think he's right. Having a miscarriage is better than never ever getting a BFP. It does prove you work, but just that this time it wasn't meant to be and that the egg or sperm had genetic flaws so your body is just doing the right thing for you and the baby.
Sending huge hugs to all the ladies on here and please try to keep in mind what that lovely man said to me xxxxx and lots of luck for a really sticky bean next time round.
I had a mmc when I was pregnant the first time, started bleeding at about 11 weeks and opted for a D&C at 12 weeks when we knew it was for definite. I was so calm when I found out I had miscarried...shock maybe at a) being pregnant anyway b) that it was all over.
But as I was on the trolley about to go into theatre I just started sobbing. The doctor walked in a few minutes later and said to me that it was all going to be fine and that in the long run, having a miscarriage is actually a positive thing as it is the ultimate proof that you are fertile and able to conceive. He said 'I'll bet you that the next time you're back in this hospital you'll be in labour ward'. I wasn't entirely sure about this but low and behold I was back there, in labour ward 13 months later giving birth to my DS.
Miscarriage is awful, especially if you have consecutive ones, and I am just shocked that so many women deal with it all the time, but I remember what that doctor said to me and I think he's right. Having a miscarriage is better than never ever getting a BFP. It does prove you work, but just that this time it wasn't meant to be and that the egg or sperm had genetic flaws so your body is just doing the right thing for you and the baby.
Sending huge hugs to all the ladies on here and please try to keep in mind what that lovely man said to me xxxxx and lots of luck for a really sticky bean next time round.