Just in total shock...

[usafheroswife]

My husband and I have LTTTC for a year and a half naturally, CM charting... I have Von Wilobrans clotting, menoraghhia, dysmenorhia, ovarian cysts. Before him I had 2 m/c (both relationships ended b/c of m/c's. I am now 28 and he has been adamant about a family of his own and even in our wedding vows I promised him I would whatever it took to make his dreams come true. As we are at a year and a half I figured we should both see dpctors. I had everything done (minus u/s) to check for cysts or if ovaries were even there as my mother had one burst due to cyst at 20 but had me at 26 and twins at 28 all natural. I thought after this long and all my tests check out normal, I thought he should have spermanalysis. We got the call a few hours ago and go figure, he is perfectly normal across the board. In one phone call I feel like my world has come undone. I have always wanted to be a mom, but more than that with as hard as my husband works and the insanely amazing person he is, the problemMIGHT.BE.ME! I just don't know how to take this. I now have appointments for myself that I never even thought were a possibility, and and he is sound asleep taking it just fine and I am completely falling apart and it's not even set in stone. I want to give him his family he has been waiting his entire life for (he is 33) and he has already served his country for 13 years and supports us financially and me emotionally. What would I even do if I couldn't even give the only thing he has waited so long for? He says we will be fine relationship wise, but I wont be. I can't let him waste his time with someone who can't give what he desires most, his own child. He said, "But I wanted you first so we will find other ways," and I just feel guilty because I want it to be us, and what point would there be to being with me if I can't give him the only thing he has ever asked for other than my love and support? I am just so lost right now...

 

[arizonagal]

Hugs! Just remember that it's not your fault if something is wrong with you-it's just nature! It sounds like he's a great guy and I'm sure your doc will have suggestions for you-there is always adoptions and surrogates-you will find a way to make a family!

 

[laustiredttc]

it sounds as though you have a great husband who loves you unconditionally. Don't think that as its not happening you dont deserve to be with him because put simply its not true. He loves you for you and not what you can or cannot give him for the moment. It will happen hun, it might even take a while but it will bring you two closer and when you do have your little miracle you will be an amazing family unit. Good luck and best wishes

 

[Pinkie 33]

Hi, I can see this from the other side as in our case, the problem is with him. The way I see it is I know that he is the only man I ever want to be the father of my children and if it cant happen, then so be it, we will find an alternative. I dont want to be with anyone else and certainly wont leave if it cant happen with him. I am desperate for our family, but ours only and not at any cost.

I'm sure your husband feels the same way about you and so you have to dig deep and be stong. You can get through it together.

 

[Mads10]

Don't panic yet!! I know this might not sound very helpful but after speaking to my doctor about similar concerns regarding my fertility, she was very reassuring and have discovered since that there are so many things they can do for womens fertility. Especially as you already seem to know so much about yourself and your health.
As the other ladies have said, your bloke sounds like he is super supportive and lovely. Exactly what is needed!!
I am with Pinkie 33 on this one, my husband and I both have problems but we have only just found out about his recently and it is so difficult to come to terms with. I feel like if I don't find the positives I will literally drive myself crazy!