Just found out I am pregnant after MC in May

[MrsGax]

Hello! I am B. This is my 3rd pregnancy, no children. My first pregnancy ended in MMC April 2011, D&C in May 2011. My second pregnancy was twins and the only pregnancy that I ever saw the HB. It ended this past May with MMC and Misoprostol. It was a nightmare and I am not completely over it. We got tested for everything including a karyotype of our chromosomes and everything came back normal. We were planning on waiting until November-January to try again but I just found out I am pregnant the other day. I feel very nervous. I am basically not taking it seriously. I am taking my prenatals, but I just am not even thinking about it much. I won't go to the dr until the end of October because I figure if it goes bad again, it will be bad by then already and I will not have to see the HB again That really messed me up. I saw the HB 3x. One twin had no HB at the first ultrasound. I guess I am just looking for support from women who have experienced this. Am I normal for not feeling attachment at all? I just honestly do not care. I have not missed my period yet, so I keep thinking maybe it is a chemical and I am starting to feel bad for these feelings. I will not even do a due date calculator because I just do not want to have another EDD that I have to get through if I MC again. January 7th, 2014 was the EDD of my twins... and I am still waiting to get through that day. Thank you for listening!

 

[Topanga053]

I think that's completely normal. I have not been through nearly as much as you (one prior loss, which was a blighted ovum diagnosed at 9 weeks last year), but when I first found out I was pregnant this time, I was incredibly detached. I took my prenatals, but I didn't plan ahead and I refused to figure out when my due date was. Even at my first ultrasound, I asked the tech not to give me the EDD in case we lost it again because getting through the due date of my first loss was incredibly difficult emotionally. Family members who knew kept asking if we had talked about names or what sex we wanted or what we were going to do for daycare, etc etc. And I thought they were all crazy for thinking so far ahead.

If you need to be detached, go ahead. Sometimes that's the only way some women can get through it. If things progress well, you'll start getting emotionally involved as soon as you're ready. Best of luck to you for a H&H 9 months... you certainly deserve it!!

 

[MrsGax]

I think that's completely normal. I have not been through nearly as much as you (one prior loss, which was a blighted ovum diagnosed at 9 weeks last year), but when I first found out I was pregnant this time, I was incredibly detached. I took my prenatals, but I didn't plan ahead and I refused to figure out when my due date was. Even at my first ultrasound, I asked the tech not to give me the EDD in case we lost it again because getting through the due date of my first loss was incredibly difficult emotionally. Family members who knew kept asking if we had talked about names or what sex we wanted or what we were going to do for daycare, etc etc. And I thought they were all crazy for thinking so far ahead.

If you need to be detached, go ahead. Sometimes that's the only way some women can get through it. If things progress well, you'll start getting emotionally involved as soon as you're ready. Best of luck to you for a H&H 9 months... you certainly deserve it!!

Thank you so much and I am sorry for your loss as well. Yea, I do not even want a first ultrasound until the end of October/early november. I am not calling my Dr. If something is going to go wrong again, there is nothing anyone can do to stop it so going to the Dr is pointless. We also are not telling ANYONE in our lives this time. Not until we are like 2nd tri (if it makes it that far) cause at that point, there would be no way to pretend like it doesn't exist. I hate MC and the fear it brings. When we first got pregnant, we told EVERYONE. The entire world. Then MC around 9 weeks. Last time, same thing. MC around 8-9 weeks. Always measuring behind. Just not worth it for me to deal with the emotional turmoil again.. at least not yet.

 

[ButterflyK]

B lots of for you. I know how hard it is to get excited after a few loses I just took it one day at a time tried to eat right and take prenatals. I never got to see a hb on my two loses so when I seen one this time it still didn't give me the hope or excitement you expect at all. I have had a 7 week 8 week 12 week and 17 week ultrasound and everything has been perfect but I still worry even got a doppler to hear heartbeat and now I am starting to feel kicks. I think anyone who has had a lose is robbed of the pure joy and innocence of pregnancy that women who never had a lose can't understand. I think its normal for all of us with loses.

 

[MrsGax]

B lots of for you. I know how hard it is to get excited after a few loses I just took it one day at a time tried to eat right and take prenatals. I never got to see a hb on my two loses so when I seen one this time it still didn't give me the hope or excitement you expect at all. I have had a 7 week 8 week 12 week and 17 week ultrasound and everything has been perfect but I still worry even got a doppler to hear heartbeat and now I am starting to feel kicks. I think anyone who has had a lose is robbed of the pure joy and innocence of pregnancy that women who never had a lose can't understand. I think its normal for all of us with loses.

Thank you so much. It is very hard. I am taking prenatals and eating right. I am not being as crazy as I have been with the last pregnancies about like not eating this or cutting out coffee 100%... I always did everything right and it never got me anywhere. I do not want an ultrasound until I am around 10+ weeks because if something goes wrong, it is usually over by 9 weeks. I just cannot see the HB and then have another loss. So I am waiting until October to even call the dr. Congratulations on your pregnancy! that gives me hope for my pregnancy. Maybe my 3rd is my charm as well! I am sure I will get a doppler as well. I just want to make sure that the little one is healthy. Then again, there is nothing we can do... it is just for peace of mind. Losses definitely do rob us women of the joy of pregnancy. When I see that BFP, I get a lot of anxiety cause it scares me. Thank you for your response

 

[Minnie Mummy]

Just wanted to wish you all the best for this pregnancy.
I have had 7 m/c's so don't give up hope.
I am taking aspirin. I would recommend it.

 

[vixie27]

I had 3 losses in a row, 1 missed misscarriage, 1chemical and 1 misscarriage at 10 weeks I am now 18 weeks with a baby girl I also have 2 living children too. Don't lose hope!! This time I did what I should like take my vits, no alcohol etc but detached myself emotionally from my pregnancy until 16 weeks. Good luck xx

 

[classy b]

Hi mrs gax I'm petrified this time round I had a natural mc June 22nd 13 I only got to 5weeks so I'm dreading next week coming and after if I get that far, just trying to stay calm any tips girls ?