worrywart17
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Hey, thought I'd introduce myself. Just found out the other day that I'm pregnant. First month of trying - well, went on holiday and had lots of holiday sex. Really didn't expect it to happen so fast - in fact, I thought I was infertile as periods had become SO light with age (31, nearly 32) that I was just waiting to show my BBT measurements and check I wasn't ovulating. So a little surreal....
Excited and happy but also a little worried on two counts - which is kind of hampering my happiness.
I did the whole drink til you're pink thing (and so stressed I drank most nights a little bit) but two nights of a bottle of wine a night past potential two week's post ovulation date - had really thought I was infertile, like I said, and by time of missed period testing daily but so irregular and had coming on symptoms. Also had about 4 cigs over those days as SO stressed with work.
Feel so reckless and guilty now, and that I don't deserve the baby.
Also feel worried about work - had a career change and finally in the right industry but it pays so little despite me working long days. I got contacted about another marketing job at another agency for a lot more pay but now think I probably can't take it. So worried I will now be stuck in a rubbish paid at high stress for my pregnancy, with no way out. I feel like I have failed career-wise and don't want to set an example of how not to do at your career to my child. Equally, always spoken of doing something for myself, but maybe I am just being unrealistic.
Deep down, I may have put it off longer if I'd known it could happen so fast so that I could establish my career. And now I feel SO guilty about not being 100% excited, especially as my SIL has been trying for 2 years.
Have other people made careers work after children - going from unsuccessful, bottom of the rung to an okay job when they go back to work?
Is it normal to feel mixed and worried, despite really wanting a baby? I LOVE kids and an a natural with them, but I also worry about being a shit mum - I'm useless at life, severely disorganized and so messy. I will provide lots of love and laughter, but may let them down.
Excited and happy but also a little worried on two counts - which is kind of hampering my happiness.
I did the whole drink til you're pink thing (and so stressed I drank most nights a little bit) but two nights of a bottle of wine a night past potential two week's post ovulation date - had really thought I was infertile, like I said, and by time of missed period testing daily but so irregular and had coming on symptoms. Also had about 4 cigs over those days as SO stressed with work.
Feel so reckless and guilty now, and that I don't deserve the baby.
Also feel worried about work - had a career change and finally in the right industry but it pays so little despite me working long days. I got contacted about another marketing job at another agency for a lot more pay but now think I probably can't take it. So worried I will now be stuck in a rubbish paid at high stress for my pregnancy, with no way out. I feel like I have failed career-wise and don't want to set an example of how not to do at your career to my child. Equally, always spoken of doing something for myself, but maybe I am just being unrealistic.
Deep down, I may have put it off longer if I'd known it could happen so fast so that I could establish my career. And now I feel SO guilty about not being 100% excited, especially as my SIL has been trying for 2 years.
Have other people made careers work after children - going from unsuccessful, bottom of the rung to an okay job when they go back to work?
Is it normal to feel mixed and worried, despite really wanting a baby? I LOVE kids and an a natural with them, but I also worry about being a shit mum - I'm useless at life, severely disorganized and so messy. I will provide lots of love and laughter, but may let them down.
