Just feeling down

[catfromaus]

Hi guys,

Just had a bit of a crying uncontrollably moment, and I don't even know what set it off. I don't feel like myself at all, and up until now I thought I was coping with everything really well. Right now, it hurts as much as it did when I saw that she had no heartbeat, it feels so raw and so hopeless. Actually, come to think of it, that happened two weeks ago today.

I just needed to get this feeling off my chest. Thanks for listening.

Cat
xxx

 

[tinadecember]

firstly sorry to hear of your loss hun.. i know everyone says it but things will get better with time. its a good healer
ive had a bit of a cry this morning too. on my way to work i felt like turning back around and just going home and sobbing my heart out. i had a mc 6 weeks ago and me and oh have been trying since. did a pregnancy test last night and it was negative. i suppose i thought i would get caught again straight away and that i would have something to take my mind off the mc but i feel even worse. xxx

 

[rachjim98]

Sorry your feeling down, must be a downer bug going around cause I have caught it too.
There will be good days and there will be bad ones. Time does heal as stated above but it will never take it all away. I just passed the 6 month mark for me and some days it still feels like yesterday. It gets better but everyone has bad days. Keep your head up sweetie and just take it as it comes.
So sorry for your loss Thinking of you!

 

[kirstylm]

Hi hunny,
hope your ok. I know its hard, I had an op yesterday (an evacuation) as I was told on my first scan it didnt look good and thy wantd to re-scan in 2 wks time. Second scan I was told my baby had no heartbeat and had prob dies at about 6 wks and I was neally 9 wks gone. I was in a state for the 2 weeks inbeteen and the 4 days I had to wait for my op knowing I had my dead baby inside me.
Had my op yesterday and i feel so much better now. it sounds horrible but once you have it all sorted its like a weight of stress worry and dissapointment is lifted.
I will never forget my baby and will always feel strong about it. But it WILL get better in time I promise, I feel better already.
Just surround yourself with friends and family and it makes getting through it so much easier hun it really does but dont ever feel afraid to cry, you need to do that to move on to more positive things.
Hope u get through this soon and be strong my love xxxxxx

 

[catfromaus]

Thank you so much everyone. It feels so good to hear your words of support, just to know someone out there is really listening makes a difference.
I think part of the problem is that nobody talks about it. Apart from the odd text message and a few people saying some truly horrible things the day it happened, most people seem to just want to pretend like it never happened. I feel bad because I haven't moved on and everybody close to me just wants things to go back to the way they were. Most of my family have been avoiding me like the plague, and will continue to I think, until I become better at putting a happy face on.
Anyway, I do feel better knowing that there will be someone here who will listen, who will care, and who won't judge me for not being over it. Thank you, because you truly have made a huge difference today.

Cat
xxx

 

[Caroline]

Hi hun, sorry for your loss. I do think ppl don't always know what to say, especially if it's something they haven't been through.

My mum was totally useless, my MIL brill & one of the women I work with was fantastic too. My boss was very understanding but his wife had been thru it too. @ around 2 weeks I had a day similar to you, I actually had to leave work. I think it was in part due to hormones. Since then I've had lots of up & down days.

One of my co- workers has just lost a baby @ 20 weeks, and although I am still dealing with my loss I did text her several times knowing what she is going through (although I lost little bean @ 8 weeks).

I don't think it is ever something you truly get over. At hte end of the day you have lost your child. Life will return to normal & hopefully someday soon you will blessed with a lo, but I don't think you will ever forget your little bean.

I think af has arrived for me thoday, but the past few days I've felt very weepy (in fact I left work @ lunchtime yesterday). I'm hoping that now my hormones have hopefully got back to some sort of normal tht I'll feel better (although still sad when I think about my little bean).

Take time out to look after yourself & don't feel bad for not "getting over it".

 

[maj0079]

I can't offer words of wisdom because I lost those 4 days ago. Time will heal and hormones do crazy things. i am sorry for your loss and know how it goes, mine is fresh and I don't know how it's going to go.